Then I wasn't sure what to say about the mother who died (and had forgotten about that part before I started playing the movie) in the end. How can I make sure she doesn't develope insecurities about her father or I dying? I remembered it being a good movie that I watch at around 8 years old. No violence or anything bad.
2006-12-09 13:52:33 · 9 answers · asked by erinjl123456 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
fast forward through the scary or sad parts. go for it!
2006-12-09 13:57:08 · answer #1 · answered by maryfairy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple keep on doing what your doing . exposing your child to things that happen in life and are a part of life.
if you were to make a big deal out of this then the child will remember this not understand it but remember this for the rest of her life. if on the other hand you dont make any comment on the matter unless she asks you to then she will conitunue on her mary way .
the key to preventing a child from becoming over reactive to anything is for you to show a calm resonalbe responce to ever situation. most importantly things like death . if you and her were to find a person dead and you simply checked the person for signs of life and having found none you waited with the girl until the police and the coroner arrved and all the while you stayed calm calm does not mean not sheading a tear but instead just not becoming overly emontional then your child could go through such a thing with out any difficulty at all. the truth is always the best thing to tell your child so if she asked did the goose die you say yes. if she continues you continure to answer with the truth
providing her with just enough information to satisfy her at that moment .
i am sure that if you do this your daugther will grow up to be a person that could work in any sort of situation such as a doctor or nurse a medic or a factory worker all of this because you showed her that panic is not really worth while . calm rational thought that does not exclude emontion is best. the emontion is the part that over time she will learn to free when it is a suitable time for it.
i hope you and your family have a wonderfull life.
2006-12-09 14:51:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not remember what happens exactly in the movie.
But if it is of any help some times Geese get lost and return to the wrong location. I recently saw a documentary where the people that did that originally with geese were working with another group of migratory birds. If the birds lost the group, they would disappear and it would turn out they would turn up at a previous spot along the ride or if close enough they would return to the place they were born.
That's if you want to dodge the subject and act like she is lost, Now if you want to be realistic animals die all the :/ People lose pets, they lose loved ones,... and we eat birds... people eat geese for special events. She isn't coming back. The bird in the movie if depicted was later used as one of the other birds, because that's actting. In movies people die one minute and are up walking around the next. It's part of the desensitizeing experience. It's one of the more important things children/people must learn with movies. The bird is an Actor of sorts. Some times that's all they want to hear about (not that it's easy).
Good luck... :/
2006-12-09 14:11:26 · answer #3 · answered by sailortinkitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her come to you about concerns. Don't put ideas in her head. If she does come to you, only take the conversation as far as she seems to be going. Remind her it is only a movie. Tell her that no one knows what will happen in the future so you need to concentrate on now. Don't make promises that can't be kept - that would warp her worse than anything she would see in a movie.
2006-12-09 14:00:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
make sure that the kid know that you are a strong person , when he knows that this fear will go away.
some parent- kid activities where you prove that he can count on you will help it.
don't make the mistake again with this kind of movies.
i remember that when i had 8-9 years i saw the movie Dracula.
i couldn't sleep all the night , i was all wet and scared.
this remains like a trauma for kids.
2006-12-09 14:00:02 · answer #5 · answered by dexter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most kids movies do involve the loss of a parent: Bambi, Nemo, The Lion King, et al... So don't worry about it.
2006-12-09 18:40:29 · answer #6 · answered by LisaFlorida 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ohhhh fun movie!!! I loved that movie growing up...I think if you feel your child is mature enough then go ahead....If the movie is rated G then I don't see a problem... Might be too young still for PG....but hell what am I saying lol... one of my 5 yr old son's favorite movie is "Van Helsing"...
2006-12-09 14:08:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't say anything unless she asks.
If she DOES ask, you can say "Oh, honey, that was on TV. Not everybody's parents die. We're not dying anytime soon."
And don't bring it up again unless she does.
2006-12-09 13:59:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
while you have to sit down and talk to him
2006-12-09 13:59:49 · answer #9 · answered by MISS.CHRISBROWN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋