I view it as I don't deserve it. I would view it as weird if someone loved me. I view myself as fat and ugly and undeserving, although everyone tells me otherwise. I have low self esteem and I am not trying to get it up. I am a teenager with a lot of rage. I am also afraid to ask a girl out because my parents would go and say "Oh, that's so cute" or crap like that. It embarasses me. I think it's ruining me. I would try to hide it from them and everyone else if I actually loved someone. My real problem is, what should I do about my parents? I don't want them to make a big deal about it.
2006-12-09 12:55:01 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
They're the only reason why I don't have a girlfriend.
2006-12-09 12:57:28 · update #1
Please!!!!!
Listen carefully. It would be great to have a girlfriend and a better relationship with your parents, but your number one priority should be to find out why this rage and low self-esteem exists.
I wish I could go back in time and address my anger and disconnection in relationships. Life would not be such a struggle for me if I tried to address my issues earlier.
I know it probably sounds crazy or impossible to you, but you really need to see a counselor. If not at your school, maybe you can say to your parents that you'd like to see one. If you can talk to them, try a relative you feel you can trust.
The beliefs you have about yourself and disconnection from your parents can lead to major depression or worse. Believe me, get help now.
Good luck :)
2006-12-09 13:12:46 · answer #1 · answered by Kim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I Don't Think You Should Let Your Parents Get In The Way Of Your Relationship With Someone Special. Besides, If You Never Find Someone, Who Will Be There For You When Your Parents Are Gone..Who's Going To Be There To Support You? Yeah, Your Family Of Course, But At Like 50, Your Chances Are Slimmer Than They Are At 15 Of Finding Someone For You.
And To Really Deal With The Problem, I Think You Should Talk To Your Parents About The Problem Because Truly, If You Guys Don't Communicate, This Will Be An Issue That Really Doesn't Get Resolved.
You May Be Scared To Be In A Relationship With Someone Because You've Been Hurt Or Maybe Been Scared Of Getting Hurt. Or Maybe Your Parents Are Causing The Problem!
Either Way It Goes, I Hope You Find Someone Special!
2006-12-09 13:01:05 · answer #2 · answered by ILY♥!! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Darling, you need to look in the mirror and whole heartedly learn how to accept yourself for what you are. Change can be tough - but if you don't like the person staring back at you in the mirror figure out ways in which you can make positive changes to improve confidence, self esteem and security. You do deserve love - and the girl that is meant to marry you deserves to have you. Learn to control the rage - it will make for a bad addition (personality wise) to a relationship. As for your parents, you need to show them subtly that you are becoming a man (find a job, volunteer work, picking up slack around the house) they will treat you like one.
2006-12-09 13:00:49 · answer #3 · answered by Sasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am an older woman, very confident and get on really well with people and have some good friends, yet when people say how nice I am and how well liked I am, I find it really bothers me in a negative way. I just wish people would not say nice things to me and I do not for the life of me understand why.
2015-05-04 09:14:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you view about your parents as embarrassing, a girlfriend might think it is cute or that they are cool parents....So not worry about your parents, any girl you date, is dating you and not them..As for your parents ruining you...I do not think so...They just love you...maybe you should tell them how you feel about all this..I know....you feel you cannot talk to them...but that is what they are there for...
Everyone is worthy of love...That includes you whether you want to believe it or not.
2006-12-09 13:00:13 · answer #5 · answered by Mechelle C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rage? Go to a fighting sport or something...let that rage go...But dont go and hurt anyone...After thats done...you will feel releaved...Then go out and date...ignore your parents comments.Have fun...and tell what you say here to your best friend or parents or something that cares about you.They will help you.
Your parents love you...so they are teasing a bit...go and ask them what they did when they were your age...you will hear some funny things and even maybe even notish similar events.
2006-12-09 13:02:08 · answer #6 · answered by nepgertje 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since a long time in the past, folks have looked for the that means of affection. But even the fine philosophers, with their profound definitions, would no longer utterly contact its real essence. In a survey of four-eight yr olds, youngsters percentage their perspectives on love.
2016-09-03 09:20:18 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do deserve love and many things. I feel the same way but I rather face my fears and not hide. if you feel you deserve good things go for it. But dot act like you dont deserve it dont let your parents bother you. Just be your self.
2006-12-09 13:00:23 · answer #8 · answered by Alice223 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about what folks say about u. people are going to say things to make u look down so u should think of positive things about yourself. i'm sure someone will find u attrative some how. just keep good thoughts and everything will be fine.
2006-12-09 13:00:21 · answer #9 · answered by Alicia-brandon15 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need more self-esteem man, It might be hard but you have to accept yourself.
And who cares about what your parents think? Ignore em'
At least you are with someone who likes you and wants what you want
2006-12-09 12:58:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋