My family hasn't met her yet because we just started going out. I'm white and most of my family happens to be racist. What do I do?
2006-12-09 12:15:39 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you are not thinking about marriage with her don't even take her to meet your family, but if you are thinking to marry her you have to think about many many things. Your family IS NEVER going to accept her...racist people think they're right. I don't think there is going to be a easy answer but I can tell you that I'm Hispanic and I'm married with a white guy. His mother is racist and always made comments about my heritage...we talk to her but she never change. Everything was OK but things got ugly when we had kids because the racism doesn't stop...just gets worst. I had to protect my family and now I don't see my mother in law at all, I don't visit with her and i don't let my kids to go to visit ...that hurts but that is the only way. So.talk to your girl about it...you may have to do the same thing as I did...to separate completely from your family and I don't know if you and your girl are willing to do it. Think about it please, don't rush things, be honest with her and good luck.
2006-12-09 13:59:10 · answer #1 · answered by dandelion 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got some problem
I used to have a white boyfriend and his family wouldn't fully accept me.
I'm born form black and white parents and I hate is when views about races clash..
I was at target setting day and his mom met my dad, when she turned around as we were leaving she said ''at least she has some white part of her.''
We fell out after three moths because his mom was heating up but mainly because we were falling apart. It is not easy choosing between family and your other life. Good luck
2006-12-09 20:23:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
...wow that's a bad situation but well first why don't you talk to family before meeting her explain why you like her explain all the great things about her show them a PICTURE first! and why she makes you happy, ur families NOT going to like it belive that now it might not be pretty. but tell themif they love you and they know that ur good then shuldn't ur pick be good. and your a grownup you have your decisions.oh and make sure ur girlfriend knows that they're racist nn see wut she says good luck muchh love.happy holidays!
oh and
i'm glad your not a racist
2006-12-09 20:22:20 · answer #3 · answered by OhMyWordits That CUTiE<3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Warn her and ask her not to respond if they say anything... and to let you handle them. Then you need to handle them if they say anything.
But you do need to introduce her eventually. It might also help if you get a picture of her... and show it to your family before you bring her in.... don't say she's another race.... Let the picture show it and just talk about how great she is!
Best Wishes,
Sue
2006-12-09 20:19:22 · answer #4 · answered by newbiegranny 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if ya really care about her..then what you're family thinks shouldn't matter. You need to let them know that this is for real and you need they're support whether they like it or not. Its hard I'm white and my fiance is Dominican.
2006-12-09 20:20:08 · answer #5 · answered by Nicole M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best approach is to let your parents know before she meets them and then see how they will react. Then let them know what kind of person she is and why you like her, and that you would like for them to meet her and bring her on if you think it's safe.
2006-12-09 20:22:28 · answer #6 · answered by MaRuCa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch!That's sad what country she's from(her family).Look it dosen't matter if your girlfriend is another race just tell your famliy.
2006-12-09 20:23:47 · answer #7 · answered by Vanilla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand up to your family !
2006-12-09 20:19:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
make sure they're in a good mood and tell them. do that instead of just bringing her over and having them freak out. then if they're ok with it, you don't have to hide her. don't worry too much. my dad is racist but i would date a minority if i wanted to, he'd just have to deal with it.
2006-12-09 20:18:27 · answer #9 · answered by painfully_average 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they do meet her, make sure you defend her, because no girl wants to go out with a guy who can't defend them, and is afraid to stand up.
2006-12-09 20:17:57 · answer #10 · answered by deal 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋