How to handle co worker?

Question

I am the manager of a small store one of the ladies says to the other worker that I am picking on her if I ask her to follow the rules of the company. She is trying to make me out to be the bad one when she is the one not wanting to follow the rules: everyone in the office talks I am getting tried of the problem how do you handle someone that is two faced to everyone: the main manager thinks she is wonderful (she is 59 years old and acts like a angel when the main manager is around) I have talked to the others and her but she makes out it is me not her that is the problem: I have been with the company 20 years she has 2 years I was tranfer to this office and her friend was trasfer out.

Answer 1

I have a similar problem with an employee, who used to be my coworker before I became her supervisor. she's a 2-faced liar and makes false accusations trying to make me look bad, including harassment! What I've been doing is making a note of everything. If that person is unprofessional, do not stoop to their level. keep following and enforcing all the rules. after a year of going through this, and of other employees thinking i was treating this person differently, finally her true colors are showing and now no one likes her and they have all apologized for having judged me in the past. she's close to termination thanks to the fact that I kept good notes of all the broken rules and examples of unprofessional behavior. People who are like that usually have psychological issues and they cant hide that forever.
good luck!

Answer 2

This is one of the reasons why I am my own boss- co workers can be very shallow minded and be complete back stabbers. Sit down with your managers and tell them that your co-workers are straight up lying. It may not make a difference in the climate in your office- but at least you can tell your side. Stay away from the ******* and start looking for another job, unless you don't work in close proximity you may be able to hack it for a while. I would never work in a place where I am uncomfortable. Life is too short for that BS. Good luck to you :-)

Answer 3

It is hard to adjust to a new office. You have all those years of experience and still in some ways you are the "NEW" kid on the block. It takes time for people to adjust to you. When she acts like that she is either adjusting and acting out some, OR she has real problems and if she does sooner or later it will be evident. Just stick to the company rules and treat her like you would a friend if she breaks some that you have to confront her about.
Try to find things you can commend her for when others are around. That will throw her off balance and she might come around. If she doesn't, she won't be able to say you are out to get her. GL.

Answer 4

Serious, if you are going to survive as a manager, you need to develope a thicker skin. There are always going to be employees like this- always. I once went to a seminar titled "how to handle difficult people". The jist of this seminar was that you can't change other people so you need to change your attitude where they are concerned. Perhaps you should call a team meating including your boss and all of the employees to voice their concerns and encourage them to come up with possible solutions to what problems may be weighing the team down. That way, when it's done in front of everybody, she won't be as likely to lie about your part in what is going on. If she doesn't speak up about what her problem is, then she will look like a trouble maker when she complains about you behind your back and wouldn't say it to your face. Just make sure you create some concerns of your own (don't make it obvious that it's about her) and some possible solutions. I don't actually know if that is very manager like, but if this is something that is bothering you, it's just a thought. Good Luck!

Answer 5

Have a meeting with her and your manager together and let her know you are only asking her to follow the policies of the company. Point out which rules she is breaking. After the meeting give her a paper copy of the meeting and what your expectations of her are. Let her know in the letter that any further
problems with her following the company policies will lead to further corrective action if not termination. Do not discuss any issues you have with her to any other employee unless it is the manager.

Answer 6

I suggest you have meetings to make the rules clear and why they are there. I would give a warning that those who do not follow the store rules will be given unpaid leave until they can comply or shortened hours. If that does not work I think you should fire her and get a cooperative worker who will work as a team member to make everyone successful.
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Answer 7

►Tell the manager what it is making you uncomfortable. Maybe he already knows how she is but also puts up with it. If your or your peers performances are affected by a squeaky wheel then its time for someone to oil it for the sake of the company and the loyal workers.

Answer 8

u have senority there. if talking to the main manager does not work, then have a chat with all of ur employees seperatly and let them know that if they ever have any problems to talk to either u or the main manager and tell u or him/her that she is being a problem. if there is enough complaints, somthing will HAVE to be said to her. there is no room in any business for week links.
good luck...

Answer 9

Just make sure that everyone is following the same rules and stick to them. Sounds like she could be fired if she continues to disobey them.

Answer 10

you don't mention where you are located
we could help you research your state's laws

I'd walk carefully
if I were in your shoes

you represent your company
get help from your company so that they do not get sued

it's all about money these days, isn't it?