My mom got mad @ me a few weeks ago and all of a sudden she's like idk if I can trust u wit boyz now bcuz I was gone let U date when U got older. Then I said what do u mean LET ME DATE??? So she is basically being unfair I mean come on I think that I am attractive and guys tell me the sam ething and I have had alot of boyfriends b4. So Do u think I need to come out and tell my mom I am dating s guy rite now bcuz me and him honestly think that we love each other very much. I know this sounds crazy 4 sum1 my age but he's kinda getting frustrated wit me sayin "he's tired of being my dirty little secret". Sjhould I finally come out and tell my mom how I feel about Jason????
2006-12-09 16:57:12 · 9 answers · asked by •○•TaTiLoVeSyOu•○• 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You want to live your own life? Can you fully support yourself financially? Do you have an education, a job, the ability to make wise decisions for your life? If you are still your mom's dependent, you need to abide by her rules! Open your mind, consider that she wants what is best and safest for you, that she has a lot more experience and wisdom than you have at your present age...Talk to her without the anger and defensiveness...and listen also. It's her job as a mom to protect you from your own immaturity.
2006-12-09 17:05:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know how old you are but if you are over 18, its your life. maybe your mom wants you to get an education first. men can be very distracting. i tell my daughter that boys are better off being friends, concentrate on school work because in the end she has to land that job, apartment and the lifestyle that she wants. you dont want to depend on a man to give you what you want in life. there are no guarantees. later find the man with the same ambitions. all she wants is for you to be happy. she doesnt want you to get hurt or feel any kind of pain that goes along with boyfriends and such. you took her by surprise and now she feels like she failed to keep you from the things that could change your future. if you are in high school, show her your grades and reassure her that you will not let them drop or will improve. as for your boyfriend he should understand how your mother feels and maybe talk to her when you have her calmed down. if he really loves you he can wait patiently. if not and he keeps nagging too, he is selfish and you should stay wary of his behavior too. do you see yourself with him for the rest of your life, children and growing old together? if no, then you need to rethink if its all worth the grief that you are putting your mom through. when you have children you are going to want the same for yours and you will realize why your mom is behaving so crazy right now. if youve have boyfriends in the past maybe this guy will be part of the past too?
2006-12-09 17:31:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First your mother is your LAW, she calls it as she see fit, not you! When you start paying rent, food, your own clothes, with YOUR earned money, and the LAW does not hold her responsible, you get a little say, providing she allows it!
You are an ungrateful child, to have the nerve to belittle your mother, even worse, publicly!
Who pays for that place where you sleep?, Who brought your butt into this world? Who feeds you? Where do you get the money that you are spending? Who paid for the clothes on your back? Who takes care of your ungrateful butt when you are sick!
And what do you do for all of this? How much do you contribute to the well being of the family?
If she said no boys! Then it is no boys! You don't like that, move out and pay your own rent, buy your own food, and clothing.
Doesn't look like you are doing to well in school either, judging by the grammar utilized in you complaint.
2006-12-09 17:25:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is your mother, you live in her house, and I assume you're not paying rent? Therefore, her place, her rules! If you don't like it go to court and become an emancipated minor. Try paying $1200 a month apartment rent on minimum wage. And you'll probably have to quit school, as you can't work enough hours to feed and house yourself, plus try to get an education.
Why are you being so mean and angry to someone who really only wants what is best for you? You won't believe this, but until you become an adult, you really don't know what love is.
2006-12-09 17:02:13 · answer #4 · answered by mvsopen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, and depending on your age... your mother might just be right about letting you date when you get older. I know you hate to hear it... but parents are only looking out for you. If you're too young...then a relationship may be too much for your age... so ask your mom why she feels the way she does. You will learn a lot!
Truly
ElleXiz
2006-12-09 17:01:02 · answer #5 · answered by Ellexiz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom just wants the best for you and when you are older you will thank her because you will realise that all those crushes you had were not worth you losing your mother's trust I KNOW IT SOUNDS CLICHE, but if and when you have a daughter of your own, you will do the same thing to her.
2006-12-09 17:06:19 · answer #6 · answered by ShellyBelly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This book should be read by women and teenage girls or even anyone who has ever felt lonely or misunderstood, it's amazing,
http://astore.amazon.com/mwer-20/detail/0670061050/103-6324135-9835818
2006-12-10 07:12:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to talk to your mom and remember - she is just worried for you and wants your life to be good.
2006-12-09 17:00:32 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
burn her a CD of the song "It's My Life" by Bon Jovi.
2006-12-09 17:00:59 · answer #9 · answered by Usamah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋