She isn't really confident in herself, and is always second guessing what she is doing... I want to help, I just don't know what I could do to help?
2006-12-09 19:36:51 · 13 answers · asked by Zach S 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She's always saying things like that is she overweight...
2006-12-09 19:41:14 · update #1
I applaud your desire to help your girlfriend. Before you start make sure she understands you are trying to help her and that you are on her side.
My first suggestion is to help her figure out what is the underlying cause of her lack of self confidence. Once you two understand what is the underlying cause of it and work on that then she and you have a chance to improve her self confidence.
But be aware she may want to improve herself but the problem could be such at she does not want to talk about it or figure out what is causing the lack of self confidence. The underlying issue could be one that she found extremely traumatic and cause her a great deal of pain.
My second suggestion would be to compliment her on things like how she looks and when she does something. Don't over do it but maybe a couple times a day. Make sure the compliment is sincere.
My third suggestion is when she starts second guessing herself, remind her gently she has made a decision and needs to stick to it. Usually if the decision was a big one or even a little one and she has thought about it then she has most likely chosen the best opinion for herself.
I don't know if any of these help or not but they are my suggestions. Good Luck to you and her.
2006-12-09 19:57:32 · answer #1 · answered by pj_gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the only thing you can do is be honest about your feelings for her. Her self esteem is something that she is going to have to work on herself. Tell her you love her, and that you'd like to see her treat herself better, and ask her to work on it. If her image of herself is a little irrational, maybe you can help her see the truth. She's got to gain her confidence herself, otherwise she will be dependent on you to make her feel good about herself. Be open with her, and maybe you'll be able to get her to see that she's too hard on herself.
2006-12-09 19:45:26 · answer #2 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of the sole element you're able to do is be honest approximately your thoughts for her. Her self-well worth is something that she is going to would desire to artwork on herself. tell her you like her, and which you may wish to ascertain her take care of herself greater effective, and ask her to artwork on it. If her photograph of herself is slightly irrational, perhaps you may help her see the fact. She's have been given to earnings her self assurance herself, in any different case she would be based on you to make her sense good approximately herself. Be open along with her, and perhaps you will have the flexibility to get her to ascertain that she's too annoying on herself.
2016-10-05 03:03:23 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you ended up with an attention seeker huh? She's not lacking self confidence, she's fishing dude...how you play this is up to you but I know what I would do, next time she asks if her dress makes her look fat, tell her the truth.
2006-12-09 19:44:43 · answer #4 · answered by patti duke 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that she's beautiful, shower her with love, if she tries a new look or outfit, compliment her for tryin, tell her specific things that you like or better yet love about her, she will appreciate it, and feel more confident in herself
2006-12-09 19:43:47 · answer #5 · answered by EbBz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't give up on her. It may take several years, But be kind and gentle. If she feels love she will start feeling better about herself.
2006-12-09 19:42:05 · answer #6 · answered by abby normal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
show her you really love her and be careful with what words you choose, be nice in every word you say as in more compliments, do things for her andagree with everything she thinks then she will have better confidence, atr least for the momnet with u.
2006-12-09 19:39:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At random time just tell her sweet things like she is the most attractive person you've ever dated just tell her nice building things
2006-12-09 20:12:50 · answer #8 · answered by magicboi386 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her support for the activities that she good on. encourage her, tell her that she can do it cos she best on it. try not to criticized her on her mistakes, just tell her the right way to do the things. u have to be on her side when ever she needs u
2006-12-09 19:47:11 · answer #9 · answered by biru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing you can do to help her change that.
She needs to find her own worth through accomplishing her own deeds.
You can encourage her to be a better person...then it's her choice.
2006-12-09 19:40:38 · answer #10 · answered by dynamoo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋