Really, on the weekends I like to chill out and shop especially now for the holidays. I go into the store...Do you want this perfume, do you want to touch the neck massager, then the homeless begging, and Salavation Army guy asking for money, and then the mall poll surveyors asking if you want a free movie? I'm not being mean but just COUNT how many times you were harrassed today. And yes, when I come the F****** telemarketer calls. What do you do?
2006-12-09 17:03:06 · 12 answers · asked by Born Valentine's Day 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I know what you mean! I was at the mall yesterday and I felt like I was in a carnival, with all the vendors in the middle coming out at me saying "Miss, do you have a second?" "Can I ask you a question?" "Who's your cell phone provider?" I have to walk as close to the stores as possible to avoid the harassment.
And YES, it is harassment! I see the product is there and I know it's for sale - I don't need someone jumping out at me trying to convince me.
2006-12-09 17:55:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Some people are not in the same "society" as others. While you like to "chill out" some need to make extra money by working on the weekends. If your "society" of people are offended by the people who are working weekends and interrupting your time for chilling out, that is a "society" that should question their definition of harrassment. Harrassment is not the same thing to other people who are not in your so called "society" because they do not have the leisure to "chill out" the way you do. Perhaps they need money for their Christmas." You should trade places with just one of the people who are say, trying to sell perfume for the holiday season. Until you or your "society" has walked a mile in the shoes of these people who you deem to be of lesser society than you are, you should be less critical of them. You do not know their circumstances, and you could be in a lower "society" then the one you place yourself in due to circumstances beyond your control.
2006-12-09 18:29:01 · answer #2 · answered by raven dismukes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just for one day, look each solicitor in the eye and say, "No".
There should be no guilt felt. Even if one time in a million, you reach into your pocket, it's more than you had to do.
Or better yet, give money in one lump sum to a charity two or three times a year.
But over time you've learned how to say "No" to drug dealers, men, doctors, salesmen, etc. Just say no. You're still the same wonderful person you were before. Just give a "guilt-free" NO. And when the homeless guy says, "God Bless You", just say, "And you likewise". Just say no.
2006-12-09 17:45:03 · answer #3 · answered by ThatGuy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just manage a smile and say no thanks.
If I give them too much attention they never shut up, and if I ignore them completely, I feel bad, so that's why I meet their eye and say no.
The one's that annoy me are the one's that want you to give a regular amount of money per month to a charity. I often say to them, I'm happy to donate a few coins, but I can't afford a regular committment, and they aren't looking for a few coins anyway, but at least I offered you know.
Had a few telemarketers lately and I tend to give them about 2 minutes of my time to see what they are offering, then I politely say no, and then if they keep talking, say no again, and then say GOODBYE, I'm hanging up now.
I could choose to be rude, but it doesn't make me feel good, so I don't.
2006-12-09 17:08:42 · answer #4 · answered by Ambience 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One thing you can do that helps when telemarketers call is to ensure that you find out their company name, their supervisors contact number, then you contact the supervisor (during the same call if possible). Then you tell them directly 'take me off your list'. Additionally you may inquire how they came about getting your contact information and threaten action. They shouldn't contact you again.
When confronting 'attack' salesman on the streets one strategy that I find impersonally invasive just as they are and have invited upon themselves is to point straight at their face and laugh really fake and loud and keep walking.
2006-12-09 17:10:27 · answer #5 · answered by jorluke 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A couple of Irish Coffees to tone things down.
2006-12-09 17:04:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It isn't harassment for someone in a store to try and sell you something, that is their job. Chill out!
2006-12-09 17:06:23 · answer #7 · answered by mvsopen 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
LOL. Telemarketers. If you are not going to need the phone tell then you need to get something and leave, RELAX. They will stay on for hours. Then come back and say you couldn't find wat u were looking for. Piss them off. LOL
2006-12-09 17:05:57 · answer #8 · answered by TEE FM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only harassment if you get offended by it. I respectfully suggest that you'll be less upset if you don't allow yourself to be so offended.
2006-12-09 17:38:46 · answer #9 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just unplug your phone and dont leave the house
they'll stop coming after you if you hide from society
2006-12-09 17:08:15 · answer #10 · answered by 63godtoh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋