Why or why not? Thanks! :)
2006-12-09 16:24:39 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Only for quick flings that start hot and burn out before you know it! When you have little in common eventually you get tired of searching for something to do, or talk about that will interest both of you. Even sex gets boring when you can't find common ground to communicate what you want. The trick is having enough in common to keep things going, but having enough that is different to keep it interesting. Good luck!
2006-12-09 16:29:37 · answer #1 · answered by DoctorJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!!! I am a country girl who likes being around people, though NOT in a party situation...I just hate being cooped up. The guy I am divorcing is much more city than I am country. He would just as soon stay locked up in the house all day watching TV or being on the computer. I need to be in the mountains or the beach or just about anywhere outside.
I do believe that two people have to have enough in common that they can go out and do things they both enjoy. But it's also good if they have difference. Maybe they can teach each other how to do something they like (quality time right there) or it would be something they can go out to do with just their friends and get their "friend" time. I believe that couples need couple time and individual time.
2006-12-09 20:56:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Noway...i thnk for there to be a connction to your partner there has to be some similarites. If he like s foot ball and she likes opera then, ok there may stil be a chance....but i guess what im saying is that you kinda have to be on the same intelligence level.
Like if i was with someone "smarter" than me the ni would always feel inferior, and if i was with someone "dumber" tan me then i would alawys feel impateint with the person would couldnt grasp my abstract ideas.
Also, you have to have similar values, like a jew and a chritian would not work out. As well and atheist and theist is doomed from point A.
Ok like i used to think a shy person and a outgoing persn would be perfect for each other becuase they would balance each other out. But now if you think about it, woulnd the outgoing person become overbearing to the shy person...wouldnt the shy person become exaperating to the outgoing person. After the sexual attraction is gone, what is left...two ppl who dont have anything in common, and thus not happy in their relationship.
yeah you dont want someone EXACTLY like you, that would be weird...but you want some who enjoys the same things you do and shares the same beliefs/personality/intelligence level...because you want someone you can get along with you not annoy the crap outta you....lol
thats my two cents luv,
peace and love- chai :)
2006-12-09 16:40:08 · answer #3 · answered by chai 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are universal laws of similarity and attraction. Generally speaking they run like this; like attracts like, similar things attract similar things. Having said that, look carefully at what you're calling "opposites". Mostly we seem to attract what we feel we lack in ourselves. So if you're compulsively neat you might attract someone who is a little looser in his personal habits. If you hate to dance you might find yourself attracted to a dancer. Does this mean "opposites attract"? I think not. I believe, as I said above, that we tend to attract what we feel we lack in ourselves. This way, as a couple, we complement each other and become a couple with a wholeness that is good and strong. Sort of.
2006-12-09 16:30:18 · answer #4 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do agree with opposites attract. being in a relationship with someone that i never thought i could ever be with due to out differences in lifestyles growing up and just our differences in other areas, ive since found out that its for those reasons i love him so much. we are so different but its all good. i think if we were the same it would end up being a very dull life. we love to debate issues and respect each other beliefs.
2006-12-09 16:29:03 · answer #5 · answered by vanessaoz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I do. My husband and I are total opposites. When we got married, bets were made as to how long we would be married. The top bet was 6 months. That was 18 years ago.
2006-12-09 16:29:41 · answer #6 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, opposites attract. I'm extroverted and my mate is totally introverted. I bring spontaneity into the relationship, whereas he always cool, calm and collective. I teach him how to have fun and hang loose; whereas his calmness and patience brings me down to earth...Why would I want someone like me? It would be too much drama. I want someone who can teach me how to slow down sometimes and I do not always have to be the "life of the party" He's truly my soul mate, his patience, attentiveness and understanding is what the doctor ordered! Whenever I am calm, he thinks something is wrong with me... I told him, I can be laid back sometimes too!
2006-12-09 16:36:12 · answer #7 · answered by motherkc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To a point, yes. It's like pieces of a puzzle fitting together.
The one compliments the other .. what one lacks, the other has.
2006-12-09 16:31:02 · answer #8 · answered by Kalia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I believe in it.
I think people find characteristics they don't have attractive in another person.
I'm a bit flighty and my husband is very laid back and grounded.
2006-12-09 16:29:09 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Psychologists say that we're attracted to people most similar to us
2006-12-09 16:28:56 · answer #10 · answered by goodbyewhite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋