Black women: how do you REALLY feel about white women dating black men?

Question

Black women: how would you feel if your son or brother got into a serious relationship with, or married, a white woman? Would it make no difference to you, or would you have honest feelings about it, or an opinion? How would you describe those feelings or that opinion?

Someone retold me a comedy routine by a black man in which he said he would only take his white girls out at night, for fear of confrontation from the "sistas." When he came across a group of sistas, he would tell his white girl to walk ahead, that he had to tie his shoe. I have drained some of the humor in the retelling, but I think it was Shakespeare who said there was a bit of truth in every joke.

Answer 1

In a nutshell: Who Cares?!
I personally don't care about other people's relationships whether they are gay, straight, biracial, interracial, whatever, as long as it does not affect me or my family. I am in an interracial relationship myself (Black/Latin) and most of my relationships have been interracial. But honestly from what I can see it is the interracial couples who are more obsessed with their interracial relationships than other people are. I think this may have to do with the minority of people who have given them looks or comments and now they are on the defensive but I have noticed it. They seem to always try desperately to make eye contact with black women to see our reactions or show exaggerated public displays of affection to get people to notice, or talk really loud with each other and their children etc. To me it is akin to the way some homosexuals feel a need to let everyone know their preference. “I’m queer and I’m here!!!” Who cares?! I know that I might offend some people with my comments but it is the God's honest truth. I have even experienced it in my own relationships when I have dated some white men they feel a need to get noticed and flaunt our relationship by hanging all over me more than they would have in private. Even in my current relationship I also have this problem when my boyfriend (of 6 years) and I go to a place with a large number of Black or Latin people he feels a need to make sure everyone knows that we are together. I don’t know if it is his masculine ego where he doesn’t want anybody thinking that they can have me or if he is daring anyone to react negatively or what. It’s not that I am not ashamed of my relationship, I love my man and my children, but I don’t feel that it is necessary to flaunt a relationship like a “trophy”. I think that some people in interracial relationships need to stop worrying about what everyone else feels about their relationship, F’em. If you are with someone because you love them, then that is what matters.
As far as my children go, it would be very hypocritical for me to have a problem with them dating interracially being that they are biracial. I will admit that in my heart I want black grandbabies but whomever they decide to marry is their business as long as she treats them right. Actually no girl is probably going to be good enough for my boys no matter what race (LOL). But right now my oldest son has an affinity for Hispanic girls; I guess it is in his blood.

I know that I will get flamed for my response but I am just telling the gospel truth; sorry if you are offended.

Answer 2

I don't really care at all. It's not my business who someone dates and vice versa. My younger brother dates interracially, it doesn't bother me. It's not a betrayal, it's a preference. My grandfather is biracial, so it's normal to me. My mom never said I had to bring home a black guy. All she said, " If you find a guy, I would like to meet him." The people who make a big issue out of this have chips on their shoulders. Get over it, slavery ended 200 years ago. And the stereotype that black woman only date black men is false. I like experiencing different cultures. Plus, I usually get approached by white guys anyway. If you want to date out of your race, do it for the right reasons. I don't feel the need to bash black men. Why? because it doesn't change how they feel. Black women should date who they want, and so should black men. Stop with the double standards already. My dad has issues with it, but I told him, " A man is a man regardless of skin color."

Answer 3

honestly i could careless about it. i'm currently in an interracial relationship (he is white). i'm engaged and happy. i was raised to accept everyone and anyone so like i said...it makes no difference. as long as my family member is being treated properly, then the race doesn't matter. i do, on the other hand have a family member who is not happy about the race of my fiance.

Answer 4

I don't care for it too much honestly. My mother is white though so I know that is hypocritical. It just seems like a slap in the face to a black woman, almost a betrayal.

Answer 5

i dont think it depends on the color..like how u say "how do u feel black women"....it seriously depends on the person...i bet some black girls dont give a **** and i bet others think its terrible.....mean people would judge it...nice people whos opinion counts is what matters....i dont think anyone cares..except for maybe some people..like i said its deffly not the color its the personality of thoughs"black women"....by the way, i could be wrong for i am not a black women.........lol, sorry

Answer 6

I wonder why white women don't have high standards, in all honesty.

Answer 7

I don't care who dates who. It's your choice and if you are happy, more power to you. how could it be betrayal? i dont feel that way as no man, regardless of race, should be expected to date within his own race. if oyu feel its a slap in the face, you have taken it to a personal level and there must be something lacking in your life for you to feel that inadequate or disrespected.

Answer 8

it doesn't matter, we are all people, and attractive people come in all races/ethnicities. I REALLY do not care either way, as long as everyone's happy. I think it's important that people let go of the racism and prejudices from the past.