My g/f was raped a few months ago(not by me) and ever since then has only worn big baggy clothes that don't show off her hot body. Is this normal?? Why does she do this??She got consuling.
She reported the guy too.
Why does she do this?? Is it normal for people who were raped b4??
2006-12-09 14:29:06 · 11 answers · asked by Kiah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry, didn't realize the first one posted.
2006-12-09 14:29:47 · update #1
Why would she be this way?? Why isn't she ok with her body anymore?? She even wuit gymnastics so she wouldn't have to wear leotards anymore.
2006-12-09 14:32:07 · update #2
Does she blame herself and is trying to change herslef b/c of this??
2006-12-09 14:34:10 · update #3
Its normal. Shes prob. feeling insecure and doesnt want to draw attention to herself. Just try to help her through it. Im sorry for what happened to her, she just needs time and alot of love right now.
2006-12-09 14:34:08 · answer #1 · answered by citygirl22_1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just read your whole thing here.. what do you expect her to do.. she just got raped and she feels beyond violated, nothing is gonna be the same for her.. she had a big part of her person just taken away and now her mind does not know how to react to this.. the baggy clothes are so that she can hide herself and feel protected from outside things.. I wouldn't be surprised if she didn't shower at least 6 times a day or cry every 5 minutes... go with her to counseling and who cares if she wears baggy clothes, If that's gonna help her get through this without completely losing her mind, leave it alone please....
2006-12-09 14:46:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. She feels that if she wears normal clothes she will get raped again since it was probably why she got raped in the first place. The time right now is to get over the rape and keep moving forward. Don't tell her to wear sexy clothes (at this time right now) since she is probably trying to get through such a dramatic scene. She really needs your support right now so be with her, show her love, and don't check out hot girls in sexy clothes
2006-12-09 14:32:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
totally normal. she is scared. she thinks unconsiouly that it was her fault, maybe by the way she was dresses. she feels if she makes herself unattracted then no one would want her to rape her again. just be supportive because it is extreamy a tramatic experience. if u both are sexually active together dont get offended if she clams up or doesnt want to have sex either. she was violated in one of the most worst ways and needs time. she needs to learn how to trust again and u can help by showing her that u are there and all guys arnt like that. she is just scared
2006-12-09 14:38:56 · answer #4 · answered by goober 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 09:11:41 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to "Stephanie".Your girlfriend was in NO WAY responsible for what happened .She was a victim of some one with a very sick twisted mind.I hate it when women say stupid things.It looks bad on the rest of us.Be a shoulder for your girl to hold on to .Let her deal with this in her own way as long as she's getting counseling.It may take a while but she'll join the world again when she's healed.
2006-12-09 14:37:59 · answer #6 · answered by hippiegirl672003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has been seriously violated! Yes, it's normal. She does it because she is ashamed and thinks it was her fault. She may need more counseling. You can be supportive too. Encourage her. If there was a particular outfit you liked to see her in then tell her you miss seeing her in such a great outfit. Encourage her to get more counseling also. Most importantly. . . just be there.
2006-12-09 14:34:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she saw that a guy was attracted to her and got out of control. i think she is trying to keep it from happening again. she's being a little paranoied, which is TOTALLY normal. just be really nice to her, DONT ACT FLIRTY cuz she'll maybe think u wanna rape her to (just trust me here- shes freaking out) tell her she can call u if she ever feels scared/unhappy/uncomfortable etc. hopefully she'll relax again when she realizes that not all guys are total assholes that wanna rape girls
2006-12-09 14:36:19 · answer #8 · answered by Molly <3 CCL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea, its normal. she just doesnt want to get raped again. she will get over it and go back to her normal clothes sooner or later
2006-12-09 14:34:34 · answer #9 · answered by *~kirsti~* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must know that she has been through an awful time and please be kind to her. If she feels safer wearing bulky clothes, let her. She is probably feeling very self conscious about her damaged body, please respect this tough time she is facing.
2006-12-09 14:33:04 · answer #10 · answered by tcbtoday123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋