My Dog died today...and i have my heart crushed.?

Question

i have had my labrador since i was 4 now i'm 16, she got brutally hit by a car when she was about 8....its amazing she lived this age but i have been crying all day...tears are coming outta my eyes as i type...i just wanted to know how can i let go of her? it hurts.

Answer 1

Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....

Author unknown...

Answer 2

I am so sorry to hear that. I have had many dogs over my lifetime, and I am only 22 years old right now. I too do not handle the passing of a dog very well at all. I cry and just let it out. I keep the collar hanging on my photo wall next to the happiest photo of that dog that I have. I write a memoir of the dog and frame it. This does not stop the pain, but it does alleviate it for some time.
I wish you the best and I hope you can stop crying soon. But do not be afraid to cry.

Try to remember that your loving Labrador is running amock in heaven chasing the birds on free limbs and is barking like mad because he is young again.
That is what helps me when I think of any of my passed dogs.

God Bless.

Answer 3

I am really so sorry from the bottom of my heart. I understand. Because my dog died this past monday at around 2 am in the morning. I have had my Tommy since I was 5. I am turning 21 tomorrow. My Tommy was about to turn 15 a week after he died, this Monday, the day after my bday. I also cry sooo much and I feel like i cannot bare it. The only thing keeping me from falling into a depression is my family. I feel so scared of loosing anyone else so I dont want to take them for granted and ignore everyone because I am so upset. Ive had my Tommy for sooo long and not being able to hold him now hurts so much. Please email me if you want to talk about ur doggy because I wouldnt mind. I've also been trying to find out how other people are coping. I feel like i will never move on. My family wants me to buy another dog now but I told them im not ready. I cant tell you how to let go of your precious laborador because I do not know how to let go of my baby Tommy. Email me if you want to talk to someone whos going thru the same thing and the same time. Im so sorry again for you loss. Im sure your doggy is in heaven with mine.
God Bless.
ps. rainbow bridge is a beautiful poem but if you read it it will only make you cry worse. that poem has drained so many tears out of me.

Answer 4

Hon you can't. I ma so sorry you lost your dog. My heart aches for you! Time will pass and you will be able to bare it but you will never actually get over it. I am 53 now. I have never had less than 2 dogs at any given time. When they leave us they leave a hole in our lives and hearts, the part they filled, and those holes will nver be full again. But as time passes the pain will become dull.

And you know there are so many of us that love our pets so deeply. A place without our pets could never be heaven. I think the Lord knows this and our pets are there waiting for us.

Just allow you rself to grieve for you pet. It is the best thing you can do and the only real road to healing.

Answer 5

I am so sorry for your loss. Of course your heart is crushed. I understand completely. My best friend for four years died last year of torsion and bloat. He was only 6 years old and I had adopted him right before his second birthday.

You can look back, with joy, on the 12 happy years you had together. You may want another companion, someday, but allow yourself the time to grieve. And know that no other animal can ever take his place.

I got another Dane to replace my Duke two weeks after he passed, but I had other reasons for it. His constant companion, Lady, was grieving so badly that I thought I would lose her, too, if I didn't get her a new friend. She went off food, just about stopped drinking water, and wouldn't go out to play without him. She would go out and come right back to the door to come back in the house.

I caught myself calling Atticus 'Duke' a couple of times when I first got him, but the two are nothing alike.

Basically, what I'm saying is everybody grieves differently. It's quite alright to cry. You've suffered a great loss; he had been with you more years than not. It will probably take months for you to really realize that he's not coming back. Just allow yourself the time and opportunity to let your heart heal. It won't feel like that forever.

Another thing to do is to talk about him as much as you feel like it. I have found that talking about those you miss makes the hurts heal a little faster. Believe me, I know what I'm talking about. I'm almost 40 years your senior. I've had a lot of losses in my life, many of them canine. I still miss Duke and his predecessor, Sir Duke of Mozart, but, I've finally stopped crying. In time, you will, too.

Answer 6

You will never let go! Over time the pain will ease up some but she will always be in your heart. I know because in the last three years three of my dogs have gone to the Rainbow Bridge.
There is a poem about the Rainbow bridge that you can find on line. It may help to ease your pain some.
I do sympathize with you. Losing a pet is like losing a family member. It's okay to cry and grieve. There would be something wrong with you if you didn't...

Answer 7

I'm Still Here
Friend, please don't mourn for me
I'm still here, though you don't see.
I'm right by your side each night and day
and within your heart I long to stay.
My body is gone but I'm always near.
I'm everything you feel, see or hear.
My spirit is free, but I'll never depart
as long as you keep me alive in your heart.
I'll never wander out of your sight-
I'm the brightest star on a summer night.
I'll never be beyond your reach-
I'm the warm moist sand when you're so fond,
The clear cool water in a quiet pond.
I'm the first bright blossom you'll see in the spring,
The first warm raindrop that April will bring.
I'm the first ray of light when the sun starts to shine,
And you'll see that the face in the moon is mine.
When you start thinking there's no one to love you,
You can talk to me through the Lord above you.
I'll whisper my answer through the leaves on the trees,
and you'll feel my presence in the soft summer breeze.
I'm the hot salty tears that flow when you weep
And the beautiful dreams that come while you sleep.
I'm the smile you see on a baby's face.
Just look for me, friend, I'm everyplace!
Author Unknown
my heart is with you.................

Answer 8

Time heals all wounds, supposedly. And supposedly the soul can have no rainbows without tears. I'm still waiting for my rainbows....

It hurts I know. And it will hurt for a while. Just let it, don't try to hold it in and don't be ashamed. Dogs wiggle their ways into our hearts and even though we know we'll lose them someday we still would have it no other way. You will hold your little girl again someday of that I am sure. It's just the wait that takes so long.

Remembering Our Past Pets

We have a secret, you and I that no one else shall know,
for who but I can see you lie each night in fire glow?
And who but I can reach my hand before we go to bed
and feel the living warmth of you and touch your silken head?
And only I walk woodland paths and see ahead of me,
your small form racing with the wind so young again, and free.
And only I can see you swim in every brook I pass.
and when I call, no one but I can see the bending grass.

Answer 9

I'm so sorry to know that you're going through this, but try to remember that the measure of your grief is a measure of the love you had for her.

Don't try to let her go today. Don't give yourself a timetable at all. We don't have the ability to schedule our love into timeslots. Instead, let yourself feel all the pain and grief. It may hurt for a very long while but eventually the pain does ease and you'll be left with loving memories.

For now, try writing about her. In fact, why don't you edit your question and tell us a bit about her? What's your best memory? What do you wish you could say to her right now?

Those of us who are animal lovers will help you with the healing process.

And be sure to read about the Rainbows Bridge...this site helped me a lot when Brisby passed.

Answer 10

When put in the situation of losing a beloved pet, many people might wonder whether it is something wrong to have such intense feelings of grief and pain. Most of them are even taken by surprise to see that they feel worse than if they had lost a friend or relative.

The explanation is simple, as most pet owners in the United States regard their pets as members of the family. Furthermore, more people have pets than children, so it should all be clear by now.

Depending on the part a family member has played in our daily lives, the significance of our relationships with him or her and also on the strength of our attachments to that person, we may react differently when a sudden death occurs. This is the same for people and animals.

Pets are the picture of devotion and availability and are our best source of unconditional love, becoming for many of us the ideal child, parent, mate or friend. No matter how much change we must endure in our lives, our pets are always there for us. They can listen without judgment or reproach. The bad
thing about it is that they never give advice. They just accept us exactly as we are, no matter of how we look or feel or behave. They forgive us at once and never hold anything against us. Nowadays even the word pet, which implies ownership of one creature by another, is used less often in the professional literature than the term companion animal, which implies mutual
friendship.

Pets are a constant presence in our daily life. We share with them happiness and sadness all the same. They are there when we drink our coffee in the morning, and need our help to toilet, feed, water, exercise and groom. They want us to play with them and even greet us joyfully when we come home to them and may even sleep with us in our beds at night. There is nothing we
cannot do with our pets. We can touch them, stroke them, pet them, hug them, even kiss them, and tell them our troubles. People often share their deepest secrets with them.

So, the way people get attached to their pets may differ from individual to individual, but the result is still the same. We just love them and there is nothing that can be done to change that. Sometimes our love for pets even goes beyond their death, causing us to grief and feel an enormous pain in our hearts.

It will get better with time. Hang in there.