Is it bad to be this worried about my boyfriend?

Question

My i lost my dad, step-dad, and my ex....to other women. Is it bad to be sooo worried about my boyfriend that i have dated since the 16th of November? His friend assures me that my bf cares alot...but i just cant like him as much as i want to....i keep thinking if i dont fall in love, i wont get hurt, again. I really hoped that this wouldnt happen and that i wont be so stupid, but apperently, i am. So is it bad to be ready for him to leave me?

Answer 1

While it is natural for you to be suspicious of him,or any man for that matter,you will never find the man that makes you happy if you don't put you heart on the line to get stepped on/broken. Falling in Love can be painful there is no way around it.

Answer 2

You haven't dealt with your ex who cheated. Start with looking back at the relationship and at the signs, gut feelings, and other things you ignored that were telling you that he was cheating. Usually a person knows if the other is faithful or not by their behavior, but we don't always want to see the truth because then we have to make a decision whether to put up with denial or acting on what we know. Some people are really afraid of being single and unattached, so they tell themselves everything is ok when it is not. You have to deal with this so you can treat this new guy fair, otherwise you will judge him by your ex's behavior.

Answer 3

It is called confusion, not stupidity. You probably felt lonely because of the lack of male interaction in your life. You were using this poor guy as an emotional filler. Tell him your true feelings as soon as possible, do not worry about the pain, he will get over it. It is better doing it soon, rather than dragging him through the incomprehensible pit of hell, like my ex did with me.

Answer 4

yup it is bad. you need to see a coucilor and work through this stuff. You'll never be happy if you don't.