if i wasnt afraid of death i would have killed myself a while ago?

Question

im tired of being unhappy, im tired of having suicidal thoughts that i know i am too cowardly to act on. i dont want to go to a shrink. i dont want to tell my parents how i feel. i just want to enjoy life again and not have such morbid thoughts plague my mind. im only 16, im wasting the supposed "best years of my life". what would you do in this situation?

Answer 1

Let me start by telling you that your teenage years are soo far from the best years of your life it isn't even funny. I don't know why people say that. When I was a teenager, my response was usually something like "if these are the best years, I don't want to live to see the rest." and I meant it. I can tell you that there are better times comming. My health teacher told me that, and it is the only reason I decided to live through it.

Now, about the shrink. I know you say you don't want to see one, but they can give you medications that will help you to be happy again. I never thought that was possible until I started taking psych meds. Believe me, they work. Sometimes it takes a while to find the right ones, but don't give up. Since you are only 16, you will need to talk to your parents in order to see a shrink. I know you don't want to, but that is part of growing up. Sometimes you have to do things you don't want to do.

Answer 2

What would I do? I would of done what I wished I did when I was your age, I didn't do it til a few years later and it is something I never regretted..it was, getting help... admitting to others I needed help. Which are the two roughest things to do for most (sometimes the hardest things to do are the best things to do for us), once you take that step and get the help, you will be glad in the long run. Which I am not a pro and don't know you, so don't know if your depression is situational or medical. Usually if it is medical, I have been told it comes from the mother's side..passed down. But it is possible to feel better, but it won't happen by doing nothing. I started showing signs of depression at age 12, got help at age 19...I so wished I got help sooner, It wasn't easy but getting help and admitting I needed help was the best thing that I did. At least talk to your regular family doctor about it, what you tell him/her is kept confidental.
Eh, if you want I have a personal site on depression (www.geocities.com/angelmuzic78/depression.html )
But there are better ones out there, just do a google search..you are not alone in this (even though you might feel like it), many are effected with the same feelings.

Answer 3

If your that depressed chances are it is not going to go away on its own and if it does there is a larger chance of it returning. I'm afraid that it is not possible to have the best of both worlds in this situation. I can not tell you which side to pick, but I can tell you it is not fun hiding these emotions for years. I have been there and now regret it. If your parents trust you enough then you could just ask them to set up the appointment for you and let them know that you will tell them what is going on once you have had time to think it over. Another suggestion is to go see your guidence couselor in school, there may be a school psychologist as well. You may feel too cowardly to act on your thoughts now, but what will happen if your depression gets worse? It is hard to have fun and enjoy life when you are thinking about just the opposite.

Answer 4

What would I do? I would list out all the adults I knew on a piece of paper. One by one, I'd cross off names of people I did not want to tell. The last one is the person that I'd feel the most comfortable opening up to. Then I'd go to him or her and say "I need to tell you something..."

You are the one that holds the key to change.

TELL someone - the people that love you will get you some help. You don't need to hold things in and not tell anyone. If you don't want to tell your parents, tell someone else that you know. There's medicine that can help you.

Change something for the better each day - it must be something you have control over. At the moment, your thought process is a place to start. Think more positively about yourself. If you can do that alot, it will become a habit after awhile. Smile at yourself in the mirror - genuine smiles.

Christmas and Hannakah are coming up, give yourself a little present FROM THE HEART. Give yourself a card. Tape it up (or display it with the other family cards) so you see it every time you walk in the room.

You need to believe in yourself. Everyone else does. You have a lot of great things ahead of you. There's that wonderful guy you're going to marry and that wonderful baby you're going to have. Both will fill your heart will so much love, you will feel like you're going to burst. Do you want to miss that?

Answer 5

Unfortunately, I've been where you are now. I remember wondering why I felt so unmotivated, why nothing made me happy, why I constantly felt horrible inside. People would say "Hi How are you?" and all I could think is "do you really want to know?". I would suggest consulting a psychologist, but unless you are willing to discuss your issues honestly and openly, it will not help you. Do you have a close friend you can talk to or a teacher? One thing that helps me on my down days is to get outside in the sunshine. I also make a list everynight of 5 things I am grateful for. Sometimes its just that the sun shined that day. Please hang in there, things will get better. 16 is a hard age, you have so much to look forward to.

Answer 6

Sweetie ignore folks that have nothing but rude things to say okay. You are a beautiful young lady that has a chemical imbalance in your brain...this is what cause 95% of depression and suicidal thoughts. I have been there more times than I care to remember however, with my experience I can offer you support and information. I know you don't want to but you need to talk to your parents and a doctor to get on medicine ASAP. Once you are on the medicine your life will improve each day. Also may I suggest reading the book "The Secret" by Rhonda Byrne...fantastic read....((((Gentle Angel Hugs))))

Answer 7

I know you said you don't want to go to a shrink, so is there someone you can talk to? A trusted teacher or guidance counselor perhaps? School nurse, family friend? You need to talk to someone about this. Perhaps an on-line support group. That way you can remain virtually anonymous. Start with the website for the National Alliance on Mental Illness. There are some great resources there. There are also some wonderful books out there on depression. I've included a link to Amazon.com listing some good books for teens with depression. Please don't try to go this alone.

Answer 8

then stop surroundin ur self with ppl that make u feel angry, upset, jealous, fat, boring, ugly, or what ever the case might be. start with changin the negative points of ur life and only allow the positive around u..i know i use to be u. and now its different and another thing. when someone does or says something to u that u dont like confront them right then and there dont be nice and dont worry bout hurtin no ones feelings. suicide is an end. not a fix. i am a cutter , so i know. so do what i have told u and see what happens. dont worry bout whos feelings get hurt along the way. its bout u now not anyone else.

Answer 9

I was in the same situation a while ago. I just stopped myself and thought, why be like this? You're onnly gonna live this life once so yo might as well make the most of it, even if it is ****. Think about it. There must be people in a worse situation as yourself!

If you feel depressed and ever want to talk I'll be happy to help =]

Answer 10

I know how you feel. You have to find someone you can trust to open up to. You can also see a doctor about being on anti-depressents. I was on them from the time I was oh I think about 10-14 and they worked yet at the same time they didnt. I mean being on medication isnt gonna just make the problem go away all by itself. You have to put effort into it. Try to be happy and try to stay away from things and situations that make you feel unhappy or overwhelmed. I hope I helped...