my girlfriend and i argue like everyday about things and know she kinda wants to break up with me cause we argue, but at the same time she doesnt want to lose me. i'm confused cause i dont want to lose her. but then the next day shes fine, then we argue again. we see each other every other day and talk on the phone everyday, and she says we dont see each other enough. i dont get it?
2006-12-09 18:31:29 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe she feels close enough to you to take out all her daily aggressions on you with arguments. I am kind of this way with my husband but he doesn't really argue with me, he just sees that my little nit-picking nasty comments moments aren't always about him but something small he might have done that just added to the rest of the things I am dealing with that day. For me, it's easier to take it out on someone who I know loves me and won't abandon me for it but I have some abandonment issues.
2006-12-09 18:39:13 · answer #1 · answered by chrissy757 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think you spend too much time together? Seems silly but it could be it. People are different. There are those that can be with a lover everyday and it be just fine. Then there are those that truly do love each other but really once a week together is perfect for them. Have you thought of maybe adding a day in there once in a while where you don't talk or adding a day in there where you talk but don't see each other? See how each of you reacts? You might think that seems silly but it might not be.
2006-12-10 02:37:48 · answer #2 · answered by Baby Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you see this relationship as beneficial and rewarding? It sounds like the two of you are mismatched. Staying together because it's familiar and more comfortable than being alone is not the answer. Have a heart felt talk with your girlfriend and try to work things out. If this pattern continues, you may need to break up.
2006-12-10 02:35:17 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a female thing we do it all the time some of us are just testing while others just wanna brake up but it sounds to me she is just testing you so try not to argue as much and see if things just dont go alil smoother ok and if they dont do what u feel is right
2006-12-10 02:39:38 · answer #4 · answered by alex b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit and talk to her, tell you hate arguing and refuse to argue anymore. If she starts say sweetie, please stop this, If she doesnt stop, tell her you will talk to her later and let her go kool off. If you think she wants to break up maybe she is just starting fights to get that end result.
2006-12-10 02:35:52 · answer #5 · answered by surfer_grl_ca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I reckon that the bottom line in a relationship is this... if you both feel better about yourself by being around the other, it's good. If you feel worse when you are around each other, it's bad.
If the latter is the case, you will never fix it.
2006-12-10 02:35:14 · answer #6 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try by not arguing with her. Let her win. Open up your mind. Then your relationship wont get so up tight.
2006-12-10 02:34:09 · answer #7 · answered by ♥♥Pro♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋