what is it like before you have sex with your husband(or your bf)?

Question

I am a female and i am not married. i have a question about sex. i personally dont prefer sex before marriage so i dont have any experience.

1)what is it like before you have sex with your husband? i mean, when a female has grown up, she wont stripe in front of anyone, right? (except some occupations). so now she is married, and on that night, she will have sex with her hunsband....

2) isnt it weird to stripe in front of a guy? what does it feel like?

3) do most couples use condom on the first night or they dont?

4)what if u think your husband should use a condom...how should you tell your husband?? what if he refuse....(u asked becuz u dont want kids right away....)

5) what would a couples do after sex? go directly to sleep?? or what??

6) are these habits cultural?? or no??
7) sorry for so many questions...i am just curious.... >.<

Answer 1

I was a virgin when my husband and I were married. And though I looked forward to that first night, it was also pretty strange. To be honest, I didn't strip in front of him. I got undressed and under the covers and let him come to bed then.

I think the level of 'weirdness' when you get undressed in front of a guy depends on the girl. Some people may not have any issue with it. I still have a hard time getting undressed in front of him.

We didn't use a condom, but that was more a personal choice. Whether or not people use them is kinda up to them, I don't think there's a more one way or the other. And, if you want him to wear a condom, by all means just tell him. If he really has a problem with it, then tell him he'll just have to wait til you go on the pill....

Hmm... what do we do... kinda depends on what time of day it is. If it's nighttime...a lot of time we do just go to sleep. Sometimes we just lie there and talk. Sometimes we get up and finish our day. Not sure if these are cultural things but I'm sure there are some out there. Most of it is going to be personal choice.

Answer 2

2. I don't think it is weird to stripe in front of a guy cause he will be taking off his clothes also.
3. If you don't want to have children then yes you should use a condom.
4. You should talk about using protection before you get married and that way there are no surprises. This is something you should decide on before you get married.
5. You could either go to sleep, talk, or hold each other.
6. I have no idea if the habits are cultural or not sorry.

Answer 3

Most couples, whether thaey have went all the way yet or now, are intimate in some ways. I think if youre in a good healthy relationship and you arent extremely self conscious about yourself, you will love stripping for your husband, its a lot of good attention. :)
Condoms and the wanting of children should certainly be discussed before the wedding night. If you cant speak directly to your husband about such topics, you shouldnt be getting married yet.
Different couples so different things after sex, some people jump straight to the shower, some want to cuddle, some just want space, some just want to go to sleep.
I dont think any of this is cultural, people are different.
Hope this helped!! :)

Answer 4

Well, you kinda get used to it after a while, but in the beginning, if your shy, you could probably get away with undressing under the covers. If you think your future husband won't be using a condom and you don't want kids, you have to insure this yourself by getting on the pill before you have sex. After sex, sometimes people go to sleep, or they go to work, or they shower, or they watch t.v., or they eat...just go on with your normal activities after.

Answer 5

I adore your innocence.
1 -- you feel literally hot all over & passion takes hold. the rest is up to nature.

2 -- You don't really strip in front of him. You just remove each others clothes.

3 -- If married, no. If not married, yes.

4 -- if you want him to wear one (perfectly acceptable & your decision) and he will not, don't have sex. it's truly that simple. tell him that isn't right for you.

5 -- i go to sleep, yes. some cuddle, talk, etc...

6 -- nah

7 -- no prob!

Answer 6

3 E , experience and exercise will make you expert