why would people put their kids (really babies) that are 3 in school?

Question

Where i am from kids can start preschool at 4 years of age but to read on here that people put 2 & 3 year olds in school is sad cause that is sounding like to me that is a way to get rid of your kid all day long, all week long. My god some 2 and 3 year old are still in diapers so why would any parent do this?

It was so hard for me to let go when my son started kindergarten this year. I kept him home as long as i could and i chose not to send him to preschool. I am so glad i didn't cause i cherished every moment i had with him while other mothers would come right out and say "god i am going to see some peace and quiet when i send them to preschool"...

I think this is wrong to do this..Sending babies to school.
What are your opinions?

I BELIEVE IF YOU SEND A BABY TO SCHOOL THAT IS 2 OR 3 YOU ARE TRYING TO GET RID OF THEM AND OUT OF YOUR FACE.

PRESCHOOL IS WHAT PREPARES THEM WHEN THEY ARE 4 NOT 2

Answer 1

I happen to completely and totally agree with you.. I do understand the "if you have to work" scenario.. but i became a SAHM to be with my kids, not send them to preschool for 2 or 3 years. and newsflash, people! YOU can teach your kids too, not just a preschool.

Answer 2

I have worked in preschools (0- 5 years in my country) and I have seen a 6 week old baby in full time care.
Personally i find that very sad.

However, (when I have children) I can imagine that I would be quite happy to send my child to daycare for one or two days a week.
I personally think it's healthy to have time to myself, as well as time with children.
I think i would feel suffocated if I didn't have some time out to myself.

Children love preschool, the positives are that they get to learn a lot about socialisation, how to interact with others, as well as all the educational stuff they learn, to prepare them for school. I think kids can sometimes pick up some bad influences and habits there, and they often don't get the amount of attention that they should.

To answer your question; society is always changing, and change is part of life.
It's all about acceptance.
Every one has a different opinion about everything in life, and you will always be aghast at the way some people choose to live their lives.
If you know absolutey what is right for you and your family, that is Great!! Go for it!! But don't assume that everyone else is going to see things your way. You will always have someone at the opposite end of the spectrum and all the opinions inbetween.

Answer 3

First of all, most parents who put their kids in school (daycare) usually work and don't have the option to stay at home. I don't work, however if I did, I would prefer to put my son in a learning enviroment instead of plain daycare. Secondly, most 2 and 3 year old schools do not have school for eight hours like kindergarten does, it is usually just structured learning for 2-4 hours a day.

I love my son very much. He doesn't stay overnight with many people because sometimes I am selfish with him. I love to be with him. On the other hand, I would definately put him in school early. It would give him the skills he needs to learn such as: sitting at a desk, playing with other children, learning what is taught, and most importantly learning to exist without mom right by his side.

My son is very active and into everything. I spend all day cleaning up what he is digging out. I would enjoy the time without him to run errands and clean up. But that doesn't mean I don't cherish every second I have with him.

I think it is a wonderful experience for both mom and baby if stay at home mom's can afford to send their babies to preschool for a couple hours a day. It will also help mom and child with seperation anxiety when the big kindergarten day comes.

Answer 4

I agree and disagree with you....
I agree you should cherish every moment you have with your child and spend as much time with your child as possible. I don't see any harm in keeping your child out of school until kindergarten. In fact, that's how I'd prefer it, if I had children. Plus, a lot of firsts happen before they reach kindergarten. I'd love to witness and experience each and every one. Something you can't do if they're at school. I'd like to be the one that taught my child how to tie shoes, or zip up coat, etc.. So, yes I very much agree with you.
I disagree because there are those that have both parents that work and they need the extra income. They probably wish it wasn't the case but, that's how their lives are. Also, there are parents that feel their child needs a little extra time to learn, especially those that English is their second language. Or their child has a difficult time learning and as long as the resources are there, why not take the advantage?
You're right, though. There are those parents that drop them off at school just to have a little peace and quiet. That in itself is not necessarily bad. Better than getting frustrated with them and yell or hit them all day. Doesn't mean they don't care or don't love them. But, I do understand why. They truly need a break from them at times.

Answer 5

depends what your area offers. Our school district has pre school for 3 year olds that need some special help, then they have a 4 year old kindergarten that is 4 days a week from 8-11 a.m. My son is in that program. It is a free program but not required. the next year at age 4 is all day kindergarten. This year he just needed a regular backpack to be able to put a folder in it. Big enough for in the winter to put snow pants and sneakers. These little ones do look funny with these big backpacks but the smaller ones don't hold the folder.

Answer 6

You sound so pissed at this but this is real life.. some of us mom don't have the chance to be Stay At Home Moms... some of us have to work so that our 2 years old or 3 years old can have what they need... and for us parents that care about our kids while we get a chance to work.. we find the best place for them and that is a learnig center..an early pre-school... this is not only benefiting us cause we get to leave them in a safe place while we work.. but more to them cause they are learning stuff that they are going to need to know later on.. just that they are learnign it earlier than other kids.... so if you are talking about the parents that dont work or do nothing for their lifes and just send them to pre-school to get a break then yeah i feel what you saying but you can't generalize cause i know i;m not like that.. i hate to leave my 3 year old every morning.. so i can go to work but when i pick her up.. she tells me all the stuff she learned and it make sme happy that she is so little and already knows a lot...

Answer 7

Not anymore. These days kids are learning things that some of us didn't until grades higher.
I don't know why most people put their kids in school at 2 or three but I know why I put my children in school at 3. To learn. To learn how to communicate with their peers, to get an education at a slower pace because once they start regular school, it's a much faster pace and they don't slow down for anyone. It's only an half day of school and it helps them with being independant also. I think putting your child in early helps their development and they are more advance in everything when the time comes for kindergarten.

Answer 8

My mother worked as a classroom assistant to a preschool in our local school district...

our school district would only accept kids at the age of three if they were in need of a special ed. plan.

For some of the kids who attended school early, i can imagine why their parents would choose to send their children off to school,... kids can be a handful!

attending school early can be helpful in establishing order and predictability along with stability in a child's life. Some parents are unable to teach their children about discipline and schedules and becoming a member a classroom setting may help a child mature and become a well functioning child.

Answer 9

Preschool is sometimes cheaper than a babysitter. When my children were young a teacher told me that as long as they could count and say their abc's and go to the bathroom by themselves by the time they reached kindergarten there was no need to put them in preschool. Our children are only young once they grow up and leave us so fast I can't see sending them to school so early.

Answer 10

I started school when I was 3, going on 4. My sister started school at age 3, and my friend Mercy started school at age 2.5. I don't really see anything wrong with doing that. I didn't go to school all day, I was in school till 12 noon. It gave me a chance to play with my peers and learn to read and write faster. After school I would pay with my friends, so I still had a childhood.

I think having a kid still in diapers in school is wrong, because school isn't daycare, and you can't be sure those diapers will get changed.

Answer 11

my daughter started school at age 3 but it was a necessary thing to do because she couldn't talk and she didn't start walking until she was 2, she had a stroke when she was about 6 wks old or that is what the doc. is saying anyway, but we sent her to school at that age because she will always be behind but maybe since we started her early in it she won't be as far behind as she would have been if we let her start when other children her age started. she is now 10 and in the second grade but steadily improving.