It's not OK in my religion and I stayed a virgin until I was 26. Then one day I said "Screw it. Everybody is doing it!" and I did it. I've never regretted a decision more.
Sex outside of marriage is not God's best for you. He asked that of us for a reason and I had to find that out the hard way.
I don't think my religion should change it's law. Turns out that God is pretty smart after all.
2006-12-09 19:24:13
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answer #1
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answered by Sheryl 4
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I'd like to offer a realistic other side to some of the comments.
A recent study showed that the number of religious people having sex before marriage was almost identical to those who were not religious. So regardless of what we're all saying that we believe, (I've said the same thing myself) the fact is, the same # of us are going ahead and doing it as non-believers. I did it, most of you did it, let's be honest. We may feel guilty about it afterwards, but we're all doing it anyway.
The other thing is, in ancient times people got married pretty much at puberty. There wasn't 10-20 years of solid temptation trying to be celibate like there is now. And marriage was pretty much instant. There was no ceremony, no ring, no dress, no license. Those are all inventions in modern times, mostly by the "wedding industrial complex" to get as much money out of newlyweds as possible.
The other thing is, those sins that are preached about most, are very culturally motivated.
For instance, there are bible verses against gluttony, against women worshiping without their heads being covered, etc.
How often do you hear those pop up in sermons? Never, because those things are no longer taboo in our modern culture.
How about all those verses slamming rich people? "It's easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle, than for a rich man to get into the Kindom of God".
In this present day of "everyone wants to be financially prosperous" (even though the Bible says NOTHING at all about that) that whole "rich = bad person" thing also doesn't get mentioned much anymore. If it did, all the biggest tithers in church woud drop out, and then we couldn't have all these big, nice ornate churces (which didn't even exist in the 1st century - the church was the people, not the building)
So, for the last few centuries sex=bad is "in", so that's what gets talked about more than those other things.
So it's a bit hypocritical to be as rigid as people are about this, in my opinion.
2006-12-09 19:52:55
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answered by dork 7
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I'm NOT religious and beleive that sex before marriage is not fine. But it's not so much as marriage as it is finding the right person. I mean marriage is only a paper, what matters is the bond. So it's all how you look at "marriage". for me, "marriage" is commitment- for more than a year. That counts. I don't know- it seems like ure trying to convince ureself that its not a bad thing, but honey it is. Just wait for the right person, not necessarily "marriage" as in the paper, just someone you've been with for a long time that will forever be with u in ure heart. Good luck :-)
2006-12-09 19:21:51
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answered by Anonymous
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I'm pretty strongly within my religion, but my religion believes that human happiness and the fulfilment of natural urges are part of the point of our lives. So, having sex, either before, during, or after marriage has never been against my religion.
2006-12-09 19:27:03
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answered by The Man Comes Around 5
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In the Victorian Times people acted as if sex never existed... nowadays, people act as if it's the only thing that ever existed. I personally feel it shows character and morality to wait until after marriage. Sex is a part of life... not all of it.
But bleh, that's just the level of some people's intellect. Point A to B and never worry about C... 2D.
2006-12-09 19:24:09
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answered by Chris 1
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I'm religious and I don't believe it is fine from a moral or common sense standpoint. It causes so many problems. Look at all the posts on this forum from girls/women who get pregnant and now have to face that enormous responsibility on their own. Sleeping around raises the risk of STDs also. I teach my daughters that virginity before marriage is the way to go.
2006-12-09 19:22:54
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answered by WonderWoman 5
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I am, and i do believe it's OK :)
in the old days, the way you proposed to a woman was asking her to bare your children (i know that seems stupid nowadays)
and by sleeping together that was the holy union, that means that weather a priest preformed the marriage before it happened or after, in Gods eye's you are now and forever married.
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are you talking about before marriage, Or just sleeping around?
If you are talking about just sleeping around, then No that is not Fine, i think that you should only "Make Love" with some one you are in love with, the person you are Married/Engaged to
2006-12-09 19:25:00
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answered by Anonymous
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I'm not accused of religious belief but the choice of using the natural resources of reproduction for pleasure is a personal choice as long as it is not illegal ... So use your best judgment .
Breeding like rats to promote religion is not moral to me either.
I would abstain from wasting too much on sex obsessions when there is a world to be conquered just waiting ....
peaceout
2006-12-09 19:25:02
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answered by dogpatch USA 7
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The law of my religion - insofar as my religion has laws regarding sexuality - can be best summed up as "everyone's willing and no one gets hurt." This means no manipulation, no abuse, no pedophilia or bestiality. It also means no sleeping with someone whose sexual morals are not compatible with premarital sex unless you're married to them, taking responsiblity for safety and contraception if needed, and for any children that might result.
Just something for you to think about, since you seem to think that all religions condemn premarital sex. For us, it's about people sharing the joy that sex can bring, and about not taking that pleasure lightly or locking it away behind doors of ritual and repression.
2006-12-09 19:36:19
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answered by triviatm 6
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God made sex for the pleasure of a married man and woman. Having relations outside of wedlock only increases the problems to the long term bonds of matrimony, regardless of your beliefs. Pre-marital sex never solves anything. Save your pent-up emotions and physical yearnings for the honeymoon. Plus, you show honor and respect to your perspective mate by waiting for your special moment together after the Wedding Reception.
2006-12-09 19:26:30
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answered by Illuminated 2
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