I really like this girl. we have talked about our relationship but its goin to go nowhere b/c she likes this guy that she works w/ more than me. she did date this guy earlier this year but something happened and it ended. she was pissed about it for a long time and now she wants to get back w/ him. she doesnt wanna go out w/ me cause she thinks that she doesnt deserve me and that she also doesnt wanna hurt me. we ARE still friends and we hang out some times (go to the movies usually). i wanna take this relationship further but she doesnt. should i continue to persue this or not? Im still in high school if that matters. a senior w/ 1/2 a year left.
2006-12-09 18:03:16 · 11 answers · asked by jmon 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the question is supposed to be "Am i makin a mistake?"
2006-12-09 18:05:43 · update #1
It sounds like she's not interrested in you. Why would you want to be with someone who likes another guy more? You deserve a girl that wants only you.
2006-12-09 18:05:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Not a chance. In fact, run like the wind. You're only there as a backup plan in case it doesn't work out with the guy she really wants. I know because I've been just where you are now. It sucks, it hurts and it's not fair because you're really just a way for her to have a soft landing if the man of her dreams dumps her. Just in case you weren't following - You Are Not The Man Of Her Dreams. If you were, she would have been all over you the second you told her that you wanted to take it to the next level. So, do yourself a favour and find a girl who wants you and needs you just like you need her. You deserve that. And frankly, this girl doesn't deserve you.
2006-12-10 00:12:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What? Wow, that's a new spin. But the point is she wants to get back with HIM and not YOU. Trust me, she just doesn't like you. She says she doesn't deserve you and she doesn't want to hurt you. Well, that could be half true. Either she doesn't want to hurt you, or she's trying to spare herself the guilt of telling you that she doesn't want to date you because she doesn't find you attractive. You should give up on this one. The odds are extremely slim that you have a chance here. On the bright side, now you know and can move on to brighter prospects. Good luck!
2006-12-09 18:10:02 · answer #3 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go. she is right she will hurt you emotionally she is still in love with that guy and nothing will change that you should find some other girl that likes you as much as you like her. being friends is always good but a relationship the way she would play you is going to mess you up. I wish you the best of luck.
2006-12-09 18:08:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres no point being in a relationship with some1 that likes some else more no way it aint worth it 2 much pain would be involved if u have a friendship with this girl and u wanna keep it then just stick with that this girl doesnt really know what she wants which will only lead 2 u gettin hurt and thats something we all like 2 avoid where possible........ so avoid it
GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-09 18:09:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
doesnt sound like you have much of a chance with him still in the picture, and if she likes him more then you why bother your already one down, ask why she says she doesnt deserve you, and why did she say she doesnt want to hurt you, i think what she means by her last comment is that if this guy she likes comes back to her, she will drop you for him, theres alot of girls out there and theres one for you dont waste you time with her, heck who knows if she sees you with some other girl she may come around g/l
2006-12-09 18:11:39 · answer #6 · answered by boots 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, bail on this chick. The prom is coming up and you need to find a girl you can have fun with. She is giving you every lame excuse in the book because she doesn't want to hurt your feelings. Its nice of her to do that, but it only confuses you. Good luck and hope things turn out well for you.
2006-12-09 18:06:45 · answer #7 · answered by I like Chinese food 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How can you take a relationship further when one of the two people involved isn't interested? You can't. Date girls who actually want to be with you.
2006-12-09 18:08:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a big mess. Just move on and forget about her. There's someone out there for you - just be patient - you will find her.
2006-12-09 18:07:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes. if she has made it clear that she only wants to be friends, you could lose a great friendship if you keep this going. if it were me, i would concider it being bugged. no girl likes it when a guy buggs her. cherrish your friendship and let her move at her own pace.
2006-12-09 18:08:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋