im 21 and highly unattractive. i dislike almost every aspect of myself, and can hardly bare to look at myself in the mirror. i feel like i have nothing to offer, and just cant reverse this frame of mind. my levels of motivation are dropping more and more everyday, and i was wondering whether anyone could recommend something i can do to try and get back to thinking normally.
Also, i can't afford to get professional help, and am extremely hesitant to take anti depressants.
2006-12-09 17:42:21 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why do i feel ugly? im short, overweight, covered in obvious freckles, i have hair on my back, shoulders, chest, im scarred on my face, bad teeth, plus i am not funny, im shy, and quite often act like a jerk.
2006-12-09 17:59:49 · update #1
Why do you think you are ugly?? Do you really feel that way, or has someone in your life been telling you that? I think you need to work on what is inside. If you cant afford professional help, your local health dept can give you contacts of professionals in your area who will talk to you for free (or next to free) What kind of things do you like to do? Do you have good friends? It sounds like you need some good friends that will be supportive and help build you up.Are there people you have things in common with? If not, a great way to feel better about yourself is to help others. Go volunteer at a homeless shelter this holiday. It will give you perspective and you will see that others struggle as well. It feels so good to help people, and that is something you have to offer! I am sure that you have interests & talent. Dont be afraid to find out what makes you happy! I am not really religous, but I dont think God makes mistakes. You have a purpose, and I wish you peace. Hang in there okay?
2006-12-09 17:54:22 · answer #1 · answered by Cris Tee 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
nothing is wrong with short unless you want to play basket ball just
find another sport
heaps of short successful people in the world
don't eat junk food more than once a month & that includes lollies drinks etc& not heaps of it
walk fast or run each morning & have breakfast when you return
that will get rid of weight & stress. don't take antidepressants if you can help it
you can help other people at a charity that will be good for you
freckles are cute
& you can always get rid of hair with that hair remover called nair
but hair is fine
go to a chemist or a Dr & ask if a cream will help your scar
scars fade a lot in time anyway
you must save up & have your teeth fixed as that is so important & you WILL be handsome with nice teeth
you must be brave to get over your shyness most guys are shy at first & that is quite normal
change your hair style & buy some modern clothes they don't have to cost the earth just modern & make sure they suit you
i mean get the colour right to bring out your eyes i bet they are very nice because all eyes are beautiful & i don't believe you are ugly
you must do good things in your life little things well
write them down & look at them daily
& they will make you realize you are a great worthy person
2006-12-09 19:16:25 · answer #2 · answered by ausblue 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are not ugly. You are what you are...which is a beautiful child of god with a divine spirit having a human experience. Too much for you? Let's try another approach. First, there are many therapy centers in every large city that take clients on a sliding scale depending on their income and expenses. Find one and go. Join a singles group. Join a group sponsored by a religious or social organization. Learn to love yourself. You really ar your best friend. Acknowledge what a wonderful human being you are. Celebrate your own accomplishments. Can't think of any, then do something that you think will be great to do...and celebrate the doing. Love yourself. You are truly great and wonderful. And you're not alone.
2006-12-09 17:49:33 · answer #3 · answered by judgebill 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You must fixate your energy on some form of personal achievement no matter how small it may be. Set yourself a small goal and achieve it. If you have any bad habbits, change 1 of them for a good habbit. Take careful note of people in worse situations than you see yourself in at the moment. Praise the positives in your life and remember attractiveness has many angles which are seen very differently by different people.
2006-12-09 17:56:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't lose confidence!!!!!
all you have to do (and I know this sounds somewhat horrible) but just look around and take more notice...
A LOTTTT of ugly people have gfs/bfs and are even married.
Please don't let this drag you down. Another thing- exercise!!
Not for the purpose of getting buff or anything (but if you want, can't hurt), but exercise releases serotonin in your brain. (the happy hormone).
So do bananas and sunflower seeds. You should look more into that.
Good Luck!!!
Oh, and stay away from superficial people, they won't help you out, and they're going to be the ones getting divorced at 40 and having mid-life crises!!!
2006-12-09 17:48:27 · answer #5 · answered by WiseWisher 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you feel you are unattractive? Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. If you feel confident and show confidence, women see this. When you feel like this about yourself, its hard to find someone because of the negativity. You have to be more confident and go out and do things for yourself.
2006-12-09 17:47:35 · answer #6 · answered by anje_s2001 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know but you got a whole lot more troubles than your ugliness... It's a hard answer to a hard question. Ugliness is what you believe to be, and may not necessarily be true. You need some self esteem help first. Call Dr. Phil.
2006-12-09 17:50:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
first,get over your feelings about how you think you look.how you see yourself is never how someone else see's you,thats a fact.i
used to think i was darn ugly,and was even told so by quite a few
people,but so what?i have a life to live so i got over it.and besides,its not how you look,but how you portray and carry yourself.so be proud of yourself,feel like king and people will see you as such
2006-12-09 18:11:13 · answer #8 · answered by shortsnout 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU are ur own professional helper. Take anti depressants if it helps. Try getting a new look. Get clothes that bring out ur personality, & makes u look attractive. Talkin abt personality, try to polish em up! Find someone who has a strong & nice personality to learn frm them.. if cant meet person 2 person, find some1 online. it helps 2! Exercise to get that body image, if u aint fit. u'll need alot o confidence!
2006-12-09 17:48:00 · answer #9 · answered by zxcv 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Live it and get around the situation. It can always be worse.
2006-12-09 17:51:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋