how to deal with a boyfriend who always hurts you emotionally?

Answer 1

don't deal....leave. You should not have to "deal" with an asshole for a boyfriend. What kind of relationship is that?

Answer 2

I know it doesnt seem like it now, but the dillemna you face is really basic stuff. So I will proceed to give you the speech I should have given myself many times in that same situation:

Hey, I know its great to have somebody and to be with them, but, is it so great if costs you little pieces of yourself? The longer you are willing to put up with that, the more little pieces of yourself you lose. Those little pieces turn into big pieces, and he will keep hurting you until you have completely given yourself up to him, to be whatever HE wants you to be. You will never be able to get back the time you wasted in that situation. Every year you spend with him is a year you have given up and cost those out in the world that REALLY REALLY DO love you. They know it, but theyre waiting for you to know it too. Look down deep inside at the emotional scars you have suffered at the hands of this little "man". They dont heal if you continue to let him hurt you, they just bleed out. Now is the time to ask: do you love yourself enough to start saying "no" to undeserving people and the shabby treatment they give you? Are you ready to be brave, and to pull yourself together and acknowledge that being single is still better than having somebody milk you of trust, time, and affection?
All in all, its really up to you. Nobody can save you from emotional, physical, or any other kind of abuse, the way YOU can.
Please just think about that.

Answer 3

Talk to him. Tell him how you feel. If he just hurts you more than dump him. There are better guys out there for you. No need to be stuck in a emotionally abusive relationship.

Answer 4

How are you hurt? Where does the hurt come from? Look inside and ask yourself what it is that feels hurt and where did that come from? Mae, if you love yourself, honor yourself, believe in yourself, then you won't really get hurt...because you always have yourself as your best friend. Learn to know who you are, how great you are, how wonderful you are. If the guy doesn't see that, then he's wearing blinders. Does he know he's hurting you? Guys aren't mind readers. If you're hurt, tell him he has hurt you. If he honors you and his relationship with you, then he'll try not to hurt you. If he continues to hurt you, wonder if he has respect for himself ...much less respect for you. You must be getting something out of the relationship to keep in it after he hurts you. Is it worth it? Are you honoring yourself but staying in this relationship?

Answer 5

I most logical thing you should do is leave him. But lord knows it's hard. I've been through this.
Eventually you are going to start going into a depression, if it hasn't already and you won't realize it and things will just get worse.
There are others out there that will treat you like you deserve, with respect. I know. I'm happily married after my ordeal.
You can be to.
Please move on before you start to lose your sanity.

Answer 6

Don't deal with him, get rid of him. Realize that you are worth more than that and expect it from your boyfriends.

Answer 7

DUMP HIM!

A boyfriend should be the person that makes you feel better when you cry, not the one making you cry!

Answer 8

dump him! but if u want a fuller answer were going to need more info....how does he hurt u? what sort of stuff does he say to you?

Answer 9

Elaborate more please... I am in a similar situation too. Check out my question. Some things can be worked out but it depends on the man and his outlook on the relationship too. :)

Answer 10

Tell him how you feel and if he still does it move on to someone who can make you happy.