I know throwing a bridal shower for yourself is ultra tacky and I'm not trying to do a gift grab I'm looking for a pre wedding event where gifts are not accepted but, I can spend sometime with my female guests. I'm not trying to bridezilla but, all plans are done way to far in advance and now it feels like there is just time passing and nothing to do and to be honest I feel a little neglectided as I am the first in my family that did not get a shower.I guess I just kinda want to hear the stories and maybe get some of the advice play the games etc. I have dropped hints that I wanted some type of get together held for me and no one took it up. My wedding is this New Years Eve I would also like to include underage guests. Any ideas? Or am I just being a spoiled brat? I have done almost everything by myself without asking for help as I didn't want to put anybody out (my maid of honor has a busy schedule and my other bridesmaid has a new baby)
2006-12-09 16:13:31 · 11 answers · asked by emmandal 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
This is my first wedding. I have waited to later in life (I'm 30) I have been told by mom that its not a mothers place because it is not socially right. both my future mother in laws live out of town. I do think I need something as I have had a lot of extra stress as all our parents are divorced and have requested not to be sitting near each other.My mom actually told me we should just elope and upon hearing that we booked a room in the hotel for the next day for a come and go open house she said what makes you think anyone will give you a gift.
2006-12-09 16:34:04 · update #1
You could have a "girls tea" or a pot luck...or a cookie exchange (those are fun around Christmastime). Have fun! :o)
2006-12-09 16:18:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anne C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you just want to spend time with your female guests why not do a spa day type thing whether at your home or at an actual spa. That why you can get pampered and have a chance to relax before the wedding. Other than that have a bridal shower and call it a bridal shower and just be specfic on the invitations in a polite way that you would prefer it if guest didn't bring gifts. But you know that there will always be one person who will bring a gift anyway just accept it and enjoy yourself.
2006-12-10 04:00:56 · answer #2 · answered by nicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is your first wedding, I'm very surprised that no one in your family or a close friend offered to plan a shower for you. I'm sad for you =( Many brides have a shower thrown that includes both families (his and yours) or have a shower for each side of the family. Maybe you should just come out and ask your mom or sister, MOH if there will be a shower or bachelorette party.
Throw any type of party you want to. You could even have a couples shower. Make it a potluck so you don't have as much food to prepare on your own or have it out somewhere and just tell your friends you want to get everyone together to have fun before your big day.
If its a second wedding (or second shower because of a wedding being canceled), then you shouldn't expect antoher shower.
2006-12-10 00:17:43 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you friends with any of the groomsmen? it doesnt have to be just a "girls night out" if you are good friends with one of the groomsmen, they should be just as important as your bridesmaids. im getting married soon. and my maid of honor is my best friend, but so is the best man. and my sister and i dont hang out much and my last bridesmaid is my fiance's sister, and we hang out sometimes, but always at a family gathering and the thought of going partying with her is a bit akward, so if none of your bridesmaids can and your mom won't, turn to other friends who might be more available and you didnt think of in the first place. even if they are much younger, like nieces or nephews, a fun outing where you could be a kid again would be wonderful. and if no one still, just go out and celebrate you engagement with you soon-to-be husband...if he doesnt party with you...its the dog house for him. lol jk...hope this helped.
ps...i would go party with ya!
2006-12-10 04:31:26 · answer #4 · answered by kirstencappuccio66 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had an afternoon drinks thing at my house. I asked for no gifts but for everyone to bring along their favourite recipe, this was the best gift ever! I got lots of different yummy sorts of recipes!
My girlfriend went pole dancing & had a porn party - like a tupperware party at your house but with fun sex toys - this was alot of fun!
Good luck with everything! :O)
2006-12-10 03:41:28 · answer #5 · answered by kirstymarie21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop it!!! that doesnt make u a spoiled brat & no one in their right mind would think so.. awwwwwww~ well some folfs just dont get hints or perhaps its gonna be a suprise 4 u??? i hope so , i really do (sad face) well how about a bachelorette party, or a girlz night out (ladies night)?? well good luck & best wishes honey!!!
2006-12-10 00:18:26 · answer #6 · answered by kimmiegaddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PARTY TIME!
Alas - the world is about to lose one of its truly great beauties to the bliss of marriage.
WHAT? - I don't have a clue? I'm in mortal danger of mixing the wrong colors in the living room? I am only allowed to interrupt how many hours of non-stop football?
HELP - A spectacular, no-gift, "Let it all hang out" party will be held ________________________.
YOUR PHENOMENAL HOST (me) wants some special time w/ the PHENOMENAL PEOPLE who have got me this far. Help launch the new USS ______ ___________.
2006-12-10 00:19:31 · answer #7 · answered by Joe Cool 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't host a shower for yourself, but there is nothing wrong with your mom doing it.
Don't feel bad if you don't have one - many brides do not.
2006-12-10 06:41:20 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just get all youre friends together and go to a sex shop.youll find everything you need there and im sure theyll buy you something
2006-12-10 00:38:52 · answer #9 · answered by starr67 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u & ur friends can get togather ,have a lucheon or have a mary kay party,
2006-12-10 22:26:23 · answer #10 · answered by patriciacallihan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋