I am a single mom of 3 kids and it seems like the only guys that I have dated are only after sex. Which isn't what I'm after. Why is it that single mom's only get the players that only want a one night stand rather than a relationship? I have given up dating for this reason. I would rather be alone then having a revolving front door....Any ideals or suggestions you have on finding a guy that wants a realtionship with a single mom would help. Thanks
2006-12-09 17:00:39 · 8 answers · asked by confused angel 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, I'm not looking for guys on the web. These are guys that from around where I live. I have heard alot of "horror" stories about meeting guys on here and thats why I don't.
One of the main reasons I stopped was because of my kids. I figure that once they are older and having their own lives, I will start looking for "Mr. Right." Maybe one day I'll find him. Thanks.
2006-12-09 17:14:33 · update #1
I do date older guys, usually 5-10 years older than me and they seem to be just like the "young" guys. No I don't just give it up, I do make them wait and see how long they are willing to stick around. They usually don't stick around, they want sex right off and I make it well known that isn't me or what I'm looking for.
2006-12-10 04:28:14 · update #2
thats a good a good question, yes there are good men out there, stay away from the boy's
try going out with guys that are more mature, older is good, they are less likely to run away after sex, you need to be up front with them tell them that you have kids and you want to build a good relationship and take it from there. dont have sex sooooooo soon, if he really likes you he will wait, make him earn your trust / respect go slow dont rush it, some guys get scared if they sence this and hold back on saying the love word. freinds first.. heck i dont have to tell you this stuff, you know what you need to do, keep your faith, there truly is someone for each of us, God will send him to you and when it happens it will be like magic, ive dated both with and without kids some guys feel as if the kids will be in the way, not always true, im in a relationship with a woman that has 3 kids its great, i dont mind at all, what guys need to understand is this, your not asking them to be their father, they have one already, but they can still be apart of their life as a freind and who knows someday the guy may find that he may need one of them to return the favor, life is short and we all need someone.. dont give up, at one point i was ready to give up on looking for a good woman but i kept my faith went slow waited on sex, ( 2 months ) bout killed me, lol earned her trust held back on saying the love word, and it worked.. he is out there for you, dont be so easy play a lil hard to get, dont always answer his calls, this was all the things that she did to me, and you know what? she won my love for her and her kids.. i wish you the best just keep your faith......
2006-12-09 17:37:52 · answer #1 · answered by boots 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all im sorry to hear that this has happened to you... have the guys youve dated before met with you on the internet? If so, thats why they only want sex... 99.9% of guys on the interenet one one thing SEX so get out in the town go to a mall or something and if you see a guy you like and wanna know better just go up and start a conversation with him
2006-12-09 17:10:20 · answer #2 · answered by Andrew B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not just single moms, its all single women . Men seem to be after sex because there are so many women willing to give it to them with no expectations at all. Makes their lives lots easier. They call it friends with fringes, but its just sex with no strings. (I dont have sex with my friends). Somewhere there was a dumb bimbo who thought that sounded neat and now the rest of us suffer because the current myth is there are lots of women who just want sex. Lets be honest, thats not the kind of guy you want anyway. You will probably not find him on the web, although its not impossible. Unfortunately most dating sites are just supermarkets for the sex junkies. You need to start looking elsewhere, including school and church groups. Take classes and get the word out to your friends. Good luck.
2006-12-09 17:06:15 · answer #3 · answered by fancyname 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The right guy will show up one day when you least expect it. I refuse to go into a relationship based on sex, because it always turns out to be ONLY about sex. You just need to know what you are looking for, what your standards and expectations are, and stick to them. A guy worth having and keeping will respect you more for that.
2006-12-09 20:46:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put a guy through some challenges make him want to be with you. listen carefully to what he says in the first few days right it all down and analyze it. It is easy to tell what a guy wants just by knowing what his plans are for the first date.
2006-12-09 17:03:44 · answer #5 · answered by charleslitteral 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u might be lookin in all the rong places... better yet, don't look fer mr. right. ain't no such thing...
do your job, go to church, er what ever, live your life, take care of number one... you....... kids......
when this guy comes along, he will, u will know........ one day soon,, maybe not tomoro..... it will happen.......
took me a year an half of rodeos and races to find the rite one..... found HER while chattin to my cuzin on the radio one one nite...
we rote to each other fer a year, a couple of fone calls, some flowers..... then i finally met her, we dated fer another year.
been married now 25 years, hope fer another 25+
just live your life, he will show up one day, u will know.
2006-12-09 17:10:39 · answer #6 · answered by chevys4evr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm available. Sex isn't all that important to me since I am single. Womenm just don't bother getting to know me in rteal life. Let me get to know you. I'm sure something will happen. If you want you can email me at always_somethingbetter4u, I'm on yahoo.
2006-12-09 17:06:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess that counts me out, because I have no idea where you live . . .
2006-12-09 17:18:38 · answer #8 · answered by Say What? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋