How do you prepare your heart to lose someone that's been a major part of your life from day one?

Question

My grama just had congestive heart failure and has some major blood clots ,the dr' say's if they travel to her heart she'll die ,her brain ,she'll have a stroke .There trying to desolve the clots ,she's too fragile for surgery .I know I don't take grief well .In the past few years I've lost alot of people ,When my dad died I bearly left the house for two years .I'm just not ready to lose her she's the person I talk to every day ,she's alway's been the one that got me through losing people and she's the one I count on to help me with my kids,I'm not ready for her to go and probably never will be .I have kids to raise and I'm afraid of how far down I'm going to go this time .Is there something you can do before someone dies to help you deal better when It comes?and please pray for grama?

Answer 1

In preperation, may we pray, not only for the dying,
But for those who they leave behind,
The ones who keep on trying,
To make the world a better place,
With blood, sweat and tears,
It is my opinion that Grama wants Mudder,
To stay strong for many years.
Her heart may be at a weak point,
It's beat may not be strong,
But she's headed for a better place,
I know I am not wrong,
Please, don't allow the pain of losing,
To force you to lose yourself,
You may have a loved one who writes a book,
You maynever take from the shelf.
I'm sorry I took so long to answer,
I'm failing to do my part....
The fact you took time to care,
Is a knock at the door of my heart.
My prayers for you are fervent,
My mind is in your state,
It seems when those I care for are hurting,
It's the feeling I tend to hate....
I will not allow you to fall so far,
As you've lifted my spirits a time or two...
I'm here to say that your a special person,
And strong enough to make it through!
Have a great Day/Night.

Answer 2

The only thing I can offer is..... you know she might pass on to "heaven" start prepping yourself for the pressure and pain also the loss of a beloved family member. Always remember you do have to beautiful children to be strong for too. This will be a very difficult time for you but be strong. There is a song called "The holes in heaven" not sure who sang this but it was a counrty song very beautiful song it just might help you through this possible loss. But I will pray that your grama pulls through to be there with you . Always remember everyone you love are there watching over you.

Answer 3

I'm so sorry to hear about your grandmother, but medical miralcels happen all the time so don't give her up yet, but prepare yourself for the worst, which it sounds like your working on. There's no way to prepare your heart for such a loss, but you can make the most of the time that you have left with her. Talk to her about EVERYTHING, tell her all of the things that are in your heart. Tell her your sorry for all of the things that you may still feel any guilt or shame over, don't let her go leaving things unsaid. Tell her how much she means to you, how she's made your life special, or changed your life, talk to her about some of your best memories of the good times that you have shared with her, and things like you'll think of her when you hear a certain song, see a certain flower, what ever will remind you of her.
You have a gift (knowing that your going to lose your grandmother before long), and that gift is that you are being given the chance to tell her all of those things that you wouldn't get if she were to go suddenly without any warning. Not everyone gets the chance to say all of those important things like I'm sorry, and I love you,ect..make this time with her special. And don't be afraid to grieve her loss when she's gone. When we experience grief for those we've lost, it's showing praise to those that we have lost, it's telling them just how much they were cared about and how much they are missed, when we grieve for someone that we have lost, we are honoring their lives. Their spirits are hearing and feeling our grief, but their spirits feel praise. The more we show our grief over their loss, the more they know they were/are loved and missed.
Even after she's passed over, you can stil talk to her daily, and if your quiet and listen carefully, you'll be able to hear her answers in your heart. The only thing that is really gone, is their bodies. Their souls and spirits are still with us, and you will be able to gain from her strength, and wisdom, from all of the things that she has shown and taught you over the years, that is something that will always be with you, from all of the years that you shared together.
I will keep both you and your grandmother in my prayers.
If you want, you can e-mail me. My e-mail is [e-mail]

Answer 4

Sweety, there is no preparation for this sad event. Time makes things more tolerable but time does not heal the hurt of missing the loved ones.

My beloved Grandma died 15 years ago tomorrow, on Dec. 10. She was 92 years old and she had been very sick for six months but I was not prepared for her death. I remember her every day and bless her memory.

Keep your faith in your religious beliefs. Pray for the ones you love. Honor your relatives living and dead with a good constructive life.

You will see them again soon; it is promised.

Answer 5

Nothing ever prepares for you the death of a loved one. If you can say the things that you would like to say to your grandmanow while you can. My family live in regret that they did not say how much they loved our mum. We will pray for you. What has helped me through is the support of friends and church and grief counselling. I think you should find a grief counsellor to help you prepare for the eventual loss. Remember that grandma will live in heaven forever. Email me if you want.

Answer 6

Be glad that you have this time to say goodbye and to tell her all these wonderful things you have said about her. Not everyone is given that time to say goodbye. I was lucky enough to have that time with my own mother, and can take peace in the fact that I know I left nothing unsaid. She was in a coma at the end, but I believe she heard me. You can put closure to this and begin healing now, even while she is still with you. I will pray for your grandma, and you and your children. My children will never know their grannie.

Good luck and all my prayers....

Answer 7

pray, pray, pray. for guidance, peace of mind, assurance, YOUR and your family's health. there is no way u can truly prepare yourself for such a loss, but prayer does have an amazing way of easing the pain.
the best thing to do is to STAY BUSY. i mean it. sitting around the house thinking only of things that you cannot help or change simply does nothing. you have no control over your grandma's situation except thru hope and prayer. therefore you must focus on making the best of what time you still have with her, recalling the happy memories you have shared with her, and turning towards those who need you-- your family.
this is not an easy time nor do i promise that it will be easy in the future. i do assure you, however, that keeping in touch with God and staying busy and focused on those around you will get u thru this difficult time. my prayers are with you and your family.

Answer 8

Your heart will never get over losing anyone you love. I lost both of my grandparents and I miss them so much. They both died suddenly and I did not have the chance to say goodbye. I also lost my younger sister five years ago and it still hurts every day. You will get to spend time with her and say goodbye. That is more then a lot of people get, we never had the chance to say goodbye.

Answer 9

I have gone through many losses like that ad I understand. My Dad died due to cancer and my sister passed away last year. I have recently published a CD to help others cope with the lose of a loved one.

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Answer 10

You are prepared, You know its coming and the best thing you can do is wish for a painless end and always keep her memories in your heart.
You both have my prayers.