need advice!?

Question

i'm an libra my partner is a picses will it work out because many people i mean many as in 30+ is havin crushes on him and i don't know what to do and i think he's enjoying it!!!! sometimes i cry and wanna break up with him but i can't because i'll just regret it i need some help but i still love him.what can i do?????

Answer 1

Well, as long as he's in love with you and only you, I guess that's OK. I mean, he probably feels better about himself with all those women wanting him like that. But it's very unfortunate if he's giving you the impression that he likes any of those girls. If he is, then maybe you should consider breaking up with him. Good luck!

Answer 2

According to clinical psychologist Ayala Malach Pines, "jealousy is a complex reaction to a perceived threat to a valued relationship or to its quality". Unlike envy, it always involves a fear of loss and three people.

Jealousy is a "complex reaction" because it involves such a wide range of emotions, thoughts and behaviours.

Emotions - pain, anger, rage, sadness, envy, fear, grief, humiliation.

Thoughts - resentment, blame, comparison with the rival, worry about image, self-pity.

Behaviours - feeling faint, trembling and sweating, constant questioning and seeking reassurance, aggressive actions, even violence.

Overcoming jealousy takes patience and hard work. If you feel your jealousy stems from issues in childhood, you may find counselling useful. If you're recovering from an affair, you'll need to deal with those issues first.

Here are some things you can do for yourself:

Give yourself a reality check - take a good look at those things that trigger your jealousy and ask yourself how realistic the threat is. What evidence do you have that your relationship is in danger? And is your behaviour actually making the situation worse?

Use positive self-talk - when you start feeling the twinges of jealousy, remind yourself that your partner loves you, is committed to you and respects you. Tell yourself you're a loveable person and that nothing's going on.

Seek reassurance - one of the best ways to beat jealousy is to ask your partner for reassurance. Make sure you don't nag or bully, but rather share your insecurities and ask them to help you overcome the problem.

If you have concerns, try talking it through with your partner or a trusted friend.

Answer 3

you might be interested to know that one day a professor told us he had computed a personalized horoscope for all of us, based on our birthdays and years. he distributed them and we read them eagerly, marveling at how accurate they were. then, he told us to exchange them with each other, to show them. and guess what? they were all the same.

also, the position of the stars in the skies have shifted since horoscopes were created.

in other words, they are meaningless.

why do you cry and want to break up with him?

if you don't have children together, it should be fairly simple. What do you want in a partner? Do you get it from him? Is he attracted to these other people? Why with all these choices does he choose you?

Don't cry like a girl - think, like a woman.

Answer 4

Ok, well...im not into and dont believe the "im a libra, hes a _____" astrology stuff.....if its meant to be, then so be it.

Yeah, he will prob enjoy getting 'hit on'/crushes...but if he loves you, then dont worry.
Talk to him about the other women. If you cant talk to him, this relationship wont last.

Honestly, my bf goes to bars and what not to hang out, etc. He gets hit on a lot by other chicks and it does make him feel good....Ive seen it happen and I see the look/expressions he has. He might flirt alittle, BUT he never touches them (no handhsakes, rubbing on arms, etc) and always comes back to me. To me, I see it as harmless (it boosts his confidence--he has lower self esteem)

Like I said, talk to him and see whats going on. Let him know how this is making you feel.

Answer 5

Ask yourself this: Do you base your relationships off of your Zodiac sign?

but...thats kinda what i went through. In the end I asked myself "Is it worth it? If i'm hurting or doubting this relationship this much then why am i doing it?" but do you truly love him? are you so sure that he's absolutley the one? There are many fish in the sea, so why stop looking now? Dont ever go through enough pain to make yourself cry over a guy. It is so not worth it. Trust me.

Answer 6

Dont make decisions based on the stars. Read some relationship books or get a good couselour or talk to a friend to help you decide whats real or whats in your head.....

Answer 7

just make him feel you trust him, sometimes jealousy can break a relationship, when a man feels that he can't breath anymore. Be proud that there are a lot of girls who had crush on him,be lucky that you are the one he likes, be confident and believe in your relationship.

Answer 8

you have the strength inside you to break up with him. this relationship is hurting YOU and you only. so YOU have to stand up and do something about it. If the guy is enjoying attention from others now, he won't stop later. that means your relationship is just going to go down hill from now. leave him and find someone who deserves you, this gu obviosly doesn't.
best of luck! you can do it.

Answer 9

you could talk to him about it and tell him how it really upsets you that you think he's enjoying the fact that a lot of people like him
if he really cares about you then he will try and figure something out with you

Answer 10

The first thing you need to do is quit reading your horoscope. Follow your heart, not your sign.