As a woman, I have noticed that I can completely fall for somebody before the first date.....What I want to know is HOW men fall in love. Do they sometimes fall for somebody before dating? (Seriously, does/can that happen?) What is a guy's thought process in that situation? What does he deal with?
What makes him fall in love in the first place?
Really, women want to know this stuff!
2006-12-09 17:53:25 · 8 answers · asked by neenerneener 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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I think any guy here can say that it IS possible for any guy to fall in love with a single glance at the opposite sex. The only problem is we don't admit it to anyone (sometimes not even to ourselves) It's a seldom thing but it can happen.
But it differentiates from guy to guy. Me personally, is personality. She may be Beautiful, but if that beauty matches who she is then that's all it takes for me, but it takes time to adjust to it. Men don't or rarely use the word "love" but that doesn't mean we don't feel it. Even a low life can feel it but would never admit it. The only exceptence would be if a guy has been burned so badly that makes him bitter, but that means he HAS been in love, and it is possible for a guy to fall in love. Women sometimes think that we use it aimlessly just to get what we want out of them. True, but so do women. It's not always the case. Sure we take advantage of it, but thats because women aren't meeting a guys wants. (even the most despicable ones) It's tricky and almost impossible to believe but it's there. That's where patience is necessary, and if that can't be provided that is why we get bored and bitter with women and causes us to do stuff that some of us regret. Furthering our notion of what love is and not believing in it.
Guys will only admit they love you or in love when women: doesn't pressure them into anything, understands him, appreciates him (even if he burps and farts around the clock) and respects him and most important space. Almost the same things women want from men. (another cliche) communication is basically key, you just need to know how to approach us when it comes to a one on one chat, and if you love us the way most women claim they would know what that is. Thats why we so foul of creatures as many women claim we are, say we are jerks and d*cks and are incapable of love. But we are capable of it we just don't express it or show it as much as we like why? well because we're guys. Now the reason as to why we hide love? thats a secret.
2006-12-09 18:35:09 · answer #1 · answered by That Guy 2 · 9⤊ 0⤋
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As a woman, I have noticed that I can completely fall for somebody before the first date.....What I want to know is HOW men fall in love. Do they sometimes fall for somebody before dating? (Seriously, does/can that happen?) What is a guy's thought process in that situation? What does he deal...
2015-08-23 05:17:27 · answer #2 · answered by Zora 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a guy, I can tell you that it is no different. The only reason why it seems different is because men have a tendancy to hide their feelings because of their pride, ego, etc etc. I can tell you right now that I have fallen in love for someone. I ve never been on a date with her, I ve merely only spent some brief time with her. But somehow someway, I have fallen completely, head over heels, unconditionally in love with her. I already know that she is "the one." I never chose these feelings, I never asked for them, and I never looked for her. It just happened. I m very heart-broken because I took a chance on her and I told her how I felt about her and she respectfully declined when I told her that I wanted to be her boyfriend and be in a real relationship. I truly hope that we can be together someday but something tells me that it may not be in the cards for me. Either way, I can t speak for every single man on the planet, I m only speaking for myself as a 22 year old man. That is how i fell in love. It just happened. But one thing that I did forget to mention was that I didn t feel that way until I randomly ran into her at a local mom & pop type of a pet store called Petland. When that happened and I got to spend more time with her, kind of like a first date but not really, I immediately felt as if she was the one and that it was meant to be. But apparently it wasn t meant to be because we are not together and she respectfully chose not to be with me. It hurts me inside everytime i think about her and she can t seem to get out of my head no matter how much i try to move on. She s a part of me now and I will always have a special place for her in my heart whether it is good or bad. Anyhow.... That is my story so now you know how one man here on Earth managed to fall truly, unconditionally in love with Raquel
2015-02-20 04:01:17 · answer #3 · answered by Brian 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
lol. i don't really know.. never dated before never fallen in love. But i can explain to you guys and common sense.
See a guy doesn't have much of an attention span. or much feelings to them at all. fact were over populated and perverted too and only think of sex. A guy can fall in love whenever. its more of what they let themselves do. most guys wont let anyone get close.. or care about it at all. before they are older (such as about 23) but if a guy lets someone get close he may fall in love. most guys however wont do that in fact they will intentionally see "feelings" for a girl as a reason to get away. notice "things have changed. i dont feel the same way about you any more" excuse to break up. well tis true he is starting to like you.. but wants to have fun. his sexual drive over powers his emotional drive. unlike girls who have not much of a sexual drive (most of the time. not that your sexually dumb. just not horny all the time!!)
Girls just let emotions take over which can lead to them letting guys take advantage.. and its the continuous abuse of women and guys continually taking advantage of them that has sex guys to ignore their emotional sides.. back when having sex before marriage was punishable by death. guys would get to knowa girl before they liked em. they might find them atractive but they wont just want to have sex.. understand??
2006-12-09 18:02:06 · answer #4 · answered by AdrianAP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive dated a lot and had a lot of long relationships. This is what Ive gathered. Women fall quick, but not as hard. It takes men longer to fall in love, but once they do, they fall hard.
2006-12-09 17:57:26 · answer #5 · answered by bluestar 3 · 12⤊ 0⤋
Men only care about one thing...they want to know when and where they can get a piece. They don't care about love....they just want a woman with a nice booty and boobs that is willing to get busy after a nice meal and a foo foo drink. It is instinct (from the early days) for men to try to populate the world so they were wired to look for as many women to re-populate the world by having kids. Most black guys still follow this...I guess the guys I have met all are interested in sex not love, or what you did that day or your favorite stuff. Just what is in your panties sweetie. Face it and move on...good advice date a nerd they seem to care a little about the cheesy stuff.
2006-12-09 17:59:38 · answer #6 · answered by LenaRose 2 · 5⤊ 10⤋
Good question girl! I wanna know too.......fess up guys! :)
2006-12-09 17:55:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is overrated.
2006-12-09 17:58:30 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 10⤋