Is it OK to say that to a guy I've met twice off a match-making site, to clarify that I am looking for a potential life partner and not a "dating" partner? He's already trying to get physical with me, and I'm thinking "hello, can we discuss first if we're even on the same page?"
But before I do that, I want to be sure that its OK to say it like that, and ask some people what the best way to say this is.
2006-12-09 15:54:43 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It worked for me. I didn't date any men who weren't looking to get married. Some people want to date, have fun, meet a lot of people, and keep it casual- that's fine. Some people are at a point in their lives where they want a serious partner- it's good to make that clear.
(If he's already trying to get physical with you, he sounds disrespectful and will probably stop calling if you have higher standards.)
2006-12-09 16:45:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Instead of interviewing them right off like they are applying for a job, why not just get to know someone first.? Maybe, it will eventually become obvious whether you are both on the same page. What use is it to ask the wrong guy? You won't really ever know without dating anyway. You need to invest time to find a marriageable guy . What is the hurry?
2006-12-09 16:06:22 · answer #2 · answered by PZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's probably less-scary ways of saying that, but I do think that it's important to get your expectations out there right away, before you get into a physical relationship.
Maybe start with a conversation about long-term goals and what you want out of your life. Tell him that you aren't looking to play around, that you're not in high school anymore (I would assume), and that you're looking for something long-term and meaningful. Getting it all out on the table will help make sure you're on the same page. Good luck!
2006-12-09 15:59:53 · answer #3 · answered by wnk 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well I certainly wouldnt put the marriage question up front like that.. cause you may scare away some man that eventually would marry you..
but you dont have to give up your morals to find a good man...
but if time is not your friend and you are in a hurry to marry and dont want to spend the appropriate time to get to know the potential spouse, then I cant help you there.. Men just are too scared off by the husband hunters..
2006-12-09 16:03:17 · answer #4 · answered by Mintee 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should write that on your profile so that the guys know it before hand. But then that might scare away a lot of guys.
2006-12-09 16:04:18 · answer #5 · answered by coolgurl261286 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you gotta date first in order to find mr. right/wrong to marry.
2006-12-09 16:43:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If that is what you are looking for ...tell them.. that way they wont wast your time ... any you his...Good luck... that way you will have more time to look for your Mr...
2006-12-09 16:17:33 · answer #7 · answered by sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marry with a rabine, or with a religius person.
2006-12-09 19:30:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
ay caramba!
2006-12-09 15:56:09 · answer #9 · answered by jonsinher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋