I met an awesome man by accident and he made me feel like my life would be ok. Now all of a sudden I havent heard from him for almost a week. Dave(Jim) you know who you are don't I deserve an explanation
2006-12-09 14:56:29 · 16 answers · asked by krunch 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dear Heart:
I am not Dave (Jim) and I think you probably expect too much too soon. You say that man was your savior for two or three weeks. He was there at the right moment wasn't he ? Some people are crossing our path like that in a moment when we need someone so badly and it makes us feel like a million dollars so to speak! And that's when we begin the process of expectations for we desire to feel that way all of the time! Sometimes people are there just for a day and that's all it takes, or that's all they can give for reasons we do not know and because of that we become sad and feel rejected. Almost a week is not much dear Heart. Have a little bit of patience. Perhaps he'll contact you for Christmas ?
This would be nice, don't you think ? And it would come from his own initiative which is ever nicer! Be grateful for the time he could give you and perhaps there will be more of it ? Pressuring someone into an explanation for something like this sounds a bit unreasonnable to me. Please do not be offended. I don't mean to criticize you, just give you food for thoughts.
Good luck and have a beautiful week-end!
2006-12-09 15:18:57 · answer #1 · answered by montralia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same boat about a month ago. I thought I'd found the man I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. Then suddenly, 'poof' he disappeared!
I was playing pool online and found him again like two weeks later, and discovered he had been very ill in hospital and I had panicked for nothing. We're not the same as we were at the beginning, but we're still good friends and talk as often as possible. Maybe he has a reason that he can't explain. Please be patient, he may not be able to find you like my friend. He panicked when he couldn't find me either, lol.
Just wait a little longer, love, he may be ill or something may have happened that he can't control.
Good luck.
2006-12-09 23:09:04 · answer #2 · answered by kiwi_mum1966 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you just run out of things to say and you don't see the relationship going anywhere.
You move on is what you do.
When I was young I'd IM people and chat about anything. Now, I don't bother because friendship is based on shared experience and you are not going to get that through random IM's. I made one real life friend from IM and we met through a dating site so we actually met in person.
2006-12-09 22:59:53 · answer #3 · answered by Wyleeguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We can't depend on others to make us feel like our lives will be OK. Let it go. You are handing over your power and any man who pulls a disappearing act like that isn't worth a grain of salt or a minute of your time. You deseve better than that don't u think?
2006-12-09 23:00:58 · answer #4 · answered by MARTHA D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must have gotten too close or he got caught on line with you and he wasn't suppose to be etc. All in all very suspicious behavior. I doubt you will ever get a explanation.
2006-12-09 23:00:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't fret. People get busy and wrapped up in day-to-day life. I'm sure he has a good explanation. Don't jump the gun before you know what's going on. Good luck!
2006-12-09 23:00:03 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is married and just wanted a tantalizing encounter and was afraid to come clean about it.
2006-12-09 22:59:18 · answer #7 · answered by John D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe his real life needed his attention.
2006-12-09 22:59:17 · answer #8 · answered by Phrosty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't hear from him again i'm available sweetie i'll make you feel like a queen and cherish you and your lovely body
2006-12-09 23:00:45 · answer #9 · answered by kerry p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but, to be blunt. No. He's an online friend. You may have though he was someone to care about, but nope. he's not. sorry.
2006-12-09 22:59:17 · answer #10 · answered by Casey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋