I absolutely hate & despise my Mom's side of the family. She's got so many brothers & sisters that they often fight, don't speak w/eachother for a good 10 yrs & worse, they involve their children (who are cousins) who can't even feel comfortable enough to hang out w/eachother because their parents are all in an argument w/eachother & are influencing to stay away from eachother just becuz of their arguments? My mom's side of the family are a bunch of liars & gossipers. They have no interest in anyone's life what so ever, then to find out what they think is juicy gossip they can talk about & when they see you in person, they act all sweet & innocent? WTF? It just makes me so mad that I know I never want to be around them or become like them. Why is that we can't trust even our own relatives sometimes? why is it that even though they are your family, they have the nerve to hurt & stab you in the back when your not looking? I thought family should be sticking together & helping?
2006-12-09 17:30:36 · 9 answers · asked by sugarBear 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
We don't get to pick our families...we just have to do the best we can with them and look to our friends for support.
Your perspective will also change with time, and the family members will also evolve and change with time.
Remember that you can't change other people. What you can control is your reactions and your exposure.
Best wishes!
2006-12-09 17:38:51 · answer #1 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres no telling why people are like this. The best you can do is not let them rub off on you and turn you into one of them. Thats how it all starts anyway. Two of them probably got into an argument over something dumb and pointless, and then everyone took one side or the other and the next thing you know you've got decade long family feuds. Some people just cant appreciate the happyness and helpfulness of real family and friends and thats why they think there goal in life is to screw it up for everyone else. Probably not a lot you can do here to help the situation, once people start arguing and backstabbing in large groups, its usually best to just stand back and hope for things to cool off on their own.
2006-12-10 01:41:51 · answer #2 · answered by ocracokes_friend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you sound like family. My in-laws are the same way. When I married my husband I thought I was in a good loving family. Boy was I wrong. About 6 mos later everyone hated each other, and was talking about each other. And that's when I decided I didn't want to be like them. You just have to keep your head up and be determined not to end up like them. They probably won't change their ways but hopefully time will make things better. Just wait it out. That's what I'm doing. Prayer won't hurt things either. Try encouraging your cousins to hang out with each other. Don't bring up anything to do with your parents arguing just leave it alone and build a relationship with your family that doesn't want to fight. The rest will come around.
2006-12-10 01:37:25 · answer #3 · answered by Ash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ii am sorry to say that my family profile almost fits yours. it seems that everyone that i know is somewhat unhappy in relationships or families too. its like before i knew most of my friends you have a picture of what their life is like, happy. not really. most women are unhappy with thier partners. as for mine i am happy but we worked hard on our relationship and still everyday. there are days when we argue but we manage to work it out. as for family, i try to stay away from mine most of the time. gossip and not going through with get togethers flop. and only with my family. my husbands is the opposite. he has the family that gets sad if you fail to show up at gatherings. what you are going through is normal. you just have to make some choices. weed out the family members that bring misery to your life. tell everyone when you guys are gathered again that it will be the last time that you will visit when all of you guys are together. explain why if you have to yell to get thier attentions. attempt to make plans with the members that bring happiness in your life. all these others wont be missing you so dont worry about how they feel. and be prepared to be talked about.
2006-12-10 01:49:59 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes families are the happy kind. But most families have their flaws. Nobody is perfect so we shouldn't try to be. I won't even get started on some of the weirdos in my family bc I don't have enough room on this page. You just have to know nothing is like tv.
2006-12-10 01:35:05 · answer #5 · answered by Nicky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is between your parents and your relatives rather they involve you and your cousins in it or not you have a choice to either take side or hang out with eachother and let's adult work it out themselves you and your cousins should have told them you guys don't want to be involve in adult problem Up to you guy if you want to either hang out together or not This problem was not your problem to beinning with. it their.
2006-12-10 01:40:12 · answer #6 · answered by nuygen v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOOK join the party you sound like my family. I JUSt ignore all of the trouble makers thats about 99% of them. lol
2006-12-10 01:33:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you are suppossed to show them the right way, thru your actions in love. but no matter how they act, let no one drive you to hate, it tears at a soul stealing emotions from its bearer.
2006-12-10 01:34:28 · answer #8 · answered by DUSTY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take them all to church..if that does'nt work,slip some holy water in their sparklets bottle.If that does'nt work,call a priest,they may need an exorcism.
2006-12-10 01:33:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋