ok theres this guy i really really love with all my heart and he really love me too. and i kno he does. we've had on and offs but its little things.we were going out and we broke up because he smokes weed and i dont like that. so he said that when he quits were gunna get back together. now were just fiends. very close friends we act as if were going out. but there's this girl that really likes him. and she asked him out and he said yes. but they broke up the next day. now he is still on my case. she still likes him and tells me she has a feeling there going to get back together. but then he says he loves me and he doesnt even pay attention to her. my friend said i should move on because one day he's going to hurt me badly because of the girl. should i move on or keep him and get back together? i really love him and i know he loves me. all his bestfriends say omg he really loves you and cares about you he always thinks about you and talks about you alot. what should i do?plz good advice
2006-12-09 14:21:44 · 17 answers · asked by {.:*jugurl*:.} 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should consider moving on. Your friend may love you, however, he doesn't love to the point of giving up a drug to be with you. You are hanging on to something that may never happen. You sound like a girl who knows what she wants (doesn't like drugs..nor a significant other who does), you should stick firm to that and find a man who feels the same way. Explain to the weed-head that you are going to move on. That will be his last ditch chance to change. If he doesn't, then you've saved yourself years of waiting.
2006-12-09 14:25:56 · answer #1 · answered by Talkstress 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If a guy is on the fence about a relationship or has to change to be in one (the weed thing) he is NOT the one to be with. When a guy really is into you, he won't have any excuses and won't want to be w/other girls. (I have asked other guys this.) And when someone has an addiction it will always be there. He can stop here and there but it will never go away. You deserve better. It may hurt now, but you need to go out w/girlfriends and have fun on you own and maybe Mr. Right Now will pop up when the time is right. He may love you, but not the way he should. Look to your future...
2006-12-09 14:28:51 · answer #2 · answered by pisces_piglet 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG!!! This just happened to me after being in a 3 1/2 year relationship. My bf would not give me any attention. It was focused all on his ((((SO CALLED FRIENDS)))). Anys, I left and ended up with his worst enemy. Not on purpose though. Then he ended up with his old gf from 6 years ago. We ended up together again. She would call him and call him and call him all the time, finally last night I looked on his phone to see if he was keeping in tough with her. Well, he was, and we broke up. If I were you, ;since he smokes pot and u dont like it, I would leave him, because 1 drug leads to another, and think about it. If 1 person does any kind of drugs, the relationship usually doesnt work out. His feelings about u r not true. as yours are for him. yours r from the heart, ;and his from the drugs. I would leave him. I am starting being single since last night. Good Luck!!!
2006-12-09 14:33:25 · answer #3 · answered by Bandice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you are accepting something you don't like. He smokes weed and you don't like it. Bad Mistake. Now he's probably back and forth between you and the other girl, I think your friend is telling you right. You can't say how he feels about you, you MUST KNOW how he feels about you. When you usually settle for a person and they are doing things you don't like, you are in for the BIG fall. Leave well enough alone while you can. He needs to clean up his act and if he loves you and himself enough he'll do it. Then he'll come back to you. Don't chase him or lose any sleep over it.
2006-12-09 14:31:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From past experience from my sister then 1st thing yuo need to help him stop smoking weed. Even though you wern't there in the begining when he started
smoking wee if you help him stop he'll realize that your what he wants in his life and then he'll do anything for you. I mean if he doesn't want to stop then there's no point of waiting for eternity becuz u'll go no where in life either you have a life too and should beable to live in it happily. So try to help him and 2ndly if you need anything i'm here for you email or instant message me i'll be here all night. Hope you do the right thing. It's a stupid saying but if you really love someone you have to let them go! I'm sorry it even hurts to say it but there's a point in life when you come to a the end and there's no turning around becuz u only can go forward. So best wishes on what you choose to do!
2006-12-09 14:30:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should stay with him, I have the same situation with my guys, he thinks about me all the time, and he said he would die for me, so if he says that he loves you that much, and his friends say the same thing. then I think you should wait for him to quit the weed, and get back together.
But be careful cause he may have probelms with his health later on in his life by the weed. It depends how long he has been smoking, so if you do choice to stay with him, try to get him off the weed ASAP, think about his health and his life, if you love him that much.
Good luck!
2006-12-09 14:31:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he dumped her after a day, he could do the same to you. I once (and feel really bad about it) went out with this guy 9 times in 2 weeks, just ebcause I knew i could. He really liked me, and i jsut kinda liked him. It was towards the end of school, and he liked me over the summer and we went out for a day in september. He houldnt be able to make you wait, just because he knows you will. You should try dating other people, and see how it feels. It also can take a long time to get over something like weed. By that time, you could be over him.
2006-12-09 14:26:54 · answer #7 · answered by Jillian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. First, he smokes weed. There's people who smoke that and people that don't want it. You won't be able to change him. That may come between you at some time. Second, if he likes somebody else and goes out with them, then why bother with him. Find somebody who wants to b with YOU!
2006-12-09 14:25:30 · answer #8 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok. This is a tough spot. If he's still doing drugs and you don't like it then drop him. ya i know its not easy. My fiancee broke up w/ me.( Before we got engaged) It tore me up. But n-e-ways. If he really loves you then he will stop the drugs get some help, & either you or him will tell the ***** that your together and she needs to backoff!!!!
2006-12-09 14:29:07 · answer #9 · answered by pop 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him to a shelter....try not to think about what is going to happen...... The shelter is more humane than just letting him go feral. If he has been a house cat for 6 years and you just let him go in the wild the other cats stand a very good chance of doing him in.
2016-05-23 01:00:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋