What is wrong with me??

Question

I always feel like people are either judging me or watching me, so that makes me nervous. My nervousness makes me stutter, bump into things, and feel uncontrollably uncomfortable. It's like they're stalking me, evaluating me, or comparing me to someone better. & I HATE when people stare at me.... Is this normal??

Answer 1

your just to self consious of everything around you. You need to try to control your feelings a little. Because at one time I was the same way. I finally told myself that if they don't like the way I look or act then its their problem not mine. And it helped me a whole lot to control my feelings about the situation. People are going to always judge other people and they will always think they are better. Their not!!! They put their pants on the same way we do and it doesn't make them better then us. Try to find your center being and then try to control your feelings about the situation. If not then I suggest that you seek professional help. There is nothing wrong in doing that. It will help!! Hope this helps you out.

Answer 2

Some people are stared at and some aren't. It's a mixed blessing. Growing up I was the short kid so I was picked on but when I would be out shopping; I would be totally ignored. But, my sister asked me a question one night. Why is it so easy for you to have friends when I can't have any. My sister had been teased most of her life for being overweight. I explained to her while she needs to be herself; she needed to lighten up and let other people do things. I guess what I am trying to say is that while you are self conscious about people staring at you; you can look at it two ways.

Either they are jealous or envious or you are just going through that awkward stage where it seems like everybody is rude.

Be yourself. Do what you like and if others don't like it; they will quit staring but just maybe they will join you in what you are doing.

Answer 3

See u have to some practice ,try to go out in the afternoon time when there is less people and feel that everybody is staringu and u do all bad walk badly dance at the time of walking, do all like put dupatta wrongly and see in eyes of other and do what ever what u want and become free and after doing this practice 4-7 times ,u will feel confident that there is no one outside who is staring at u ,b'se no body has time to see u and no one is worry how u r going what r u doning this way u improve ur confidence but 4-5 times u have to do all practice ,when there is less crowd and then u will mail me that u got the confidence. the fact is that no one is there who stare u ,no one is there who care u, see when we give lots of importance to us, that i am ,then only problem comes so try it and do what ever u want to do

Answer 4

To an extent it is normal. We all get nervous in front of others, and all want to please others. It is part of human nature. However, If what you have described is causing you turmoil or getting in the way of you enjoying things, maybe you should see a therapist. It possibly could be be social anxiety disorder (would need much more info to tell you if it was SAD). A few talk sessions may help you feel more comfortable and keep it under control.

Answer 5

I think everyone is a little self-conscious. Some are alot and some a little or even barely. That's why kids conform because they're worried about what people think about them. Then there are some kids who come in in whatever they feel like. Trust me. I go to a prep school in another country (Escuela Americana of El Salvador) and kids are snots and have ALOT of money (american taxes pay for me to get in $10,000.00 sorry! ^_^") but there is Jean's day here (when instead of a uniform get to wear jeans) and when that day comes everyone looks at my shoes, my hair, my shirt, my pants (which is jeans of corse) and they think im weird because I wear plain sneakers, t-shirt and a pony-tail. So don't worry 'bout what people think about you. Everyone is negitive about something but I'm sure there are plenty of good things about you and you just have to look for them. Besides, are you judging them too by think they care how you look???

I'm don't think I helped...^_^''

Answer 6

Act like a spaz and people will stare at you. Do you wear revealing clothing? do you have a weird hairdo? Do you have a lot of piercings? If you do you deserve to be stared at. Isn't that what you want. If you don't then ignore them. No one really cares about you. They care about themselves. Maybe you should realize you are not the center of attention all of the time.

Answer 7

For some people it is. Being shy, or self concious is a part of life, for some its a crippling problem. There are techniques that can help you get over this fear and do something to increase your self confidence. If you dont do it now you will spend your life unsure of yourself and it may effect your future happiness with your life. You only get one life so why not love it?

Answer 8

No, it is not normal to feel this way. You sound very self conscious for some reason.

Can you trace back when this first started? What was going on when it began?

I suggest you seek out a good counselor to help you deal with this.

Answer 9

Practice holding on tight and then letting go of your worry about judgementalism. Let em judge and change that part of yourself that you can if you want to. We were meant to be witnessed and judged. That is life, witness of life. Without witness there could be no evidence of life. You are lucky to be judged. Some people are completely ignored. Apparently people find you worthy of judgment. But it is normal to be uncomfortable about being judged , yes. Judge them compassionately that judge you and they will learn to do that to you too.

Answer 10

Chill out its Paranoia.
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par·a·noi·a /ˌpærəˈnɔɪə/ Pronunciation Key - [par-uh-noi-uh] noun 1. Psychiatry. a mental disorder characterized by systematized delusions and the projection of personal conflicts, which are ascribed to the supposed hostility of others, sometimes progressing to disturbances of consciousness and aggressive acts believed to be performed in self-defense or as a mission.
2. baseless or excessive suspicion of the motives of others.