I lost my virginity to some fag way back fresh yr in high school.
now i have this new boyfriend ive been dating for a while and were getting really serious but he was sooo happy when he asked me if i was a virgin and i said yes, but this was like the 2nd day we hung out. now its been sooo far that im afraid to tell him.. he recently asked me again.. but i couldnt talk,.... so what is that thing called when u loose ur virginity but then give a second chance to the person ur going to marry like second hand virginity something???
2006-12-09 17:49:08 · 15 answers · asked by Sam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
is he a virgin? god ! if Ur comfortable tel him but u kknow him better if he cant handle it dnt tel him and yes has he told u abt his past its Ur life if u want to keep something to yourself u shud do that
2006-12-09 18:07:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A born-again virgin.
He asked you if you were a virgin on the second day you hung out? You should have told him it was none of his business.
Having lied, however, you are stuck in a classic dilemma: to tell or not to tell.
If you don't tell, he will never know. Lots of girls don't bleed when they have sex for the first time and it's very easy to break the hymen accidentally. And if he trusts you, why should he doubt you?
If you do tell, he will be disappointed but at least he will know the truth. Tell him that you wanted everything to be completely honest between you because he means so much to you etc.
You can never recover your virginity. Even if you have an operation to resew the hymen (very popular in Japan where it's called cutie surgery), it does not restore your virginity.
2006-12-10 01:54:23 · answer #2 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called "Secondary Virginity" but I think it's a lot of nonsense. The reality is, you are not a virgin anymore. You CAN say that you made a mistake and gave your virginity to some idiot, but you have been celibate since then. That's an honest answer, and your new friend should respect that. Tell him you were scared that he wouldn't like you because you aren't a virgin & that's why you lied.
2006-12-10 01:53:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any two people contemplating having sex with each other are entitled to sufficient accurate information to know whether doing so is a health risk and both should engage in sufficient safe sex precautions to make it unnecessary to stray into the none of your business arena. When a relationship becomes serious, there needs to be an agreement struck as to what of each other's past is fair access and why either wants/needs to know. Then live within and respect those privileges and boundaries.
2006-12-10 01:58:35 · answer #4 · answered by Stuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is time to right a wrong. Tell him the truth, and explain why you did it. At the very least he should be appreciative that you have been honest with him. There is no such thing as a second hand virgin.
2006-12-10 01:56:00 · answer #5 · answered by Michael T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you ever seen sex and the city? there is one episode where charlotte doesnt want to have sex with her new fiance so she can re-new her virginity,, first of all, honesty is what keeps a relationship going, but i still think that WHAT HAPPENED IN THE PAST, HAPPENED,, everyone deserves a past, and also a secret past,, maybe you should tell him, but he should understand and there should be no problem at all,, good luck
2006-12-10 01:54:34 · answer #6 · answered by ana07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, just be honest i know that will be hard. If he rejects you because of that dishonesty early on in your relationship, he is not worth knowing. A couple needs trust and honesty in their relationship i know im close to 30 years married.
2006-12-10 01:57:14 · answer #7 · answered by melo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
really if he lights up at the fact your a virgin. not a good sign. he obviously just wants to have sex with you and it will end up falling apart.. do you think he is a virgin? or is it all about religion to him. because to me its just you and God to deal with it all. Its not about if your a virgin. if its religious. its about motives. if not religious then its purely stupid to care if your a virgin or not. if you mean well tis cool.
2006-12-10 01:56:30 · answer #8 · answered by AdrianAP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell him
eventually he might find out and its better to not lie to him
you lost your virginity which is a huge thing to lie about
2006-12-10 01:53:36 · answer #9 · answered by Avery 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
theres no such thing as a born again virgin again
2006-12-10 01:52:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋