I live very modestly. A bit on the high end of middle class would be a good description. I've been dating someone nearly four months. A wonderful person with a wonderful family. I believe our relationship is about to become sexual, probably leading to being permanent. (I really enjoy having her around a lot.)
My problem is that I don't know how, or when, to tell her that my net worth isn't exactly middle class. That it's more like in the eight figures range. I've never been in the position where I needed to explain it to anyone. I really can't figure out when is the right time or what is the right way to tell her about it.
If you were a person in "her" position. When do you feel it would be the right time in the relatiionship to tell you? I think we're past the "too soon" part, she'll know I'm not trying to impress her. But I also think there's a "should have told her before this place" line too. I just can't figure out where it is. I appreciate your suggestions.
2006-12-09 20:31:17 · 10 answers · asked by Will 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-12-09 20:35:15 · answer #1 · answered by George Pavladis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you are a multimillionaire if I understand you correctly. Any girl's dream come true, and she doesn't even know! Wow, you are a lucky man!
You will have to mention your net worth if you two plan on getting married, a smart thing to do will be a pre-nuptial agreement, that would be soon enough to start talking about money.
Don't fret already, just enjoy being in love--everything else will fall into place. Good luck!
2006-12-10 04:40:25 · answer #2 · answered by prairiegurrl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is the money issue so important.....
Money doesn't make the relationship.
What you have with her is far more important than that.
If you think she is going to judge you by what you have or don't
you are with the wrong person.
I wouldn't worry about it.
Just go on with your relationship as you have and when the time is right.....tell her. I don't really think there is a right time or wrong....a dinner to talk about $ isn't right or even planning a date..just doesn't cut it
However if you plan to marry her....you could go into I plan to be able to be with you and always be able to take care of you...then talk about it....
Unless you are truly hiding that you are of Royal blood or something, its no big deal
Best wishes
Just my thoughts....one of those girls that never thought money could buy happiness......only security
2006-12-10 04:42:55 · answer #3 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money issues come only once you start combining your money - i.e., after marriage (or atleast just before it). Until then, you do not necessarily need to broach the topic unless she brings it up first. Besides, this is a pleasant surprise - it's not liek youre gonna reveal that you're neck deep in debt (that indicates an irresponsible person). So I wouldn't worry about it too much unless an occasion arises in which you feel it better to reveal your money to her.
2006-12-10 06:16:20 · answer #4 · answered by kingdom_of_gold 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if she loves u then the money thing should be ok weather or not u have money , she doesent need to be such a money freak either, money isnt everything , and true love is respected and understood, so if you whant to talk to her about money i think you should do this now before it gets more serious so that way you two can make desicions now. dont hesitate too mutch on it. and imperssion shouldnt matter like i said if she loves u then she wouldnt care.
2006-12-10 04:41:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't tell her just yet, it's too soon for that I think.
You want to make sure she likes you for you and not your money right?
Before you get married, do yourself a huge favor, get a pre-nup.
2006-12-10 06:52:31 · answer #6 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you economic situation is personal information that she shouldn't know till and if you get married. So its a non subject till then. If you really have that much cash be careful of them gold digging women.
2006-12-10 04:36:40 · answer #7 · answered by XC220 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
simple solution send me some of your $ then u will be middle class and the issue won't need to be addressed
2006-12-10 04:33:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think it's any of her business? You aren't getting married, just dating, don't fret over such insignificant stuff.
2006-12-10 04:35:52 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let your money be an issue. If she cares about you, it shouldn't matter either way. She's dating you, not your wallet.
2006-12-10 04:50:31 · answer #10 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋