I'm 21, my ex and I have been broken up for 6 months now because we use to fight alot but it was over stupid immature stuff. I thought I was gonna end up marrying her and for 3 months when we were together that bothered me cause I lost my virginity to her and I thought I would never get the chance to "see what it was like with other people." She had three partners before me and that never bothered me but I had people telling me it was important to have other lovers before you get married, I bought into it so much and I still do thats why were not together..I love her and ive missed her so much, these last past 6 months have been dreadful, she wants to get back together now but I'm afraid if I do I will still want to be with other people, its not what I want to be with other people but im afraid if I dont get out and "experiment" I may regret it later..When I go out I love the thought of being single but I still miss her..I feel like im in a lose lose situation. any help here?
2006-12-09 20:33:09 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
naw stay away
2006-12-09 20:34:50 · answer #1 · answered by eca1094 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you really really love someone you DONT want to be with other people. You feel like they are all you need in life and nothing else. You wouldnt want to be single. You would want to be with her every second of everyday and if you're apart for the shortest minute you would miss her and do everything you can to see her as soon as possible.
IF you dont feel this way then maybe your love isnt as real as you think it is? but hey, what do i know. Im just a 17 year old. But good luck.
2006-12-09 20:38:08 · answer #2 · answered by Ashley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have had sex with her - that was a big mistake listeing to those liberals and jerks.
You don't sound mature enough, or have your act together enough for women. You need to be a man and stand apart from the sea-of-all-alike clueless idiots out there. It doesn't sound me like you have your act together.
OTOH, if you can understand this and want to re-enter this as a wholesome, strong relationship, then talk to her and see what you can do. You should start by not giving any credence to most of the other idiotic answers appearing here.
2006-12-09 20:35:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I even have been divorced for 10 years. My ex substitute into an exceedingly untrue guy and harm me interior deeply. in spite of the incontrovertible fact that, if I had it to do another time, i could have stayed with him for our youngster's sake. Visitation, custody battles, mediation, new child help -- what a load of ... properly, i won't be in a position to declare the be conscious. All i understand is, she loves him. She loves me. She have been given torn aside as quickly as we divorced. I desire that finally we could have held it jointly. there is not any longer something greater valuable available. he's now in yet another unhappy marriage, and that i'm an unhappy, on my own single woman. i think of its unhappy that we could no longer carry it jointly for her. that's no longer a politically customary concept, yet you recognize what? adult males, the youngsters come first. each time.
2016-12-18 10:42:38 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to have to say this, but you're too young to settle down yet. You may miss her but you obviously want to experience being single. You're married a very long time, so be single and enjoy yourself first. You won't get another chance once you're committed to someone and have kids and a mortgage!
2006-12-09 20:39:56 · answer #5 · answered by ladybird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, you broke up with the love of your life because your FRIENDS told you that you haven't had enough sexual experience and now you're miserable.
You poor baby.
Firstly, don't bother trying to get back with her because no woman in her right mind would take you back after you broke up for such a selfish and stupid reason.
Secondly, get rid of your scumbag friends.
You're getting exactly what you deserve.
2006-12-09 20:41:52 · answer #6 · answered by Voodoid 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Steer clear of the old flame. Search for singles in your area now! I won't provide a link because I hate those damm dating websites.
2006-12-09 20:36:08 · answer #7 · answered by Cold Fart 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd wait a little longer......rebuild that relationship by starting out as friends....and go from there.
You don't sound like your ready to be tied down...(so to speak)
If you're afraid that you're going to miss out of something you'll only blame her in the end...
Start out slowly and as friends...see where it goes.
best wishes.....Hey listen to your heart not your friends....you're making your future not them.
2006-12-09 20:56:20 · answer #8 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think with your big head and your heart, not your stick!
You could lose the woman you love over sex, can you live with that decision?
2006-12-09 22:49:33 · answer #9 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes there's help... quit being a bone head.. If you love her then what does it matter whether or not you sleep with other people.. doesn't sound like love to me..
2006-12-09 20:55:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you get back with her...you have to be just with her and dont think about experimenting...if she is really important to you you will choose her...and you are not sure if you will get married....you are just 21...if you are not sure about getting back with her star dating and see how is it ..if you dont like it and cant stop thinking about your ex....than you really should be with her...think about it
2006-12-09 20:37:17 · answer #11 · answered by -- 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋