My guy is amazing, i can't live without him. But he seems like he is sick of my parents and well me. I agree with him about my parents but i don't like how he is taking it out on me! What do i do?
2006-12-09 17:22:38 · 7 answers · asked by lovehurts 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tough question especially considering it does not have much detail. I'm assuming you've already tried talking to your folks about it and they won't budge.
If it turns out your parents are very restrictive (IE only letting you have certain types of dates with him or spend little time together)
you have a problem.
That problem is that many guys (myself included) would take that as "you're just using it as an excuse b/c you aren't sure you really like me: get me out of here I don't need these games". Or even that you are using your parents so-called "grounding limits" to give you more time to date another guy. Then that guy will take it out on you thinking you intended to take it out or him or are "testing to see if he's a man or a boy" by putting you up against your parents (sad fact: some girls do such crazy things).
To defend against this show affection a lot, including in public and in front of friends, make it obvious you are proud to be seen with him (if you aren't doing this already). Sneaking out to see him is good and actually still ok if you get caught, far as if and when your parents catch you he's there to see it is them not you that is doing it.
Trust me I have dated one girl who WAS faking mad parents and one who really loved me and just had distrustful parents... differences in action between the girls like the ones above (IE who would take risk to see me and show affection in front of her friends) showed me who had what intentions. Make it obvious you are making the decision, not your parents, and that you love him over all else.
Sorry if it turns out I'm solving the wrong interprettation of your situation but I hope my advice helps. :-)
2006-12-09 17:37:07 · answer #1 · answered by M S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have a good heart to heart talk with him. tell him that he is going to be with you not youre parents. Ask him if there is something wrong in the relationship, and how can it be fixed. I know you feel that you cant live without him but stop and think hun if he dont want you, then you are going to have to find a way to go on and you will in time. Be true to yourself first.
2006-12-09 17:35:33 · answer #2 · answered by karen v 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can live without him! And if he is so amazing, then why is he taking out his beef about your parents on you? If he really loves you he will stick around. If it isnt meant to be...well it will hurt but there are other guys!
2006-12-09 17:34:15 · answer #3 · answered by Cris Tee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may want out and knows that by picking on something you can not change (your parents), he has an excuse. Its time for honesty and if he wants out because of you , he needs to say so. If he is just annoyed at your parents, he has to stop taking it out on you.
2006-12-09 17:25:15 · answer #4 · answered by fancyname 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys should really sit down and talk. If you are seeing eye to eye with him the problems that he is having with your parents, then maybe its not him. Talk to your folks next. No matter what, he shouldn't be taking it out on you. First just talk to him about the problems then talk to your mom and dad. Good luck! :)
2006-12-09 17:31:26 · answer #5 · answered by anje_s2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A guy who is sick of your parents will be sick of you soon.
2006-12-09 17:25:33 · answer #6 · answered by miraclehand2020 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick him in the balls. If he stays with you after that you know its love.
2006-12-09 17:25:08 · answer #7 · answered by T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋