I like this girl I work with, but I'm pretty sure I screwed things up. I don't know if she likes me or if she's just really friendly. She hugged me once, and she talks to me all the time, but she's also mentioned before that it irritates her when guys always expect a girl wants to date them if they hang out together. She talks to other guys at work the same as she talks to me, but I think she talks to me a little more? We talk online, too, and she's asked me to go places with her about twice now.
I think I screwed up because I told her I had something to do both times. But the first time she wanted me to meet friends of hers because she thought I'd like them since they're writers and so am I. I didn't want to go somewhere just to meet her friends, and it was a long drive. It could have been awkward. The second time was to go see some local play I wanted to see. She asked me to go but I said I had something to do. She caught me off guard and I got nervous, plus I'm kinda broke now.
2006-12-09 13:41:49 · 12 answers · asked by Robot Attack 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you think she likes me or does she just want to be friends? What's going on here?
Would it work? I'm quiet and kinda shy, but she's outgoing and friendly. She'll talk to anybody and be nice about it. I really like her but would I get boring for her?
2006-12-09 13:43:12 · update #1
You are sending her mixed signals and she's going to get sick of it and move on.
2006-12-09 13:44:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead always asking you out, be a man and take the chance and ask her out. Right now she probably thinks that you don't want to be out with her outside of the office. If you are low on cash invite her over to your place for a dinner and a movie. Whats the worse that could happen if you ask her over? you know she will say yes, because she has asked you out two times already. so go for it and in the end yo will be happy.
2006-12-09 21:47:23 · answer #2 · answered by Ashlee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a woman, it strikes me that both times she invited you out, it was to things that were of interest to you, which shows that she's listening when you talk. I'm the same kind of girl as her, but if I extended those invites, it would definately mean I was interested! You may have injured her ego, but it's not too late. Think of something that she would love to do, but make it casual so she's not uncomfortable JUST IN CASE....If she declines, ask one more time, as she did you. AND DO IT SOON!
2006-12-09 21:47:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, mate, maybe you haven't screwed it up as you put it. It sounds like she doesn't know that you like her more than a friend, but if she's asked you out and you said you were busy, then you may have hurt her feelings.
I know its hard, but take her aside quietly one day, apologise profusely,maybe give her flowers or something, or maybe ask her online in relative privacy, and ask her out again. Tell her that you do like her, and wait and see what her reaction is. I think you'll be very surprised. Pleasantly.
Good luck, love.
2006-12-09 21:51:40 · answer #4 · answered by kiwi_mum1966 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She likes you - but who knows "how?" she likes you. Only way to find out is to spend some time with her. Since you already turned her down twice, it's your turn to ask her to do something. Only way you're going to figure out how she likes you is to get to know her better, by spending time with her away from work. You may have screwed up - but I doubt it. Just ask her out.
2006-12-09 21:47:06 · answer #5 · answered by RubyD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be a man and ask her out. Let her know that it is ok if she doesnt want to and either way you can be friends. If you already messed up...What is there to lose? Think about it...
2006-12-09 21:47:51 · answer #6 · answered by Ashley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her out. If you think you already screwed it up, you have nothing to lose. Just make sure you make it known that she can say no and you can remain friends.
2006-12-09 21:44:41 · answer #7 · answered by lclaws13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously.
2006-12-09 21:43:17 · answer #8 · answered by the_fallen_broken_angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should of been honest with her and just said you didn't want to go out with her to meet her friends. If you keep putting her off and not beeing honest with her, she will think you don't want to go out with her. Why can't you just be honest about it?
2006-12-09 21:48:14 · answer #9 · answered by CHEROKEE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She like you, but honestly i dont know cos its confusing, your stories. if you like her, why dont you go for a dinner w her and tell her?Ask how she feel too. Just get it over with mate...at least you wont be confuse anymore....
2006-12-09 21:45:30 · answer #10 · answered by AlisonJonshon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋