i AM really fat, what can i do, im so lost, feel i have tried everything, i will try just about anything!?

Question

ok, im AM really fat im 5'4 and about 13 1/2 stone, i have tried exercise and diets but im not getting any skinnier, i have no life, i cant even go out with my best friend, shes sooooo perfect not a stick but just right and i feel huge when im with her, i find myself not liking her and i hate that i feel that way, i know i really just hate myself and are trying to put that on anyone other than myself. i am nearly 19 and have been tryin to lose weight for about 6 years, i go up and down by about a stone and end up back here again. i eat through stress and in the last 6 years it aint been such a nice time in my life, my nan, uncle have died through MRSA my dads had a heart attack and september just gone the day i started college my grandad died falling out of a hospital bed. ive been told im depressed, who wouldnt be. i just need to be me again and i cant do that with this fat cow standing in the mirror looking back at me. it hurts that i cant talk 2my friends their all so thin. HELP

Answer 1

Everybody's body is different, so what might be a good weight-loss plan for someone else might not be for you. What you can do is try to cut out a lot of sugar, fat and starch from your diet. Try to base your diet on foods that have high fibre and lean protein - for example you can eat an egg for breakfast or cereal that is like bran flakes with skim milk, lean protein + salad for lunch, and lean protein + vegetables for dinner. Try and only drink water or tea (caffeine makes weight loss harder), take vitamin and calcium pills, and eat as much fruit and vegetables as possible but stay away from things like fruit juice which are often deceptively high in sugar. If you cook, don't use butter - replace it with something like olive oil. If you are going to eat things like bread or pasta make sure they are whole-wheat. Trim the fat off any meat before you eat and use Splenda instead of sugar. But make sure that you eat 3 full meals a day, or about 6 smaller meals, and DON'T starve yourself as this is a very bad way to lose weight. Try not to eat too late at night. Also, alcohol puts on a lot of weight, so try and drink less or not at all if you can help it, if you are going to, go for something like gin & tonic.

At the same time, make sure you exercise regularly for about half an hour every day. Even if you can jog for about 10 or 15 minutes, that's good. Make sure you build up a sweat. You need to increase your exercise by a little bit every week or your body will get too used to it. Any time that you can walk or take stairs, do so. And do a few sit ups in the morning and before you sleep (if you can even do 5 or 10 that's a good start). Remember to strerch as much as possible without hurting yourself as this is good for your muscles and makes you lose weight faster.

Don't weigh yourself, rather get some measuring tape and measure bits of your body - tummy, thighs, etc. Have realistic expectations, weight loss happens slowly but it will happen.

If in the next 2 months you have not lost anything, then you should go to the doctor. There's plenty of reasons why weight is hard to lose for some people, particularly metabolic reasons. Medication or a very specific diet may be for you.

In any case, remember: confidence is appealing. If you try and remember all the good things about yourself, you will look better and feel better and when you worry less you actually lose weight more effectively (stress puts on weight, especially if you eat when you feel bad!, so it might be good to have someone to talk to about the personal problems you are going through too). Remember you are doing something about it and that you have friends for a reason - because you're a likeable, interesting person - and that's the most important thing.

Good luck :)

Answer 2

You need to go under the care of a DOCTOR - the most successful weight loss programs are ALL under the direction of a physician. And do not "go on a diet" - change the way you eat, and what you eat. Try the "glycemic index diet" where food that is not absorbed quickly by the body is the primary source. You should also consider vegetarianism (but with fish for brain health) because you can eat a larger volume of food and have it contain less calories. If this does not work, you may want to consider one of the surgeries to "fool" your body into thinking that it is full. There are also new medical treatments other than surgery - "hoodia" is a plant that makes your brain think your hunger is more satieted is now available as a medicament. Above all else, get under the care of a physician - extremely sudden weight loss can be VERY dangerous. You will lose the most weight in the first part, and should lose about a pound a week or so after that. See a doctor, and best of luck to your success.

Answer 3

Girl I feel for you. First off, the way I do the math although it seems you are not slender, you are still very probably nicely curved. Just a bit TOO curved (in your opinion) in some spots is all. Next, take a good look at yourself and pick the best of yourself. Eyes? Smile? Hair? Legs? Make an effort to call attention to the best of yourself.
Diets. All of them - Atkins, South Beach, Dr Phil - leave you missing out on some essential nutrients. Consult your doctor before embarking on any of them please oh please. If you can persuade your GP to refer you to both a nutritionist/dietitian and a counselor, take all the help they will give you. I am in America with no NHS, and only a dim understanding of your NHS, but the "Alternative" medical fields can be highly effective if you have access to them. Acupuncture really does work when performed by a skilled practitioner. Sounds to me as if you need to revamp your life emotionally and physically. I personally would be more concerned about your self-image than about your weight. If your health is not limiting you, if you can still do things you enjoy, then get your head on straight first then worry about weight control. Heck, you don't want to lose a lot of weight suddenly anyway because not only can that be unhealthy but also new clothes are expensive. Now go find a mirror, smile at yourself and say something to yourself like "Hot Damm! I have great teeth!" and pat yourself on the back! Sure wish I had something magic and omnipotently wise to offer you, but this is the best I can do.

Answer 4

First of all Neo, shut your mouth, you aren't helping.

OK, to the question.

From what I can see, your problem has nothing to do with your eating (it's a side effect of other issues). You need to get your head straightened out. I don't mean that in a nasty way but everything you have said indicates depression and low self esteem. I don't mean to sound like some freaky self help guy but your problems will seem less insurmountable if you can get yourself liking yourself and not resentful of others for something that isn't their fault.

My suggestion is finding a psychiatrist you like and trust, don't be put off if the first one isn't right, it can take a while to find the right one. Once you have found them (kinda like dating I guess) you can start to get to work on the issues that are making you act and feel like you do. It's a long process.

The biggest thing is see a psychiatrist, not a psychologist. Nothing against psychologists in any way, they are also highly trained professionals, they are just unable to prescribe medications if they are needed. If your therapist says you need meds, don't be afraid of it but also question it and find out why they think you do. I am on mild anti depressants and they have made a massive difference to my life.

It will get better, just remember that you aren't the only one that has gone through this kind of thing. Hang in there and get some help, you don't need to do it alone.

Answer 5

I don't know where people get the idea that size 11 is bad. You are turning your weight into muscle and losing fat. Just keep it up. You can lift weights - use cans of soup or bleach bottles or anything you can hold. March in pace. Exercise to a TV exercise show or just to any music. Go to any steps in your house and step up, put both feet on the step, step down backwards, continue and increase the time you can do it. Cut down on the weekend treats. Make sure that any treat you have is small, small, small. Never eat out of the box. You are doing great so far, so just keep it up. Do not do anything unhealthy.

Answer 6

OK, please stop you are breaking my heart. would you talk to your best-friend the way you are talking about yourself? you are going through some really difficult times and you can not beat yourself up. it is just not help-full. there are things out there that work. exercise would help the depression. now if you have tried and i do mean tried everything. Atkins, weight watchers, south beach , just cutting back whatever is out there and seriously nothing has worked then maybe you could look into a weight lose surgery. it is a tool to help people lose weight also. i myself tried everything and failed. my eyes where starting to get blurred vision, i had gestational diabetes, i couldn't breath with my asthma, i have two children i wanted to be around for so i went and had lap band surgery where they put a band on your stomach and you slowly lose weight. you will want to talk to your doctors and make sure they will help you decide what is the best option for you. please though don't beat yourself up. you are loved.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

First, don't stress eat. That's where you're gaining all your weight (trust me, I know) second. The best and healthiest way to loose weight is to eat healthy and to exercise every day. I know it sucks but it works. Oh, and YOU HAVE TO STICK TO IT. Results don't just happen the day you start. That part sucks, I know. But its worth it. I've been working out and eating healthy for 3 weeks and I've lost 5 pounds each week. I know its not amazing but I feel so much better even seeing just 15 lbs off of my body. You have to respect yourself, and yes being stressed out and overweight is an aweful combo, but you just need some motivation. If your friends are truely your friends they will help you.
To loose weight you just need to follow 4 steps.
1.)eat healthy and exercise every day (you dont have to over do it. start small)
2.)stick to it.
3.)stick to it.
4.)STICK TO IT!

good luck!

Answer 9

Try the G.I. Diet which is recommend by several heart surgeons in Canada and the US, as well as by the Canadian heart and diabetes organizations

You won't lose weight quickly but the loss will be healthy and permanent.

Essentially, the diet involves eating less insulin producing foods and thus you feel less hungry.

http://www.gidiet.com

Answer 10

At the core it is a simple matter of burning more calories than you eat, but when you cut back, your body adjusts because it thinks food has become scarce, so it tries to use less energy. This makes it harder to loose weight. Sorry I don't have much advice, but use this knowledge to help you figure out what you are and aren't going to do!