why am i feeling this way?
its not like i am a slot, i am actually the opposite, very right type of girl, i had my first sex experience at 21 , so why am i feeling like that?
why cant i have relationship wit this person, i only like him when we are in bed, when we are out of bed, i cant stand him
2006-12-09 14:19:33 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thats not right dude...
you just want *** but not a relationship
not cool...
2006-12-09 14:20:34 · answer #1 · answered by Brittany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know-- I thought I would say that this is not cool-- but really how many guys do you think would pull the same thing with you-- like 9 out of 10. If you want a F**K Buddy-- more power to ya. But you should tell him your not interested in a relationship, just a physical thing. If hes down, he will let you know-- if hes not he'll bail
good luck
2006-12-09 14:23:58 · answer #2 · answered by Kristen L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not the right guy for you. If sex is all you have, you don't have anything with this guy. You are better off being by yourself for awhile that going through the turmoil with this guy. Believe me, you probably aren't the only one that feels this way about this guy. Find some of his ex's, I'm sure they have the same story to tell as you.
2006-12-09 14:22:46 · answer #3 · answered by Martini Babee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like a situation similar to what I was in. I was dating this guy and I realized that when we were alone I really liked him, but any other time I did not have the same feelings for him. I broke up with him because I realized that me liking him was only because he satisfied my need to be wanted that every girl has and that I had no true feelings for him. I didn't really like him, just the way he made me feel about myself. Maybe it's the same in your case.
2006-12-09 14:25:41 · answer #4 · answered by lolly2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with wanting a person just for that. The wrong thing to do is to have them for only that and they don't feel the same way. If he doesn't want you just for sex like you want him then leave him alone.
2006-12-09 14:23:54 · answer #5 · answered by Chuck 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This just means that you can't stand to be in a relationship right now and perfer to have casual sex with no ties. Nothing wrong that as long as you use protection.
2006-12-09 14:29:46 · answer #6 · answered by Iileen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are either incredibly horny or addicted to sex, or you are dealing with some emotional anger or depression and get temporary relief by having sex. you may have self-esteem issues and get pleasure out of having sex with someone you don't like. could be some sort of negative re-enforcement.
bottom line, it is not good to have sex with someone you don't love.. that won't solve anything..
i'd suggest avoiding this guy completely and focus on finding a new boyfriend who you can learn to love and enjoy, both in and out of the bedroom.
2006-12-09 14:25:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with only wanting a "friends with benefits relationship" guys do it all the time to women...
to convince him... just tell him, look, I just want sex, I don't want to cuddle or talk about my problems or anything else... tell him that he will get the benefits of sex without the commitment or being tied down. :) you would be suprised at how many guys actually go for this!
2006-12-09 14:22:20 · answer #8 · answered by brown eyes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont listen to that guy, this is totally natural. Everyone has this happen at some time in your life. Some times you are just attracted to someone sexually and thats it, and thats ok. it just means you are human. Your body has needs that only sex can fix and i say go for it!!
2006-12-09 14:24:47 · answer #9 · answered by Papa V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be realistic if someone wanted to do that to you what would you say to it. I don't think its fair to him to do that . If he is not good out of bed then keeping him just because he is, is really a very impersonal way to behave towards him.
Don't use people in this way its really not very nice.
Find someone that you can treat nicely in both areas in and out of bed.
Think about his feelings as well as yours
2006-12-09 14:22:05 · answer #10 · answered by Spirit_Rain_3-SunShineAries 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want this kind of relationship you neet to be very carefull becuase it is hard to maintain first you need to discuss this with him be completly honest with him and if it seems like he can handle it go for it but at the very first sign of trouble break it off and honest communication is key here or option two find someone you do like and you can have a full relationship go with whatevere you need in your life right now
2006-12-09 14:24:27 · answer #11 · answered by Jason_55904 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋