i've had 5 boyfriends in the past 3 weeks...one of them i had sex with, we only known each other for 3 months. but he dumped me because he didnt want sex anymore. I got so depressed that i went out searching for new love. They all failed..am I a whore? im only 17.
2006-12-09 13:33:28 · 58 answers · asked by Kris. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you have to ask the question then I would say yes. If you weren't a whore, you would know you weren't one. I say accept and embrace your promiscuity.
2006-12-09 13:36:50 · answer #1 · answered by D 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
how do you have 5 boyfriends in 3 weeks? what is your definition of "boyfriend?" these sound more like flings or one-night-stands if you ask me.
as far as whether or not you are a whore? well, technically, a whore is someone who sells sex for money.. you haven't mentioned anything here that indicates that money was involved.. so no, you are not a whore.
if you are looking for love, try not to focus on sex. find a guy you can just talk to and get to know better. love only happens when trust and respect have developed..
i'm depressed too. being lonely sucks, but you can't create love just by having sex..
2006-12-09 13:41:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're not a whore.
there are other things in life though besides sex and dating. Instead of concentrating on always finding new love, why not develop yourself a little more? Perfect your hobbies and talents.
Only reason I'm suggesting that is because I think you might be feeling bad about yourself since you asked this question. If your behavior is bothering you, maybe it's time for a change. But in the end, it's your body, it's your life, and no, you're not a whore.
2006-12-09 13:43:42 · answer #3 · answered by senoritadui 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are not a whore but you are not on a good path. You need help to understand your behavior. You should try to talk to your parents but I would not be surprised if that is not an option. In that case, turn to a school counselor. Just writing this question was a step in the right direction. Now, you need to have an honest discussion about this with a responsible adult. It will seem really hard, but once you start seeking help, the relief will be wonderful.
2006-12-09 13:39:23 · answer #4 · answered by mark3mcl2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so 2 boyfriends per week? AND your only 17?? sweetie slow down. i don't think your a whore. If i saw you on the street one day and you told me all of this, now I'm being honest here, I would think you were a kinda easy.
I'm really sorry to say that Hun. I'm sure your a really sweet person so don't jump into sex so fast ( 3 months is pretty fast) try dating someone who like you for you, not your body.
the best of luck!
And dont forget to have safe-sex!!
2006-12-09 13:39:17 · answer #5 · answered by Tya 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Naa... youre fine... btw email me sometime...
on a serious note... lets not worry about the 'labels' and make sure you're not gonna get urself into some trouble. It's not so much that you're being fast, its that you are too emotionally attached too easy, and desperately seeking for love.
1) Start putting your mind on other things like your future... you think you want love but youre actually just wanting to get approval, in this case from the opposite sex.
2) remember that you're a nice catch so let the boys get close so easily. Play hard to get... if you're easy boys will USE you
3) Be more picky... cant let just any guy date you... look at some of the facts about that guy... is he a player... does he treat you nicely... besides your emotions, what makes this guy worthy of you
2006-12-09 14:14:40 · answer #6 · answered by KC T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not! Why would you let yourself feel so bad as to ask such a question? You are looking for love and acceptance and who can fault you for that? Just being friends is all you need at your age. Don't get into sexual situations as that will not guarantee you the type of abiding love you need. Instead, love yourself first. You are apparently a sensitive person who needs to reserve your most precious self for those worthy of your caring nature. Make guys worthy of your friendship first. Don't give yourself away to anyone for anything. Protect your "self" and develop interests that make you feel good about your abilities. You have some hidden talent or interest, believe it!
Furthermore, don't project the results of negative relationships back on yourself. Share the blame! IT is NOT all of yours! My Best Wishes to you for a new direction in your life!
2006-12-09 13:45:17 · answer #7 · answered by PZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't think of yourself as a whore. But you do need to take it easy. Don't be having sex with every boyfriend, especially if you only knew him for only weeks. Guys pick up on this sort of thing, and the fact that one of your boyfriends dumped you because he got what he wanted, sex?! You really need to focus on obtaining some self esteem and self respect. I'm not trying to be rude, but you are heading down a dangerous path, one filled with possibilities of STD's and babies with several different men!
Take care of yourself!
2006-12-09 13:40:42 · answer #8 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you only had sex with 1 of them, then i would say no. It is human nature when we get hurt or breakup to try and find someone new right away to take away the pain. this is called a rebound relationship, and they very rarely work out.
The right thing to do is to wait until you are feeling better about yourself before you start dating again. it's on;y fair to everyone involved. Also. people might think you are a slut dating that many guys in such a short time.
2006-12-09 13:37:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please!!!!!!!!!!
Get help now. Your number one issue is low self-esteem. Your sexual behavior is a result of that problem. This is abnormal behavior.
You really need to examine your self worth and what plans you have for your life outside of boys. You need to Run Not Walk to a professional counselor. Try talking to a school counselor, parent or family friend to help you work through your feelings about yourself.
Make this move now, so that you can have better relationships with others and more importantly yourself in the future. You are setting yourself up for a lifetime of heart ache if you don't.
Good Luck:)
2006-12-09 13:42:30 · answer #10 · answered by Kim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not a whore you just feel rejected by one guy so you want to move on to the next one that will except you. I've been through that same situation when i was about your age. Also it's about self esteem knowing how to love yourself then not accepting just any random guy thats not about anything to feel that empty space of not having a guy.
2006-12-09 13:42:50 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋