family help?

Question

i lost my grandpa lost week from cancer an every time i think of him i get real depressed='[ any good suggestions?

Answer 1

I am so sorry for your loss. You are going to have to give yourself time to grieve for your grandpa. It just happened last week so of course you are still very sad and depressed about it and that's totally normal and okay. Do you have anyone that you are close to that you can talk to? What about other family members? You might feel better going to a therapist. Go to one that is specifically trained in grief counceling.He/she will be able to guide you through the various stages of the grieving process and they are also great to just talk to and get your feelings out. I know it doesn't feel like it right now but there will come a day that thinking about him won't hurt this bad. You will be able to think about the happy times that you and he shared. I hope this helps a little and again, I am sorry for your loss.

Answer 2

When you lose someone, it hurts really really bad for the first little while, but eventually the pain does lessen. I know at first it can seem like you'll never feel the same again, but life goes back to normal suprisingly quickly. However, to use an analogy that may or may not work, just because the wound has stopped bleeding doesn't mean the scar ever goes away completely. You do reach a point where you're not sad all the time and you can look back on your memories of that person with happiness, but it will still twinge a little to think about them. One of my friends died over a year ago and I started missing him last night totally randomly.
It's good to have someone to cry and reminisce with. Your other relatives are probably feeling the same way that you are. You should talk to them; you can help each other out. And if you're really having a hard time (I'm not sure how to quantify that because everyone has a really hard time when someone they love dies) you can see a grief counselor.
I don't know what your religious beliefs are but I personally believe that I will see my deceased grandpa and my friend again someday, and this helps somewhat, but it still doesn't ease the pain completely and that's okay. If you are religious, you can also consider talking to your church leader about this.

Answer 3

When Someone You Love Dies :
- "It Can't Be True!"
- Is It Normal to Feel This Way?
- How Can I Live With My Grief?
- How Can Others Help?
- A Sure Hope for the Dead
- Some Practical Suggestions
- Helping Children Deal With Death
- Texts That Comfort
http://watchtower.org/e/we/index.htm

The above is an on-line brochure designed for those who are facing the death of a loved one. I suggest that you read it over, maybe more than once. It is also available in print, and as an audio. You can get the printed brochure, or request an audio of it, at any Kingdom Hall ...
http://jw-media.org/people/worship.htm

Answer 4

I lost my grandpa about....11 years ago. SO depressing, all I can say is try ti think of all the good things about him...all of the things that made him special to you. Also, know that your grandpa is not in any pain. His journey here is done.....I am sure he lived a full life...whether it was short or long. I still think about my grandpa to this day and sometimes I still get choked up. This is normal...give yourself time..it's only been a week.
Remember this about mourning.................
It hurts because your heart doesn't know that the relationship is over.
So, let yourself mourn...it is healthy...every time you cry..it is only because your mind is reminding your heart.
Your love for him will never go away....EVER!
I am very sorry for your loss...I know how bad it hurts......just know that he loved you too!!!

Answer 5

I am sorry for your loss! Unfortunately, we all must confront grief at some point and we must deal with it so it doesn't consume our lives. One thing you can do is to write a letter to your grandpa as if you were going to mail it, but you don't. In that letter (it can be as long as you want) tell him how much you love him and how he influenced your life. You will cry and feel different emotions, but it will be very good to do that. This is a good way to get the sadness out in the open so you can move on. You will always miss him, but remember the good times and you can always write another letter whenever you want.

Answer 6

Keep busy! I know it's hard but in time things will get better for you. Remember your grandpa is at rest and also your grandpa wouldn't want you to be depressed when you think of him, think of all the good things you and your grandpa did together. Hope this helps you!
Bruce

Answer 7

Sorry to hear about your loss, I loss a close person to me over acouple of months ago. Just remember the good times. Keep busy if you can and seek grief counselling.Grief takes time and you will not feel happy for a while. We all undergo the journey of grief. Pehaps write your feelings down in a diary.

Answer 8

Surround yourself with ppl who knew your grandpa and also miss him. They will give you the sympathy and support you need. There is always one cruel person out there waiting to kick you when your down...don't listen to them! That person is mean and cruel, perhaps they've never known love. I lost my grandpa 6 years ago. I took it very hard. I went to my doctor and told him that I couldn't stop crying or better yet--I was a cry baby all of a sudden after his death. I could cry at the drop of a dime. He prescribed me Zoloft. It got me thru the hardest months which immediately followed his death. I wish you luck and morn your loss with you. God Bless you and your family in your time of need.

Answer 9

So sorry for your loss. What you are experiencing is grieving and it is necessary for you to move on. When I grandpa died and I was sad I would always think about the funny things he did or how he cared for me and that makes me smile and feel better.

Answer 10

I'm sorry for your loss. You have to grieve. It's natural and healthy. Go ahead and cry until you can't anymore. Have your own personal memorial for him, remembering him and all the good things he did. Remember his love for you will never die, and your love for him will never die.

Grieving is a process and it takes time. Take all the time you need. Remember that he wouldn't want you to be sad, he'd want you to live your life and find happiness. Celebrate the time you had with him and be happy for him that he's not suffering anymore.