Here's the scene: you are walking through the mall with one of your girlfriends. A single guy who is by himself and not with a friend notices you and is attracted to you and wants to meet you and get your number so he can meet you for coffee sometime. The guy is perfectly normal and single - he is NOT a stalker, psycho, or player.
Question: How would you like him to approach you? What would be the nicest or sweetest thing he could say to get you to feel comfortable with him enough to give him your telephone number - without making your friend feel jealous or bad that she was not the one "picked"?
2006-12-09 14:04:40 · 22 answers · asked by Chris C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Walk straight to her and tell her you find her attractive and start talking to her to see if she's interest in you. Then end the conversation with "I have to go to a meeting now but if you like to we can meet at later on at "The Coffee Shop" for coffee at this "Time". This way you'll know if she want to get to know you more or if she's going to say no to you straight up.
2006-12-09 14:26:53 · answer #1 · answered by Iileen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will have her head into shopping and talking with her girlfriend. So the first thing you need to do is for her to see you and for eye contact to happen… smile nicely at her. Then a little later, (not to much later of she will think you are a stalker) walk up to her. Don’t make a lot of hard eye contact… look down a little so you wont seem aggressive and so she wont feel put on the spot to much. Say “hey my name is Chris and I noticed you a few minutes ago and I know this is not very conventional… but is there anyway you might have an interest in meeting me for coffee sometime? I can give you my number if that would make you more comfortable?”
Don’t try a stupid cute pick up line… any girl with smarts will see through this. Just be honest and ask :)
2006-12-09 22:18:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think pick up lines don't work at all. I like it when a guy just starts up a normal conversation with me. Just a simple hi and smile. If she says hi back strike up a little convo. If not keep it moving. The thing about the friend make sure you say hi and are nice to her as well but give the girl that you like a little more attention. That way the friend doesn't feel like a third wheel and the girl you are interested see's how sweet you are for being nice to not only her but her friend as well.
2006-12-09 22:13:45 · answer #3 · answered by babeejazzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just walk up like a confident gentleman, smile at the friend as well as her.... and then ask her to have coffee with you sometime. If she says yes, make sure you tell her friend it was nice to meet her before you say goodbye and walk away.
The only faux pas is to ignore the friend while she stands there feeling left out and stupid. You can be a gentleman by greeting her friend as well.
Best Wishes,
Sue
2006-12-09 22:10:50 · answer #4 · answered by newbiegranny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be so sweet for a guy just to approach me and say "excuse me but I couldn't take my eyes off you. I just wanted you to know that you are beautiful and I just had to come over here and meet you." that should be the ticket or something to the effect. She should do the rest. If she's into you she'll offer up a phone number or even a myspace these days. :-P its a lot cuter than "can i get your numba huney!" lol.
2006-12-09 22:09:50 · answer #5 · answered by blueprint4dysfunctional_Phoenix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find an in such as oh she's ordered something so make a comment. . . hey that's really good i get that all the time, and give her your number don't ask for her's . . . smart girls are usually somewhat uncomfortable giving out their numbers to strangers but if you give her yours she'll feel more comfortable and be more apt to call. . . and as for saying hey i'm attracted to you. . . just tell the truth. . .it doesn't happen that much and the girl will appreciate it. . . pick up lines just give the feeling of hey i wan to get in your pants and are really cheesy. . . and hey as for the friend, not your concern just make sure you don't totally exclude her. . . after all if you end up dating this girl you want her friends to like you!
2006-12-09 22:14:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well hi, my names ______ i couldn't help but notice you. can i take you out for a coffee or tea sometime? is always a good place to start not creepy at all. as far as the friend i don't know girls have always been mean to me and people tell me it's cause they're jealous. i don't think theres anything you can do to not make them jealous with out making yourself look like a player or oddly victorian.
2006-12-09 22:12:51 · answer #7 · answered by Sida 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok... walk up and chat with both ladies, ask how their day is going and what their plans are for the day. Ask them both for a drink, lunch, coffee...something small & casual... if they accept then talk a little further and ask the girl for her number. If they decline then ask the girl if she'd give you her number and you take a "raincheck"... that should work. Good luck
2006-12-09 22:11:50 · answer #8 · answered by rayne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to break the ice would be for him to walk over to you and smile. You'll probably smile back (you'd be a pretty boring person if you didn't), then you can start talking. And who knows what will happen from there ;)
2006-12-09 22:17:32 · answer #9 · answered by kiwi_mum1966 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait until they are in a shop looking around and they split for a bit then approach her and tell her that she is beautiful and if you could give her a call sometime. That's what one guy did to me once and and I did end up Talking to him later.
2006-12-09 22:09:45 · answer #10 · answered by Ashlee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋