I have chose to stay at home and i have a wonderful husband that works very hard at what he does for a living and we do not suffer in the money department.
So my question is why is it you people look down on stay at home moms? Is it your jealous or you have to work cause no one will help you?
Wondering.....Thanks
2006-12-09 20:22:06 · 17 answers · asked by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I stay at home with my two kids. It's been great for my children and I love all the extra time I get with them. Who cares what other people think.
2006-12-10 09:20:08 · answer #1 · answered by honeybear 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it is wonderful to be a stay at home mom. For the first six months I will be. I have found (not in all instances by any means) that children with stay at home moms tend to be smarter because of the one on one. As I said not in all instances by any means but by observance that they are highly intelligent because the parent has put time into their child. This doesn't put down working mothers either, they work hard to provide for their children and their children can be just as smart. And as to a stay at home mother being lazy, I do not think that is the case. As I said at least for the first 6 months I will be there for our child. No one should say working mothers are bad for working or vice versa. I will do both. And you know what I do not care. My child will be taken care of and that is all that matters.
2006-12-10 06:09:26 · answer #2 · answered by Kelly s 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it is because women today are expected to do everything - work, childrearing, housekeeping, etc... But if someone just chooses one job, ie mother or career, we as a society are taken aback. I've done both the stay-at home & working mom thing, and would do anything to be able to again stay home with my children. Being an at-home mom is hard, but at least you can give your children the quality of care they deserve. I feel like I'm cheating my kids sometimes. So if anyone puts you down, dare them to do what you do.
2006-12-10 02:29:10 · answer #3 · answered by jetaunbraese 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'll tell you right now - I never put down a stay at home mom - America needs more of these
(I am jealous though)
I also think that "piepiepie" might would be a little more well adjusted and have a better attitude if her mommie had stayed at home and taught her empathy,understanding,respect for others,some MANNERS or if she had found a man good enough to be able to trust enough to quit your job and spend the time at home -anyway -forget her & good for you
2006-12-09 20:24:24 · answer #4 · answered by kim 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think most are just jealous. They only get to see their kid to feed, bathe and put them to bed and at the same time it costs $$$ for daycare. They end up having some high school drop out raise their kid!
To the pie chick-
You think the only thing stay at home moms have to talk about is their kid?? So does that mean that the only thing you have to talk about is your job? I don't know about others but I couldn't care less about hearing some body's ramblings about their job!!
Yeah- Women can do it all but if you don't have to why should we? You talk about SAHM's giving up themselves or whatever but if you are working 40+ hours a week plus the commute time, doing housework, errands, ect- it sounds as if YOU have given up way more of YOURSELF than we have. On the other hand, I have a clean house, a happy kid who goes to preschool 2x a week, time to cook great meals, all the errands done by the time my husband gets home, my kid gets to go to music class during the week and my husband and I have time to enjoy each other. Yeah- we have given up soooo much! *L*L*L* You sound like the pathetic one.
ETA:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AugxeDroZrZ_v3Y4LGO3hofsy6IX?qid=20061201194422AAofOIZ
I went back and read some of your previous questions and answers and I found this. You aren't anti- SAHM but you are actually anti-children so in reality you have no business answering this question. Good to know that you'll never breed though!
2006-12-10 06:01:52 · answer #5 · answered by Alison 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think it could either be jealousy or they think you're "throwing your ambitions away" because you're not searching for a perfect career where you can climb that corporate ladder and get public recognition. As if being the star in your child's life isn't rewarding enough! I have been a working mom and a SAHM and I can say being a SAHM is much more rewarding to me than working, but unfortunately we started out as a 2 income family and have to stay that way for awhile. Anyway, don't take their ignorant claims personally. If you and your family are happy with what you're doing, that's all that matters.
2006-12-10 02:25:41 · answer #6 · answered by chamely_3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a stay at home mother. I haven't really encountered anyone putting me down or making rude remarks. It's an honor to get to stay at home and witness all of my childs milestones. I absolutely love watching my daughter grow. It happens so fast and so many parents never realize just how fast it happens until they stop to think about it. I can empathize.
I have to add, being a stay at home mom leaves me exhausted. I do take care of all the housework and laundry. I write out checks to pay bills and I do all of the shopping.
I wouldn't change a thing. I think there are plenty of women who wouldn't change places with me. I don't feel as if people look down on me for staying home with my baby. They're probably in awe of me. We stay-at-homers are the closest thing to real life super-heros.
I do crave adult conversation sometimes. Thats just how it goes. =)
2006-12-09 20:48:50 · answer #7 · answered by Renny 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't-- I think it's great. The one's that put down stay at home mom's are the ones that don't know all that a stay at home mom does. It's a tough job, but those that stay home usually have kids and husbands who appreciate them more.. and let me tell you it's like an honor nowadays to be a stay at home mom. I would love to spend 24/7 with my son, but I have to miss all that cuz I have no one to help me. Keep up the good job and don't care what anyone says except your kids.
2006-12-09 20:27:41 · answer #8 · answered by Linda 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
People like to put down other people. It makes them feel more imporant. There is also probably an insecurity aspect of it. A good marriage is a somewhat rare thing and a lot of people don't have it. The idea that you would put yourself in a situation of dependence on a man is too much for some. They probably think you are stupid for doing it. (This is not to say that I think you are becoming dependent on a man for doing this, but that others think this way). That is scary for some. Fear drives people to hurt others.
2006-12-09 20:36:27 · answer #9 · answered by Erik B 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is because what you are doing makes feminists look bad.
You are a challenge to their goal of making women as much a threat to men as possible, to "pay them back" for all the evil they have supposedly done in the past.
So they have to insult you as much as possible, so fewer women will chose this as a lifestyle.
To them, you are selling out by doing anything at all that makes you look like you are being "submisive" to men.
It's absurd of course, because if you get a job and go to work, somebody has to raise those kids, so you're just replacing yourself with a day-care worker or baby sitter.
- In other words, another woman doing exactly the same work you are now doing at home.
How does that change anything?
2006-12-09 20:35:20 · answer #10 · answered by dork 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋