i dated this guy for 2 yrs . he broke it off with me in aug. now he sais he gay, how can i turn him on if i am only writing him? can i turn him back straight? HELP ME!!!!
2006-12-09 21:20:17 · 21 answers · asked by Lani 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
okay, he broke up with me i am still madly in love w/him we have 2 babies together and he's 17 what does he know? just give me some good tips on how to turn him on so he will come back to his family!! no smart-*** comments it pisses me off!
2006-12-09 21:27:38 · update #1
okay fine maybe he dosnt want me but he should at least be around for our kids sake.
2006-12-09 21:39:06 · update #2
i have to add that i found out he was after he broke up with me by looking on his f-ing myspace!
2006-12-09 21:48:58 · update #3
Unfortunately there is no easy way. It is possible, but,,, it really is an excercise in futility. See, the problem is, he's been with women. He's "been there, done that." If he enjoyed it all that much, he never would have gone the other way. Now I could see some exploration, some testing of salt waters out of his fresh water pool. But if that were the case, you probably wouldn't have known about it. What happened is he got into that salt water, and he liked it. More than the fresh water. Dang. So convincing him to go back to the fresh,,, just doesn't really happen. Your only chance is to douse him with fresh water and see if he'll realize that that's better. But because he left your fresh water, he's probably not coming back to your pool. I'm sorry, it is a tragic loss.
2006-12-09 21:28:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't "turn" someone gay or straight. Either they are, or they aren't. It may be that he wasn't sure before, but has now realized that he is gay. Or maybe he's not sure of his sexuality and is still trying to find out. Either way, sexually he is what he is, and there is nothing you can say or do that will change whether or not he is attracted to women. Don't try to change him back to being straight - you will be wasting your time and will end up with a broken heart. If you want to stay in his life, then it will have to be as a supportive friend.
I feel badly for you... my best friend went through something similar. She was with her boyfriend for 5 years, lived with him for 3 of those, and they got engaged. A few months later, he broke it off with her, and a year later she found out that he was dating guys. He was gay all along, but wasn't admitting it to himself or anyone else, and I guess thought that if he ignored it and tried to be straight, things would somehow work out. Lucky for her, it didn't happen after they got married!
It's hard to believe now, but it's good that your ex was honest with you, and that things with him didn't go on farther or for longer than they did. He's not the right guy for you, but the right guy is out there and have faith that you will meet him someday. Good luck to you.
2006-12-09 21:40:32 · answer #2 · answered by sodagoat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you stupid? Being gay is not something you can turn on and off. It's not a "choice" or a "lifestyle". It's who the guy is. If it was a choice, why on earth would he want to join a group of people who are generally ridiculed, humiliated, even violently hurt, blamed for AIDS, and shunned by the majority of the population? If he had a choice, it sounds like he made a pretty stupid choice if you asked me.
Asking him to be straight is like asking you to become a lesbian. Why can't you be a lesbian? Why don't you like girls? Why why why?!?!? It's just not who you are. You can't explain why. You just like guys. Well, he can't explain it to you either.
The guy is gay. Why can't he be straight? Because he is GAY. He is not asking you to become a lesbian, so stop asking him to become straight. Get over it. There are plenty of other fish in the sea.
You'll probably be surprised to know, there are more straight men than gay ones, so the odds are in your favor.
2006-12-09 21:33:47 · answer #3 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since HE broke up with YOU, maybe he is just TELLING you he is gay just to get you off his back!
In other words, honey: gay or straight, he doesn't want YOU! Take the hint and plan your life accordingly!
2006-12-09 21:33:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's lost to you forever, move on.
I hope you are seriously not 17 and have two babies, good luck!
I hope he's there for his kids at least.
2006-12-09 22:30:22 · answer #5 · answered by LC 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry sweetie but if he's gay then theres nothing you can do to change that. you just need to try to get over him, not easy but its the only option im afraid. good luck x
2006-12-09 21:24:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay why would you want him back? If the man chose another man over you than thats where he needs to be.
2006-12-09 21:22:45 · answer #7 · answered by sexy_n_chicago 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
appears like he's doing the terrific that he can precise now,if u truly love him then be information and supportive and that i think of you will the two be happy interior the tip. remember,human beings could be very stupid and bigoted whilst it comprises an basic factor like human sexuality.
2016-10-14 09:33:49 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whaaaaat... um, are you saying he chose to be gay? When did you choose to be straight? yeah, that was the same day he chose to be gay, except he might not have realized it until now. GROW UP
2006-12-09 21:24:05 · answer #9 · answered by High On Life 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just grow some hair on your arrse and speak deeper than normal. Good luck
2006-12-09 21:24:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋