its like when he is thrusting hard it hurts sooooo bad and it is even worse when he is thrusting hard with my legs wrapped around him. It feels great when he goes slow and deep. I've never had an orgasm EVER either. What do I do about the pain and getting an orgasm?
2006-12-09 13:30:26 · 8 answers · asked by cajun 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im 19 everyone... if you think you can help send me a message on yim (ragincajun2010)
2006-12-09 13:55:50 · update #1
He is probably hitting your cervix which can bruise... Some women are deeper than others... As far as never reaching an orgasm learn how to give your self an orgasm,, invest in some adult toys untill you know what works you won't be able to express it to your partner..
2006-12-09 13:38:22 · answer #1 · answered by susiefila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you describe it hurting sooooooo bad. I understand your 19.
First of all just like some men have bigger penises than other men women have shorter tracks and other women. That track is the distance between the opening in the cervix. The deeper the guy goes in the more his head has the potential to hit the top of the cervix. This can be excruciatingly painful…. unfortunate most guys fail to understand this.
You're not going to be able to reach orgasm with all this pain going on.
Going to a gynecologist would reaffirm if you have a short track. Also a Pap smear and other exam would rule out any problems.
After this then you can decide whether your boyfriend can work with you to help it not be painful and concentrate on bringing you pleasure. If he doesn't want to you need to move on.
You can e-mail me if you'd like more detailed techniques and ideas
Mark
Book Author – GirlsTellAll
2006-12-09 17:42:07 · answer #2 · answered by GirlsTellAll.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your gynecologist may be the best person to answer this. It depends on how big he is, how small you are. If you have never had an orgasm with him, then it could be that you need to look at your sex practices together. If you can have orgasms through other means (i.e. oral, self-play, hand jobs from him) then that too needs to be checked with your doctor. This could be as simple as poor technique by your partner or as serious as a medical problem that needs attention. You need to ask a medical expert.
2006-12-09 13:39:55 · answer #3 · answered by funwithu_007 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This question is better answered by your doctor who can explain the human anatomy related to sex. Briefly said, a lot of foreplay before intercourse would rouse both partners, and the female would generate enough natural lubricant to facilitate the act without pain. Orgasm also would be reached better. Ask your partner not to hurry to complete his act, but to thrust steadily and slowly. This would make sex more enjoyable and also make it last longer. Of course both of you would need to cultivate self-control to reach this stage of patience! Use of one's saliva on his organ has also been known to help reduce friction in the passage.
2006-12-09 13:39:33 · answer #4 · answered by greenhorn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is probably tearing your hole, and tell him to slow it down. The orgasm will come in time. If not see a doctor. Good luck.
2006-12-09 13:34:52 · answer #5 · answered by Tempest6768 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, how old are you?
And for orgasm, stimulate your clitoris while you have sex, for the pain it might be your hymen, or your still a bit tender down there.
2006-12-09 13:34:19 · answer #6 · answered by Soung 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you should tell him that it hurts you when he does that.he may be to big to thrust to hard.as far as orgasms,the both of you have to find that spot together, try different positions . if he cares about you at all he will do what it takes to please you.
2006-12-09 13:37:21 · answer #7 · answered by missya719 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Astroglide can be purchased at Walgreens
2006-12-09 13:46:23 · answer #8 · answered by senoritadui 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋