I am messing around w/ this guy who has a gf. We have been messing around even before he met her but there is a lot of sexual chemistry between us. We've never had sex (everything but) until up about a week ago and I see him often and get very sexually aroused when I'm around him. Tonight, some how or another, there were a bunch of people in his house and they ended up leaving, leaving me and him alone in the livingroom. He still wants me and he knows I want him and he pulls out his penis and begins to masturbate and wanted to fool around! I was shocked bc his gf was sleeping in the next roomand I don't want her to know. Luckliy one of his dudes came over and he put in away real quick but he was totally expecting us to mess around! After we had sex he acted all ackward and scared bc he's paranoid about his gf and **** now he's trying to do in his in own apartment w/ her there!
2006-12-09 20:23:15 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have no romantic feelings for this guy I do not wnat them to break up he is just a friend w/ benefits
2006-12-09 20:23:58 · update #1
Dick is easy to get and easy to replace. If you are uncomfortable with the situation with his girlfriend, it's not worth it. I had this ****buddy once who was a fairly good friend of mine. The sex lasted for about a month, but I ended it the second he got a girlfriend. It wasn't that the fact of his girlfriend made him less attractive to me, on the contraire, forbidden fruit is much more fun. But I was cheated on once, and I know how horrible and degrading it is. I refused to be the reason another girl would have to go through that. He never had the balls to find another ****buddy, and he and his girlfriend are still together and happy. I know it sucks to walk away from great sexual chemistry, but honestly, I would suggest finding another penis with a different dude attached. If you have fantastic sexual chemistry with one guy, you'll be able to find it with another.
2006-12-09 20:32:00 · answer #1 · answered by ms dont panic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-05 03:04:21 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By attempting to fool around in the same apartment as his girlfriend, I'd venture to guess that he has confidence that his relationship could survive cheating. Whether this is the case can't be known until it happens to be found out. (That by the way, is the logical conclusion, whether it happens now or ten year from now. She will eventually find out.)
The only thing I can suggest is asking him to come clean with his gf and remind her that you and him a) have no romantic feelings, and b) you and him have been doing it since before they got together.
Under man-law, this usually means first dibs and that his gf is the one he's cheating with. This is rarely enforced, however. (This is a joke, btw)
The best win-win situation is status quo (how things are) with the modification that a) the girlfriend knows and allows what's going on to continue, and b) the girlfriend understands that he loves her and that he's never going to dump the girlfriend for you. [Note: While this is only one possible solution, it's the one I tend to favor most.]
(This is what can be considered a ployamorous relationship and those have been known to work even after marriage.)
2006-12-09 21:14:50 · answer #3 · answered by Jack Schitt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is so completely wrong of you. You know how big of a fool you and he are making his girlfriend out to be? She's all lovey dovey with him, thinking they've got this great relationship when he's messing around on her all along. Oh my. I would be so hurt to be in that girls position. If you have no romantic feelings for him then you need to let him go! Did you ever consider that maybe SHE might have feelings for him romantically and in every other way?? & if it were me, I would tell her about it. Because if he's not cheating with you, then he'll more than likely go on to someone else and cheat and i would hate knowing that this dude is cheating on his gf & not even saying anything about it.
2006-12-09 20:28:37 · answer #4 · answered by Ashley 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ive been the other girl, the one who the boyfriend comes home to. And i have non abusive advice, don't mess with other peoples mess. You ll only ever be a bit of fun, sexually chemistry equalls nothing and the fact hes trying to put his penis in you face with her in the next room says exactly what he thinks of you, you ll be the one who gets cast a side when she gets suspicious, everyone will point the finger and laugh at you, and she will walk away with a halo. Trust me, walk away, you dont have to tell her about what you've done, but respect yourself and then when the **** hits the fan at least you can say YOU ended it
2006-12-09 20:40:39 · answer #5 · answered by kathycracksit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't really care about this guy, find another friend with benefits.
He sounds like a complete wanker and if you dont care too much for him, what's the point in making his girlfriend unhappy & creating unwanted tension? There will be plenty of others that you have good chemistry with and they won't have a girlfriend in the next room. It all sounds a bit too jerry springer to me, don't you reckon? Have a look at yourself from outside the situation... little bit too inbred, small town, interference really.. get a proper sex life that involves no unwanted passengers.
2006-12-09 20:37:36 · answer #6 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no problem w. casual sex if that's what both people want, but I do have a problem with lying/cheating/sneaking around. Which is what this is. It's more his fault than yours--he's the one in the relationship, he's the one who's cheating--but why would you want to take yourself down to his level? You are better than that. Go find somebody who hasn't committed to someone else, and have fun.
2006-12-09 20:27:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just as long as you know that there are no strings attached then go ahead and have fun, but with sex it start off all casual but in the long run it will hurt when you see him with his steady girlfriend and it's quite obvious that he only considers as a f*uck buddy if you know what you want and he knows his stuff than play on but know that you are playing with fire...
2006-12-09 20:38:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If You dont want to Break them Up,
Then stop messing around with him.
2006-12-09 20:25:43 · answer #9 · answered by Latino_Lifestyle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I consider myself a pretty open-minded person, but I think what he is doing is sick, and shows that he has absolutely no respect for you. Even if you don't care about him, don't you care enough about yourself not to let someone treat you worse than he would a prostitute?
2006-12-09 20:28:18 · answer #10 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋