Yes, I already know what I have gotten into, no need to remind me of that! He was not married when we met, although I knew he was with someone else. I also knew he would never leave her as he does not have the personality to do so. The only reason I kept and keep seeing him is because there is a completely indescribeable feeling of "perfect" when we are together. Even when we are not, I am happier than I have ever been. Yes, I know I should not see him out of respect for his wife, but at the same time, he is the one who makes all the effort to see me. It seems like the sex gets more and more intimate (not kinky...but rather real closeness) each time. I have spoken with a Psychologist and she wants me to make the decisons that I feel in my heart and head are right for me. This "relationship" feels right. It gives me all the love and closeness I want with the freedom to live a fulfilling life of travel and art, education. I enjoy having no ties anywhere...
2006-12-09 16:58:18 · 9 answers · asked by sweetsouth 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What are the consequences? You probably can figure them out better than anybody. Remember, he has already made a choice by marrying...and continues to make a choice by staying married. You, on the other hand, have limited your options. Sure you are "free" but you've tied yourself up and really aren't free. You're bound, obligated and "married" without any of the true benefits of a strong relationship. Is he honoring you? I won't ask if you're honoring yourself, you know the answer to that. But ask if he is honoring his wife, himself and you.
2006-12-09 17:04:15 · answer #1 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're really fooling yourself...there are ties.
You're just refusing to see them.
What happens if a child becomes involved?(yours or his)
So what if the two of you can handle it...What about the child?
I have never in my life heard of anyone being able to share their
mate, for any time at all, before it causes real trouble.
You have to be detached in some way to do that. It's not Love.....
It's playing house. It's immature and dangerous.
Psychologist get paid to say, "Whatever feels right."
You'll keep going to them, they'll keep taking your money,
you'll still have the same problems. Ask yourself this....
If your life is so perfect and your Psychologists so smart...
Why are you alone on your computer, asking us???
Are you sure you are the only girlfriend???
He's doing it to her, why wouldn't he do it to you???
2006-12-09 17:14:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to decide what you want and what trade offs are acceptable. Willing to spend Holidays with out him? If he were to have a major illness or accident, she would be the one at the hospital with him. If he died, would you be welcome at the funeral? Those are a few things to consider. I have known some women in long term affairs who were devastated by those situations.
2006-12-09 17:07:35 · answer #3 · answered by Cara Beth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IS it ok-you asked- NO-get a life- with a single guy-you are helping to destroy a marriage- you psych needs a psych and morals- you are paying her to tell you what you want to hear- how disgusting! Adultery is not a mature thing to do- d
2006-12-09 17:05:05 · answer #4 · answered by Debby B 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
On balance, I would say that you should seek happiness where you can. What you have is too rare and precious to be cast aside in the name of guilt. If you wish a salve to your conscience, you should remember that it is he who is betraying his wife, not you.
2006-12-09 17:23:50 · answer #5 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm interior a similar difficulty as you. i'm in contact with a guy who's married and that i do not opt for him to leave his spouse. i truly appreciate spending time with him, yet I also like having my freedom to do what i go with even as i go with too. If it feels accurate to you, then i ought to assert save doing what your doing. yet when your feeling to blame about the spouse, then you truly ought to opt for to guage chatting with him about it. previously I were given in contact with my guy, we sat down and suggested all of this. I knew going into it that he replaced into married. you in elementary words ought to adhere for your heart and if he makes you satisfied, then be with him. only be careful including your options and powerful luck.
2016-11-30 09:25:55 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think it is not okay to see him. He is married. Also, it is not fair to his wife. You need to discuss how your feeling with him.
2006-12-09 17:02:33 · answer #7 · answered by brooke992002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a booty call if he felt the same way then he would only be with you. I think you should force him to choose.
2006-12-09 17:01:11 · answer #8 · answered by charleslitteral 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
KEEP DOING IT HE IS MARRIED NOT YOU. HAVE FUN BUT KNOW THERE IS A 90% CHANCE HE WILL NEVER LET HER GO.
2006-12-09 17:03:37 · answer #9 · answered by vanessa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋