How do I go about requesting this?

Question

I've been invited to a wedding and on the invitation, they've asked me to check pork or chicken. I'm a vegetarian. I know the couple but not really well so I'm not sure how to go about requesting a vegetarian dish or if it's proper to do so. At my cousins wedding, she had no problem accomodating me and I felt comfortable asking her. I also have a sever nut allergy (that was also accomodated at her wedding) and when I've gone out to eat, I let the kitchen staff know. I suppose I could just eat around the meat but I'll be drinking that night and need more then potatoes and veggies in my stomach and what about the nuts. I haven't attend that many functions where I've had this request. What do you suggest I do?

Answer 1

if you dont feel comfortable to tell the bride call the hotel or venue preparing the menu and tell them you will be attending but you would like to buy a veg meal an on the day go to one of the servers or manager that u talked to an tell them where u will be seated for your special meal

Answer 2

Not that I agree with it, but here's some info for wedding protocol from this web site:

http://www.pineapple-girl.com/rsvp.htm#menu

WHEN MENU PREFERENCE IS REQUESTED

Sometimes if the event is to be a seated dinner, the hosts will request your menu selection in advance so that they can give an accurate headcount to the caterer. That part of the response card might look something like this:

______ roast chicken ______ salmon meuniere

Or, something like this:

______ fish _______ beef _______ chicken

You could just make a check mark, but make your host's life easy: write a numeral in the appropriate space. If there are two or more attending, be sure you indicate enough preferences. If you just put an X in front of "beef", the hosts will assume that both of you want the beef.

Do not:

* Scribble comments about the menu choices, even in jest. "Where's the beef, ha ha ha" = not actually funny.

* Request something that is not on the card -- even if you keep kosher and the choices are pork or oysters... even if you have a terrible gluten allergy... even if you are doing South Beach Diet... even if you are vegan. Your options are strictly what is on the card.

* Leave the card blank. If you know that you will not be eating at the event, for whatever reason, just mark the vegetarian option or the chicken option (presumably the least expensive) and let it go. You can put your napkin on your lap and socialize with your dinner companions and not make a scene about the food. (and if you can't manage that, you should stay home)

Answer 3

Make sure to mention your nut allergy.Call and mention being vegetarian because there maybe a cheaper alternative than the meat and it is possible that one meal maybe a pasta or something where the meat could be left out if not pick chicken and grab something to eat before going and snack on the veggies and pawn off the meat someone at your table will take it.

Answer 4

The proper thing to do would be to contact the bride and just let her know. But don't make demands - just ask if she can accomodate your special dietary needs or should you bring your own dinner. Don't sound put off, just "I needed to know if......" Most caterers will accomodate your request without charging her extra and if her's won't, then by all means, bring some extra snack items/food for yourself:)

Answer 5

If you don't know them well, I wouldn't make a special request. I would just eat before you go to the wedding and hope that there is a salad or something else on the plate that you can eat.

Answer 6

You should just pack your own. You will probably just want to let the bride know that you are doing so because you have a severe nut allergy and not because you are trying to picky or rude.

Answer 7

Eat before you go. The bride and groom cannot be expected to cater to everyones eating habits. Do you know how difficult (and expensive) that would be for them? I think it would be very rude to accomodate special arrangements for you.

Answer 8

Bring your own food! You are the one with this food issues!
they have to feed lots of people, so just pick one item..eat what you can on the plate and eat your own stuff if your still hungry!
They have more important things to worry about at their wedding, then the one who don't eat meat and nuts!

Answer 9

i think that if u request it they be looking at u like yeah i dont reall know u to good and your requesting stuff well thats what id be think i think u should just eat before u go and just have acouple of snacks there

Answer 10

check either the pork or chicken, make sure you eat something substantial before you go.