My boyfriend has been asking me if ill marry him and i have been married 11 years ago and got divorced right after the honey moon and do have 4 kids 1 from my ex husband 2 from my ex boyfriend and 1 from the boyfriend i have now but the only problem is with him he does not hang around that much and i do love him but i think i should wait to see if he will start hanging around more or not so what should i do wait or just marry him?
2006-12-09 18:02:07 · 9 answers · asked by Monqui N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I AM SCARED TO GET MARRIED AGAIN
2006-12-09 18:02:33 · update #1
and my ex- husband been telling me to move on too
2006-12-09 19:01:04 · update #2
I think you should wait. Tell him how you feel and that you want this marriage to be different. Tell him you love him but you need a little more time.
2006-12-09 18:05:59 · answer #1 · answered by yahoooooooooo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to get married again, you need to focus on the needs of your 4 kids. You have kids from 3 different men in your life, and marrying another man is not going to cut it. It is OK to have romantic involvements as long as it doesn't interfere with the children's needs, and don't be thinking, "I have a right to have a life too", because you gave that up when you had kids, period. Raise them, and when they have moved out on their own, then you may want to think of getting married again. Sorry for sounding so harsh, I am a single dad and have put my son's needs first always, and have never involved another woman because I wanted him to see he came first which is the right of all children.
2006-12-10 02:35:00 · answer #2 · answered by Crowfeather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you need to wait. Why would you want to marry someone that is never around. Esp when you have 7 KIDS?? I have 1 child and that takes 2 ppl to raise. It's hard to raise 1 kid with 1 parent much less 1 parent to 7 kids.
2006-12-10 08:00:19 · answer #3 · answered by kimandkaitlyn2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people "are afraid for a reason." You understand the men in your life and what they can do. In other words, you know on some level that yes, he is capable of letting you down and that scares you. That means your smart enough to hold off, however, should you stop living your life? I mean, why be with this guy at all if you don't think its going to work? AND IF YOUR GOING TO LIVE with him, get some LEGAL RIGHTS. What if he got in an accident? You could not even sign for him to have an operation! SERIOUSLY! Your already together, make it legal!
2006-12-10 02:12:44 · answer #4 · answered by AdamKadmon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a big deal, and he should respect that idea with you. If he truly loved you, he would understand how you feel if you tell him. He may get upset, but don't get discouraged. He doesn't hate you for your opinion: he's just upset because he loves you and he feels that marriage is the next logical step to expresing that love.
Of course, people have different opinions on love and happiness. If you are happy without being married and are afraid that it will interfere with that, then that's your decision, and he should respect that.
2006-12-10 02:11:33 · answer #5 · answered by TheTimTrain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait , as you have said he does not want to stay, then what is the point of marrying him? You would be having problems soon again. Just stay with your kids and let go .
2006-12-10 02:11:49 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel comfortable getting married, don't. Ask him to move in with you and stick around to help with the kids. I fhe helps, then when you feel comfortable, perhaps you will be ready to say yes to this marrage.
2006-12-10 02:39:41 · answer #7 · answered by bluechick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My stars! The situations some people get themselves into.
2006-12-10 04:20:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait, if he aint never around
2006-12-10 02:52:45 · answer #9 · answered by dirty south 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋