This girl told me she loved me & wrote poems to me, & love letters and buch more stuff for like almost 2 years, But back then I didnt LOVE her, I just liked her out all the girlz, Plus she was too young to date, 2 years pass by, & I really began to Adore her, We began to date & I fell deeply in Love with her, Everything was so perfect at first, Then we started breaking up & getting back together couple of times over stupid lil conflict and Rumors, We broke up agian, and this time its seriouse. I have tryed to Forget her and Move on but I cant, Shes in my mind 24-7, I cant Work, I cant have fun, I cant Sleep, I get like 2 to 3 hours of sleep, a night. When I see her my heart beats so Fast, Hard and I get the Butterflies. I cant enjoy life, My life is upside down, I tryed going to another state, meet other goodlooking girls, but that still dont work. I feel so depressed, I dont care about life anymore, I dont want to wakeup. I Love this Girl to death, & I mean Death! What can I do??????
2006-12-09 18:56:13 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You really have two options:
Get back together, start with a clean slate, and try to make things work. Maybe you have both learned from your mistakes.
or
Lie to yourself. It's hard, and it takes a long time, but if you lie to yourself enough, and tell yourself that you don't love her, eventually that lie will start to become the truth, sad though it is. It takes years, and I don't think you ever really truly bury the truth forever, but you can have a life. Be warned, though, that if you happen to run into her, sometime, even 20 years down the road, that all your lies and walls could come crumbling down, and it's going to hurt. A lot. And there's no telling which way things could go at that point. You could have your life totally destroyed a second time, or Fate might smile on you and give you a second chance together,
In the end, it's your choice, and no one else can make it for you, even though it would be so much easier if they could.
2006-12-09 19:03:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-07 16:25:21 · answer #2 · answered by Edmund 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heals all wounds. I've had girlfriends who I definitely loved and who I broke up with. A break up is always bad. And I felt depressed (especially when it wasn't me doing the breaking up) and lonely and I felt like I'd never be with someone else and I couldn't sleep, etc. And after a few weeks, I began to feel normal again. After a while (maybe a year or even longer), I'd meet someone else and start the process again. Between relationships, I'd feel happy and be okay with everything at some point.
Being depressed for a while is normal and everyone goes through that. But if you haven't moved on after a couple months, you may want to speak with a doctor about that. There isn't any woman who is worth going through what you describe for more than a couple months. No woman is that special. I'm not saying that you won't have feelings or weak moments even years later (I still have a few weak moments about a girl I broke up with in 1991 and I've way moved on since then). But if you are really depressed and have significant insomnia many months after you guys broke up, it isn't about her. It's about you and you need to consult a doctor about it. Go see your general practitioner first (who might give you something for anxiety and depression, which might just solve this). You may want to see a psychologist so you can talk this out. Also, I read somewhere that writing in a journal has the same therapuetic benefits that psychoanalysis has. So write in a journal. (Maybe this is why I answer so many of thse Yahoo! Answer questions.) Good luck, brother.
2006-12-09 19:11:09 · answer #3 · answered by Erik B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I didn't need to read your comments to answer your question
sometime in life we cant have what we really want ....PERIOD I know it suck and it is life but if you talk to her and see he point of view on the relationship and there is light and she wants things to work than of course you can work it out if not just know that it is not worse the struggle of wanting someone that does not want you I KNOW TS HARD I'M TRYING TO GET OVER MY X HE IS STILL MY LOVE BUT I KNOW EMOTIONALLY IT IS FOR THE BETTER
2006-12-09 19:04:14 · answer #4 · answered by Missbribri 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its impossible to forget someone ure crazy in love with. That's like trying to remember someone you don't know.
2006-12-09 18:57:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not going to be easy, but once time takes place, you'll eventually lose feelings.
2006-12-09 19:00:25 · answer #6 · answered by Greg S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bring her back to you.she might be inove with u still.
2006-12-09 19:00:09 · answer #7 · answered by lara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋