I am a hairstylist and so is my sister, she has been doing my Mothers hair for years. with in the past year her and my mom had many disagreements. She told my mom she would not do her hair anymore. (Childish)! So I took over and did her hair. Mom Forgave her and she went back to doing her hair again! Just about 8 months ago my sister had a another fight with mom and said my mom needed to call me and get me to do her hair she was not doing her hair anymore? So I have been doing Moms hair for about 8 months now. Just 2 days ago Mom calls me and says I saw your sister today at the salon and she did my hair, my sister claims to give me a break? lol... I went to my moms house every friday to do her hair. So, My mom told me she is going back to my sister.. I said FINE! I feel very hurt because I was there when my mom needed me every time my sister decided she did not wanna do moms hair and play her childish games, when my mom is 78 yrs old... am I over reacting?
2006-12-09 16:28:12 · 12 answers · asked by inthemood 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes I think probably you are.
My mother, rest her soul, started to have Alzheimer's disease I believe earlier than she should. She would say things and forget and say something else to someone else and forget what she'd said and sometimes it created a problem.
After a while we realized that she didn't mean half of she said, and would simply for get the rest . You are dealing with someone who is 78 years old.
You need to cut her some slack. Trust me, it simply isn't worth getting upset over. I hope your mother is still around for many years and still has good health. You see, there will come a time when her hair will need to be done but she just doesn't feel good enough to have it done.
What we found with our mother was that those days became closer and closer together. And finally, she didn't care if she even had hair.
2006-12-09 16:41:03 · answer #1 · answered by Gnome 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't take it up with your mom, I don't think she is trying to hurt you. What I would do is get a hold of your sister and give her a good shake and ask her why she insists on arguing with your 78 year old mother. I hope she is with us for a lot longer but your sister needs to realize that she may not be and to Cherish every day she has left with her.
2006-12-09 16:32:33 · answer #2 · answered by medicswife23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister sounds as though she over reacts quite a bit. However, being that your mom is 78 and you only have one, for that sake I would just keep dealing with it. For the sake of your mothers happiness. She will not be around for ever, and you will miss her when she is gone. So just deal with the silliness of your sister. No, I don't think you are over reacting, however, try not to let it bother you. Your sister sounds as though she has some serious issues. Good luck and God bless****
2006-12-09 16:33:52 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No - I think this is just a little "politicking" amongst the 3 of you. Let yr sis do when she wants to, I'm sure you enjoy the "freedom" from your mom from time to time. I suspect your mom is acting up a little (she sounds like a little niece here) and probably waiting to see the differing reaction from her 2 daughters. My mom's quite like her, but I am probably a little too detached to feel what you are feeling.
2006-12-09 17:05:56 · answer #4 · answered by PikC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are over reacting to this.. that is your mother and sister and she is prolly putting up with this because she loves her and wants to keep a relationship with her... Some times sibling are hard to deal with and parents who take it are harder to understand..... Just be there for your mother when your sister acts like a child... She will be grateful for it in the long run
2006-12-09 16:36:12 · answer #5 · answered by evil_fallen_angel41 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, they are both being childish. Why can't you both do her hair? This is silly of them! Next time, tell Mom - no, I'm not getting involved and having you use me.
2006-12-09 16:39:37 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All 3 of you sound like a group of 4 year olds. you all need to grow up.
2006-12-09 16:31:46 · answer #7 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let it be. when mom calls say you are all booked up an cant make it to do her hair for a few weeks it will set her strait
2006-12-09 16:37:57 · answer #8 · answered by rodeogirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like yr sister knows exactly what she is doing...she may be attention seeking through yr reaction...she is the one over-reacting not you, you are reacting to her behaviour...just do what is in your heart for yr mum, ignor her...good luck!
2006-12-09 16:35:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Save the drama for your momma.
Get a life!
2006-12-09 16:34:03 · answer #10 · answered by txguy8800 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋