We both live here in the states & he's been here for three yrs. We live 9 hours apart but his parents live in my hometown. He comes here to visit several times a year. I would visit him but he hasn't really asked me yet. We danced around the subject once when he was injured & he said that he was flattered that I would drive 9 hours just to take care of him. Is this a good thing?
2006-12-09 18:23:55 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What? A good thing? You have a guy who lives nine hours from you, only sees you when he comes to visit someone else (his folks) and hesitates when you suggest that you come to him, and yet you ask if this is a good thing? This is not a good thing..my male instincts tell me to tell you to drop this dude like a bad habit. What's he hiding nine hours away? What, is it the sex? You don't have any, this guy lives nine hours away! Is it the accent? This country is crawling with Brits, I tripped over a couple on my way home tonight! You need to stop living in a fantasy...a nine hour distant relationship does not exist. You need a reality based relationship, a down the street or around the corner sort of relationship...even if you have to settle for a Southern drawl (which, with a little alcohol in you, can almost sound British now and again.)
2006-12-09 18:32:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys are awed that a woman would do something for them.
Some guys wonder what 'strings' come with that open offer.
A few guys are lucky enough to get them all the time, and it lessens it for the rest of us depending upon what they do when it happens.
Regardless of where your 'Brit' falls in on the above, go for it.
It is better to find out where you stand finally then to continue waiting. If it works out, GREAT..!!! If it doesn't there is probably someone right next to you that would appreciate the attentions just as easily.
2006-12-09 18:29:49 · answer #2 · answered by wolf560 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because he was flattered that you would drive 9 freakin hours to see him (pretty lame) does not mean he likes you.
long distant relationships are hard to make work so i say forget him. find a hottie around your hometown
2006-12-09 18:27:11 · answer #3 · answered by Atllas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously I think he is having a laugh with you mate - if he wanted you that much you would have already been to his place a longtime ago and are you not worried about what he is getting up to 9 hours drive it sounds fishy to me?
2006-12-09 18:28:21 · answer #4 · answered by deb_star_82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to know if this guy is interested so you need to ask!! when you next see him ask if he would like to catch a movie with you and see his response. Or ask him around to dinner when he is next visiting his family so you get a chance to talk. If he avoids meeting up i think you will have to look else where
2006-12-09 21:05:18 · answer #5 · answered by kate c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh why then has he not informed you that he would be flattered if you agreed to be his. Honestly, just tell him instead of waiting yeah.
2006-12-09 18:29:45 · answer #6 · answered by Switz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he really intrested with you? Guess you better find a guy who lives nearer to you girl!
2006-12-09 18:26:42 · answer #7 · answered by ♥♥Pro♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋